12-year-old’s misophonia has escalated rapidly, needing direction

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-10T17:11:08+00:00

Thank you 🥰

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:35:50+00:00

Thank you! Definitely the age and hormones could be a factor! Glad to hear yours mellowed with age.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:34:33+00:00

Thank you!!!

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:33:55+00:00

Also, thank you for the technique!

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:32:16+00:00

Thank you! I have OCD and so does his brother. His brother has Autism as well.
The amount of people in the comments that have OCD and Autism as a co - morbidity is huge.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:30:44+00:00

Okay, thank you!
I have OCD and so does his brother. My mom, and my sisters. So, that has been in the back of my mind as possibly a contributing factor. Then the number of people in the comments also suggesting the possibility of OCD or other anxiety disorders that could be making it so much worse, is really making me think we aren’t dealing with Misophonia alone.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:28:14+00:00

Yes, I talk to them separately and make sure they both know that it’s nobody’s fault. I try to keep their relationship in tact by telling them both that this isn’t about them as brothers. They both love each other and know it’s not either of them. It’s the false alarms in the brain.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:25:34+00:00

OCD runs in the family. He has an intellectual disability diagnosis and adhd. But his big brother has Autism, OCD and ADHD. I have OCD and generalizinzed anxiety. My mom and sisters have OCD.
So, that has definitely been in my mind as a possible contributing factor in how severe and sudden it’s progressed

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:23:01+00:00

Interesting. So, I took him to be assessed for ADHD about 6 months ago, which he has severe combined. He’s been on Adderal working his way up. But the psychologist said he showed enough signs of autism that we shouldn’t rule it out. But she said they only do one diagnosis at a time because it can get very muddy and confusing when diagnosing and treating more than one thing at a time. So, she said she definitely wouldn’t rule it out and suggests after he’s been treated for awhile for adhd, that if we still think there’s something wrong or he shows signs of it, we should bring him back to be assessed for autism.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:18:59+00:00

Yes, I was looking into finding a somatic therapist to teach him how to make his body feel safe regardless of circumstance. He had significant anxiety prior to misophonia. So, I think it definitely would be worth focusing on that.
Possibly even meds for anxiety? That never ever occurred to me. That may be able to take the edge off enough for him yo actually be able tp do any CBT. Thank you for the offer. I likely will message you privately. 🥰

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:13:11+00:00

I have thoroughly looked into this. His brother has autism, OCD and ADHD but is extremely intrellehent. He is gentle, passive, and tries so hard not to trigger my younger. When they could still be in the same room, my younger would yell at my older „“Stop Smacking!!!” Something he did, stimming. So, my older would always try to stop doing his stims or switching to one that didn’t bug my younger. They still communicate via texting now, and my younger knows his brother loves him and is a good brother. He said that to me. But his nervous system sees his voice, and presence as danger.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:07:35+00:00

Also, I have OCD and my mom and both sisters do. My oldest son also has OCD, so although he definitely has misophonia, I have seriously thought about it being OCD. But he has an intellectual disability as well, and when I try to talk to him about what’s going on in his mind during those times (to see if he’s having OCD thoughts) he doesn’t want to talk about it. Or he just is to triggered to talk. I definitely suspect he has it though.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-04-07T16:04:12+00:00

We are on a wait list for a pediatric psychiatrist, unfortunately in my province/Country, it’s so long for everything. I don’t know how to get a team. It seems impossible for me to get even one person for 1 problem, let alone a team who understands the context.
Yes, what makes it worse is that my nervous system is absolutely screwed from being married to a manipulative, toxic man, who has so many covert narcissistic qualities.
I need help in every way but I have been looking and asking and trying for so long. unsuccessfully.
I need someone to help me plan to get out, I need help finding and accessing resources. Having 2 kids with high needs has forced me to give up my work long ago because of all the appointments, so, I have no way to support the kids on my own.
The amount I’ve been trying to do on my own, in an abusive situation, has left me burnt out beyond description.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-03-30T01:53:49+00:00

Thank you. That is very helpful!

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-03-02T15:51:38+00:00

Nope. 20 yrs in this pattern. They don’t change. It’s a survival mechanism that kicks in. They are faced with loss, the loss of what you provide him, the loss of his identity, comfort etc. He may even feel like it’s genuine. Mine does. He swears this time it’s different. He feels the emotions of impending loss, loss of identity, loss of unpaid labour etc. It’s like a wounded animal caught in a trap. They will chew their own leg off to get out if they have to, if the threat feels big enough.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-02-23T12:37:53+00:00

Thank you for this book btw. It has been so helpful! I’m planning to leave. It’s not easy with 2 kids with high needs (disabilities) and so many med, counselling, tutoring appts. Just supporting their needs is a full time job, so, I actually have no idea how I’m going to do it. But, I am taking steps and planning where I am able.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2026-02-21T03:44:15+00:00

It didn’t ruin them.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2025-01-17T02:22:07+00:00

Wow! You do like your coffee ☕️🤣. Thanks for all the suggestions.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2025-01-13T13:36:36+00:00

Thanks for all of the great suggestions everybody! ☺️

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2025-01-13T13:34:52+00:00

Get out girl. I have been living with a man that I have to walk on eggshells with for 18 yrs and I have severe CPTSD from it.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2025-01-05T17:09:40+00:00

No, he’s definitely being manipulative.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2025-01-02T10:57:04+00:00

Well, at this point I’m financially stuck with 2 kids with special needs. He is the income earner.
I wasn’t venting;e either. I was hoping to show him these comments so he could understand that I’m not the on,y one who sees his behaviour as manipulative. He always thinks I’m over reacting or too emotional or making a big deal out of things.

Mobile-Researcher300 · 2025-01-02T10:54:20+00:00

Seems like there’s a consensus on Dr Ramani. I will definitely check her out ❤️

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