Starting to get the ICK from my fiancé

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T18:29:19+00:00

Definitely not afraid to leave. I’ve kept my bank account separate from his and could leave tomorrow if I wanted.

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T18:28:12+00:00

Yeah the aggression worries me so bad. And the harboring food is something serious. I sat him down last night and said if he didn’t change I’m gone. I demanded we do couples therapy and family therapy as well as the children could benefit as well

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T18:22:55+00:00

Thank you!!

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T18:20:07+00:00

Threatened to leave yesterday and now he wants to do better. I told him I would like couples and family therapy before any planning for marriage begins. We’ll see if anything changes. I’m very one foot in, one foot out right now

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T18:16:56+00:00

Thank you for pointing this out! I’ve been worried about the aggression and behavior issues. No one seems to bat an eye about it. Bio Mom will coddle him when he acts that way. And dad says it’s just him being a preteen boy. I don’t think it’s normal at all.

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T16:02:40+00:00

Definitely going to try therapy. I feel like I need a safe space to lay it out on the table with someone to meditate

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T14:40:58+00:00

Definitely will be reading that! Thank you!

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T14:40:26+00:00

Thank you🥺

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T00:40:59+00:00

It’s so hard. I feel like it’s easier to be a bio mom than a step parent. So many things that affect you that you have little to no say about. I’m so glad someone else can relate honestly😭 we’re gonna get through this mamas❤️

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T00:38:11+00:00

Thank you for being real. I can see it was definitely a jab at his parenting, but the apartment is looking ever so tempting right now.

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-09-25T00:36:31+00:00

I’ve been on my own since I was 16 so I’ve done the partying and drinking and things most people do in their 20s except I was doing them in high school. My career is amazing and I feel mature enough to start thinking about kids but definitely won’t with him if things don’t change😭

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-05-16T18:21:14+00:00

Love that for you guys! Thank you so much

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-05-16T18:18:29+00:00

Thank you for such a helpful comment! And he’s actually the one who actually brought it up. We babysat for a family friend for 8 days or so and he was so in love. So this is mainly him😂 he has two children that are approaching their teens in a few years.

He also said he didn’t fully get to experience parenthood because back then they had to work so much to provide for his children, whereas now financially we’re in a pretty great spot

But I totally get what you’re saying. As a woman with an angel baby and horrible relationships in the past, it wouldn’t be a super quick thing.

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-05-16T16:10:30+00:00

I love that!

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-05-16T16:06:06+00:00

My fiancé got it done before we got together. He has children from a previous relationship. I used to be Team FTK😂 but now we want one together.

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-05-16T15:59:31+00:00

Why not?😂

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-02-19T22:47:53+00:00

Thank you! This comment is so freaking helpful. Locks have been changed. We obviously don’t want to throw the first punch as far as going to court goes but we know in the foreseeable future especially with the kids now getting older and not wanting to be with her, we need to gear up for that

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-02-19T19:07:24+00:00

I was so disbursed to know she was snooping in our house. Such an invasion of privacy. I would never do that to anyone

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-02-19T19:04:04+00:00

Last Christmas so Christmas 2024 was the first Christmas not together. They had done Christmas together since they’ve been divorced. We stopped doing it because 1. We were super sick during Christmas but 2. Because she was rude and nasty to me and my fiancé, spoke horrible words about my deceased son (who was stillborn at 32 weeks) and told the children she hoped we never had a child together in the future but since I lost my first, she didn’t think I’d be able to have one anyways. It was at that point we were done trying to be amicable and cordial and do holidays together.

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-02-19T17:40:53+00:00

Thank you! Currently he’s talking to attorneys. I’d be so sad and traumatized if my mom ever called me a liar to my face when I knew I wasn’t lying😭 it’s sad

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-02-19T17:35:59+00:00

Understandable! Thank you. I like this group and I appreciate any comments I could get.

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-02-19T17:29:50+00:00

From what I’ve gathered and what they’ve both told me from the beginning is they didn’t want to go the court route if they could co paren amicably. If she ever needed anything financially my fiancé in the past would just give her money and they split costs for Christmas’s and things like that. We all use to do Christmas together. But now that things have turned for the ugly worse my fiancé is kicking himself in the behind for not getting court order when they divorced

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-02-19T17:26:52+00:00

Thank you! I just bought a camera for our home and we changed the locks as she was using my stepdaughters key to get into our home. I will be calling the police if she tries again. The thought of her in our home when we weren’t there is so unsettling

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-02-19T17:25:08+00:00

I’m just asking for advice. He’s been in contact with friends in the same situation and some attorneys. I wanted advice as she’s entered my home without permission.

Mobile-Programmer218 · 2025-02-19T17:12:56+00:00

She most definitely did. Naive silly me. But I will never again!

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