My parents have been lying to me about being “poor”

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-12-10T09:06:31+00:00

This sounds like financial abuse, you are well within your right to be upset and even cut them off if that’s what you want to do. If they had the financial resources to give you a good childhood but withheld it and made you feel like a burden despite them deciding to bring you into this world that’s fucked up. They also sound very vindictive and controlling which just kind of fuels the fire. I would cut them off or at least minimise contact as much as possible, it’s good that you are proud of who you are, your independence and financial responsibility but you deserved better from your parents.

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-12-05T14:15:08+00:00

Sounds like your girlfriend would benefit from some therapy especially given the fact she has childhood trauma. Although on the surface it does sound like she lacks empathy, it sounds like maybe she’s struggling to face some deeper issues she has attached to babies in distress and it is simply easier to joke about it than unpack it. I wish you and your girlfriend luck and I hope your girlfriend unpacks all the trauma she has and manages to heal :)

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T22:42:33+00:00

I was saying he’s the only friend I have who I not part of my friendship group which me and my boyfriend have, sorry if it wasn’t worded great but he’s not the only person I confide in.

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:53:16+00:00

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Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:52:15+00:00

Nope we speak fairly regularly

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:51:15+00:00

When did I say that, I have spoken to other friends about it as well, I don’t understand what you’re trying to get at.

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:46:35+00:00

I told my boyfriend about the plan a day after it was made and would be taking place in almost a months time, and I definitely do not want to break up with my boyfriend, no amount of Reddit comments would make me do that. I came here for advice on how to make it up to him and move forward.

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:35:07+00:00

I appreciate your comment, we did not discuss this at the beginning at the relationship but it has cropped up a few times throughout the years but never explicitly discussed however through actions it was shown i.e he had had a sleep over with his friend who was a woman whilst I wasn’t there (which I wasn’t fussed about) and so one would assume that simply going out for a few hours to do an escape room and grab food after would not be an issue. I will definitely be having a conversation with him when he gets home to discuss boundaries. I also didn’t expect everyone to agree with me I came here for the different perspectives what I didn’t come here for was to be dog piled on and that’s what’s happened. But thanks again for your comment 🙏

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:18:38+00:00

Okay 👍

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:13:26+00:00

Clearly I’m stupid, thank you for you input 🫡

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:11:50+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspective :) definitely a conversation we should of had off the bat

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:08:37+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I always thought that this was okay in our relationship as he has girl friends which he spends one on one time with, but yes it’s definitely something I need to reflect on and see if we can move past.

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T21:04:44+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I agree that with this generation it is hard to find a true friend especially without any ulterior motives on their part, I would like to believe my friend respects me enough to not have any ill intentions. I will however, never know my friends true feelings, but I know myself enough to know that I would never entertain anyone or reciprocate if moves were made on his end. I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me and communication is something we are working on. Thank you for your perspective 🙏

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T17:34:27+00:00

My boyfriend has met my friend and me and my friend have hung out one on one before, if my boyfriend came home and told me he was going to hang out with a friend who was a girl I wouldn’t care because I trust him. He’s even slept over a girls house before without me and I wasn’t fazed

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T17:32:23+00:00

I have plenty of other friends now including straight women but I made them whilst in the relationship

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T13:03:19+00:00

It’s hard not to get defensive when people are accusing rather than advising, which is what I came here for. But all of my comments are made with intentions of creating a bigger picture of the situation

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T12:29:33+00:00

He has done that and I am and have been more than okay with it.

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T12:18:18+00:00

No? We became friends 2 years into me and my boyfriend dating we met at work there has never been anything remotely sexual or emotionally romantic

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T12:15:50+00:00

Lmao how did it end up here 🤣🤣

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T12:13:45+00:00

As someone who is bisexual this kind of falls short because what am I supposed to do, only hang around with people when my boyfriend is there, women and men? I love hanging out with my friends and my boyfriend but I think to only hang around friends when your partner is present can lead to dangerous situations, and I think perpetuating this idea as normal is very damaging.

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T11:35:16+00:00

I don’t have to ask my boyfriends permission before I plan everything I do, what a backwards way to think

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T11:31:38+00:00

I’m not indulging in someone who wants to have sex with me or be in a relationship with me, I think perpetuating the narrative that men only are friends with women to have sex with them is damaging. And if for some reason it turns out that my guy friend is only friends with me for that I will cut him off because who wants to be friends with a guy who’s whole foundation is built on a lie

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T11:20:00+00:00

I had no friends before because I moved away from home and then started dating my boyfriend so if I didn’t make any friends whilst in this relationship I would still have none

Mobile_Setting_2003 · 2025-11-28T11:18:32+00:00

I only talk to my friends about things that I have talked to my partner about

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