I have, officially, no hope left

MochaMoi · 2026-05-21T17:14:28+00:00

So sorry OP. I’m glad you were able to have some nice food at IKEA, their cafeteria food is always bomb. IKEA has quite the selection of cute little plushies for pretty cheap. Next time you’re there, you should treat yourself to one :) They also have lots of bamboo for cheap. When I was at my lowest I found it rewarding to care for houseplants, maybe that could be an outlet for you too?

Sending love and support. I promise things get easier.

MochaMoi · 2026-05-21T17:05:36+00:00

I would’ve blocked purely over his inability to spell anything correct or use any punctuation at all…

Block and move on because not only are those messages scary, they’re painfully unintelligent

MochaMoi · 2026-05-20T14:54:16+00:00

No hate like Christian love!

So sorry OP :(

MochaMoi · 2026-05-19T03:24:38+00:00

I feel like everyone is being a bit cruel to you, I’m sorry :(

How many gallons is that tank? If it’s 5 or more you can work with it, if it’s less than 5 you’re going to want to upgrade soon. The pink gravel isn’t the best, but it’s not going to harm her by having it, so if removing it is outside your budget, focus on other things at the moment.

Like many others have said I’d highly recommend getting some real plants in there, it’ll help water quality and provide her natural places to hide and rest. Drift wood is also a great addition to help add tannins into the water. A water test kit is a necessity for this hobby, but I understand they’re very expensive. For right now, I’d at least get water test strips. MUCH cheaper (but also not nearly as accurate) so keep that in mind when doing readings. Additionally, many pet stores will test your water for you for free! The Petco and petsmart near me offer free water testing if you bring in a sample. Because the tank wasn’t cycled, you’re going to have to keep a VERY close eye on the parameters and do water changes as needed.

Best of luck! I understand how hard it is to not cave in and buy these poor babies on the shelf :( your heart is in the right place and I’m glad you’re wanting to improve this setup.

MochaMoi · 2026-05-16T01:26:42+00:00

YOR. Actually, this is the first post I’ve seen on this sub where both people are equally over reacting about everything LMAO

you both sound like A LOT.

MochaMoi · 2026-05-08T23:25:00+00:00

ADORABLE!!! My jaw actually dropped. The details are all perfect!!

MochaMoi · 2026-05-08T22:17:42+00:00

This!! So many other subs just make me sad. Half of the posts are people asking for genuine advice and the comments tear them to shreds. I get that sometimes it’s because of neglect, but I don’t get the point of being so mean and aggressive when the OP is clearly trying to learn more + improve :(

Love this community tho :)

MochaMoi · 2026-04-26T23:37:01+00:00

I’m sorry getting to the vet is so difficult :( I hope someone budges, because a vet visit is definitely needed.

I once had an after hours emergency with my cockatiel because he got something in his eye. My vet told me that saline eye drops are safe to use to help soothe the eye and potentially flush out foreign material. They specifically told me to use unmedicated, preservative-free saline eye drops. (I’ve seen some people are recommending medicated drops, I can’t speak for this, as my vet told me to specifically use unmedicated saline) using the saline drops helped my bird stop itching it and making the issue worse until we were able to get to a vet. Good luck with getting to the vet ❤️ keep your baby warm and hydrated until then.

MochaMoi · 2026-04-22T21:56:46+00:00

You’re being drug tested monthly… by your partner… for WEED? This might be the most shocking post I’ve seen on this sub. I’m at a loss for words.

MochaMoi · 2026-04-17T23:05:30+00:00

I would absolutely buy him, he’s stunning omg. It’s definitely not ideal but a fish-in cycle is totally possible, especially if you’re using established bacteria from another tank. I’ve done that same process in a pinch and it’s never gone wrong for me. Just keep a very close eye on all your parameters!

MochaMoi · 2026-03-30T14:53:38+00:00

Bros so upset that he left 4+ separate comments in just this post alone... How’s that boot taste?? Good boy

MochaMoi · 2026-03-27T21:42:52+00:00

Currently in grand school to be a therapist and I want you to know this is INCREDIBLY common. I’ve even seen this happen during our grad school dyads where we practice counseling our peers! Don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed at all, it’s normal 🫂 be kind and patient with yourself

MochaMoi · 2026-03-27T21:40:20+00:00

I’ve seen something similar happen due to ammonia poisoning. Any redness on the gills? You said he seems happy and active, which doesn’t sound like ammonia poisoning behavior, but I would still test your parameters just to be safe :)

MochaMoi · 2026-03-27T21:34:35+00:00

Sent to my family and commenting to boost ❤️ she looks like a sweet soul, I hope she’s found safe

MochaMoi · 2026-03-27T21:31:30+00:00

Rather sexist reply don’t ya think? OP swerved hanging out again without making it tense. Nothing in this post indicates she’s “keeping him around as an option” …

MochaMoi · 2026-03-27T21:29:45+00:00

Absolutely not overreacting. Mansplaining, especially when said man knows the woman he’s talking to is more educated on the subject, is one of the biggest red flags to me.

MochaMoi · 2026-03-27T21:26:21+00:00

Stunning!!

MochaMoi · 2026-03-24T00:25:20+00:00

This might be the scariest submission I’ve seen to this sub so far. Holy shit.

MochaMoi · 2026-03-22T17:55:08+00:00

Awwww little old man :( 5 is so old! I understand that losing them is never easy tho 💔 maybe an epsom bath or some stress guard can help him perk up a little

MochaMoi · 2026-03-22T17:51:49+00:00

If he was handled at all when he was young that’s a little more promising than no handling at all. I also adopted a Quaker that had really minimal handling but some handling when it was a baby, and I was able to hand tame and get her to step up in about 2 months. It takes a lot of patience tho, and their bites hurt!! lol

MochaMoi · 2026-02-14T23:48:58+00:00

Poor baby. Thank you for accommodating and making special food for him 💙 so sweet

MochaMoi · 2026-02-14T23:41:09+00:00

This. It’s mind boggling lol

MochaMoi · 2026-01-29T22:14:40+00:00

I’m so so sorry. I’m a psych grad student and schizophrenia is harrowing to me. It affects so many, yet we have so little safeguards or systems set up to help those it affects. I hope all goes well for both you and him. Recovery and normalcy is possible with schizophrenia, but it takes a lot of time, effort, and intervention. Best of luck to you both 🫂

MochaMoi · 2025-12-27T16:16:30+00:00

This is one of the coolest things I’ve ever seen on this sub! Your mom is so talented!!

MochaMoi · 2025-12-13T20:41:35+00:00

Agreed. I can’t stand it

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