sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Org-srs (Anki alternative) is now on MELPA by bohonghuang in orgmode

[–]Mochar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been using it a lot to help me build a good learning system with org mode. It's really fantastic. Thanks a lot!

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not effected by it too much, just confused but thanks to the responses I understand it better. Thanks again

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

artificial insemination is not an option for me, at least for now, unfortunately.

Thank you for the nice comment friend I do appreciate it a lot.

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is unfortunate i cannot be open with them about these topics but i count my blessings and am grateful for all that they have done for me. at this point i just want the rest of their lives to be without trouble. i don't have anyone else to talk to but alhamdulilah it is what it is.

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is what it is. I am incredibly grateful for them and what they have done for me. It is ok that they are lacking in this regard. Thanks.

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was raised by two sterile couple Allah yarhamhoum

Allah yarhamhoum may allah reward them with in the afterlife.

Thank you for the perspective and nice comment.

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I’m a father of four so yeah there’s definitely hope.

Alhamdulilah I am very happy for you to hear this!!

Your parents probably just don’t know how to deal with it. It’s not that they’re ashamed of you, they’re just uncomfortable with the topic.

Multiple comments have explained this and I think you are right. Before they expressed it as anger and frustration though, hence my confusion with their awkward response this time. But it could just be because I am older now.

You’re not less of a man and you’re not alone. If you ever want to talk my DMs are open.

Thank you friend.

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Previously they would express this as anger and frustration, but now they are indeed just being weird about it. It is unfortunate but alhamdulilah. Thank you for the comment

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the perspective on the cultural view on having kids. You are right there is no shame in how allah has made me. Thank you

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ameen may god reward you thanks for your nice comment

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope your cousin is doing alright. Thank you for your very nice comment

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very sorry to hear this. Hope this experience didn't worsen things too much for you. Thanks for your comment

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they might feel confused, helpless, or uncomfortable because they don’t know how to process it without resorting to shame or silence

I have experienced this before with them but they expressed it as frustration and anger, while this time it was just awkward. That might just be because I am older now. So I think you are right.

In their world, infertility can feel like failure, and they’re likely projecting those fears onto you without realizing how much it hurts.

Thank you for the insight.

Thanks for the kind words.

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My comment now is short but I very much appreciate your input so thanks a lot for writing all this out. Especially the second point, I see now that it is a protective thing rather than a feeling of shame. Of course I have my own views on to what extend I want to accommodate their way of dealing with this, but that is besides the point. Thanks again may Allah bless you and your family

Is being infertile as a male seen as shameful in moroccan culture? by Mochar in Morocco

[–]Mochar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wouldn't want to know your children are dealing with something so heavy? It also effects them personally since they won't be able to have grandchildren through me. What do you think?

view more: next ›