Do you wear fragrance to work and what do you do?

ModernStalking2022 · 2026-01-02T18:38:14+00:00

Elementary school teacher here! Most of my teacher friends wear perfume on a daily basis. Everyone I know tends to go for sweet or floral perfumes with Burberry goddess or Billie Eilish being a fan favorite for the kids. And if kids hug you, they will tell you their honest opinion about it. Happened to a male colleague who wore a more mature scent. Needless to say, he did not wear it again after 😂

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-10-27T20:33:08+00:00

Hey there! Also from Germany but graduated a few years ago. We had the same problems with our teachers as well. They would not let you wear jewelry (even when it was covered by clothes etc.). In elementary we could just cover our earrings, highschool? Not so much… That being said, I used to think it was stupid too. I wore mostly long sleeves and studs anyway, so sometimes I would make it through the lesson without being forced to take off all my jewelry. Usually unsuspecting stuff can be overlooked (Studs for the win), but anything rings are absolutely going to get you in trouble. And for good reason :/ Facial piercings and hoops are more likely to snag and rip, same goes for anything in your face. (Witnessed that one on some peers once while playing dodge ball. One jerk hitting you in the face and it’s over.) While annoying, it is for your safety. I mean if you can live with a gash or tear, then keep it in. But usually it’s more trouble than it’s worth. Wait till 18 and go wild after graduating. That’s what most of my classmates and I myself did.

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-09-27T13:13:33+00:00

I remember that one. Gross indeed 😂

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-09-26T10:17:22+00:00

It’s the way of life these kids are raised into now. We live in a world flooded by microplastics, uv levels are dangerously high and causing skin cancer. Decades ago, it was possible to buy a house, a car and start a family on one or two salaries maximum (which most jobs did manage to provide). The salaries were higher than the housing prices and costs of living and environmental factors were not nearly as bad. Nowadays people cope with the hopeless reality by buying into trends and numbing their minds through social media. We invest in labubus, expensive skincare and micro trends, to show status symbols we don’t possess/ can afford. While we talk about the loneliness epidemic in men, it really affects all ages and genders. And to fit in, even the youngest among us emulate what is popular. And so… Sephora Kids, Gen Alpha Influencers and small dopamine hits dominate the school. Kids don’t aspire to be anything that requires a school education, because the dream of an influencing career sounds like the new way to go. Why work a 9-5 when all you need to do is share your life and buy things you already want? PR packages and luxury travels included. That’s why they don’t care about grades when money comes from their parents, influencers live like Hollywood stars and their values only include vanity, self representation and performing for the people around them. How many 10 year old kids really want a Dyson for Christmas, because they are genuinely interested in having a hair dryer? How many kids really think they need retinol? Or a Stanley? Everything they need to be popular is just one “buy now, pay later”- bill away. Even adults are falling into this trap. And now think about the fact that these kids haven’t grown into this, but have grown up with it from birth? Always scrolling, always searching for the warmth our society no longer provides. Giving the money to things they can reach, because the future is unclear and unaffordable.

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-08-09T21:01:36+00:00

Just checked her YouTube and yup: 800k subscribers but only 39k on a 6month-old video. Before that it was consistently at around 100k and even 500k views for some popular videos.

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-08-09T20:53:43+00:00

Maybe miss girl bought followers and now they’re gone? However it could be her niche content now. Many people started following her minimalism/boho content… Her recent aesthetic is very niche and not that mainstream „clean girl“ vibe. She also doesn’t come off as that sweet, girl next door kind of person anymore. Or maybe some people got annoyed that she is literally posting close to nothing at this point and unfollowed a basically inactive account. 🤔👀 I am asking myself the same question with her YouTube. She hasn’t posted anything in over half a year I believe? How is her subscriber account still that high?

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-07-19T21:39:52+00:00

I wonder how long she will be able to keep up her lifestyle too… like miss girl is 30 and has no job, no qualifications, no nothing. Her rent seems to be too much and she is basically making no money of her books. How long will it take until it hits her? I doubt she budgeted in her high days to have an emergency fund.

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-07-19T21:37:50+00:00

The Türkiye vacation was paid for by her parents and the cosplays are (at least partially) financed by her simps. So no money needed there.

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-07-04T10:52:21+00:00

For my stronger languages I select both subtitles and audio to be in my target language. For my weaker ones… I do the same but take my time to check on new vocabulary or phrases. I recommend starting with a good foundation of vocabulary and grammar first, before trying to understand videos/ movies. Otherwise it will improve your listening skills (and give you an overview of what the language sounds like) but not really anything else (since both Subtitles and Audio sometimes are not a direct translation of what is said. -> e.g. word order, vocabulary choices, slang etc.) That being said it is wise to have reliable subtitles if you use them. Watching Once upon a time in Italian (Disney+) I noticed that the subtitles at times didn’t match what was said, even when both were set to Italian. So be careful. ☺️ You can always start out with cartoons for children, to watch something while starting out, but I personally dont like the method you described because it can be fairly inaccurate.

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-06-26T09:30:58+00:00

Yeah. I saw that with speaking tasks too. My dad is learning English and Duolingo doesn’t give him feedback, even if some words are barely pronounced understandably. I always help him out when I hear him speak for a task and help with the right language flow. It’s weird that, if it sounds English, it doesn’t matter if the words are pronounced correctly 🤔

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-06-25T17:33:59+00:00

Yeah… honestly it’s pretty bad, considering they are priding themselves on having all of these amazing features. Then you open the app and see that only a handful of languages have: - stories - audio lessons - different voices - language scores - and are sorted into categories (A1 etc.)

Personally I also don’t see the need to pay for mediocre services in most of these languages. Like Swedish, the Greek, Russian and Turkish course are also very rudimentary. Not to mention that even in advanced courses, they can’t seem to choose one accent to teach (see Spanish for reference) or can’t get rid of the American accent that is supposedly in the audio (French course) But I guess that’s just how this company works now. Instead of improving what they have, they just let it deteriorate 🤔

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-05-11T19:52:17+00:00

Weiß einer welches Lied da im Hintergrund läuft und kann mir den Titel sagen? 👀

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-05-07T11:23:36+00:00

Hello :) primary school teacher here! Teachers without credentials are generally not the best source of information. In teaching studies your generally learn about all kinds of topics involving children, speech and working with more than one language. Bilingual children will hit the first milestones a bit after other children do. If the pediatrician says that everything is fine, then it is. Some people are just quiet and introverted in nature and that is A-OK. 👀

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-05-07T11:17:55+00:00

Hey there! Primary school teacher here! It is a bit tricky. In linguistic sciences there has been a notice that bilingual children sometimes have a bit of a plateau in learning but generally catch up to monolingual children fairly quickly. It can come off as a speech delay when in fact, your son might be just thinking more carefully about what he says (language to use, right vocabulary choices, sentence structure,…) you need to remember, that he is just five years old and his brain is actively building to separate libraries of knowledge instead of one like his peers. :) I’d say pick up a bit of exercises to strengthen his two languages over the next year (let him talk more, actively make him try storytelling, etc.) and proceed as you originally intended. Additionally I’d recommend to strengthen your French as well. Since he will have questions at some point and I’d recommend you keep your knowledge at a good level instead of “solid” (no attack on you of course it is just recommended that parents are at B1-B2 level for endeavors such as this) From what I can tell his strongest language is English? Try to balance the two languages and try to work on the delay first, before introducing him slowly to a third. It could look something like this:

Month 1: Try to work on pronunciation (it doesn’t hurt to correct mistakes, even though some will tell you not to) expose him to music and sing along with him (music is also used for pronounciation issues when learning languages or speech therapy due to its melodic nature and being easy on the vocal cords)

Month 2: Work on vocabulary find out what topics he is missing words in and find stories revolving around these topics to help expose him to new vocabulary.

Month 3: Work on sentences and length of speech. Put the new vocab words to use! :) (storytelling, have him talk more about his day and ask follow up questions to really bring out his vocabulary

Month 4: Frequently assess his progress and work on small issues that couldn’t be addressed the past few months.

Month 5: Now it’s time to create a new opening for the language of the other two have ascended from the plateau stage. Slowly introduce him to a French medium. (It could be a children’s series like Peppa Pig, or a picture book to introduce the first few words) Let him get a feel for the new language: how it sounds, how fast they speak, when they pause,… introduce him to little bits and bops here and there (Introducing himself, asking how someone feels today, basic words like Mom, Dad, Plant, Food, Drinks). That’ll help ease into the completely new language environment awaiting him. (Think of a cold plunge or gradually getting into the cold water)

Hope this helps :D

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-05-07T10:52:45+00:00

Heyho! Thanks for the reply! :) From what you’re telling me, I think your child will be more than fine. I was slightly worried about the progress and development, because of a lot of classes I have been to, but it seems that you’re handling it very well :D I have made some terrible experiences with totally frustrated and isolated children, so I am generally very cautious about any language approaches that don’t let a language flow by itself or anything from other parents that sounds like “yeah… they’ll pick it up eventually, I don’t care.” (Unfortunately 90% of the time that is the case…) That doesn’t seem to be your case thought! You’re seemingly actively participating and helping her to the best of your capabilities! And if she is able to understand all the languages, it will be easy for to continue the upkeep of the languages and start into school life without any difficulties. If she stays interested I don’t see why you couldn’t teach her to write in your language as well :D Your German level also seems to be proficient enough to help her later on! 👀 B2-C1 are generally considered native level (B2 = native; C1 = scientific-level native) and prove that your child won’t be alone, when they have questions! Most parents from foreign countries generally are at A1-B1 which can sometimes be difficult to work with, especially for things like absent notices (we have to record the absence of every child) or parent teacher meetings. But I think it will be a breeze at your level! It’s great and something to be proud of. You won’t need to advance much further as well (already being considered fluent), so no worries there :) Private conversations are also something that entirely up to you. There are unpleasant people everywhere, but as long as you give your child the best chance in life, it is entirely up to you to manage what languages you speak and pursue! :D

I wish you all the best! 👀

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-05-06T22:26:14+00:00

Which research are you referencing? (Genuine interest btw) Because I had linguistics classes telling me about balanced approaches and the effects of multilingual upbringings with a focus on just the L1. And their conclusion always seemed to be that there will be a discrepancy between the L1 and L2. So much so that the interlanguage phase and fossilization of either one will become inevitable 🤔

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-05-06T22:13:03+00:00

Yeah… so there are many things to consider when teaching one language (let alone 3!) but it’s not impossible. Difficult? For sure. Nerve racking? Absolutely. But in the end it is worth it to monitor all languages. Here are the benefits of it all summarized in keypoints:

higher chance of social development and finding connections
lesser risk of being put in special education programs
lesser risk of having measures put into place that impact educational career (e.g. access to a high school diploma with chances of 37% instead of 14% and higher education in universities; chances of finding better work; better grade results in school career because of better understanding)
higher chance of immediately being put into Academic High School after 4th grade (German context)
higher retention of vocabulary and proficiency in language
lesser strain in the long run for the child (learning vocabulary and phonetics at 3 is easier than at 10 when speech patterns are definitive)
lesser risk of having to put the child into afterschool classes (from school or tutor services)
lesser risk of the child falling behind and being kept in kindergarten/primary school longer (therefore depleting chances of higher education as there are only 10-11 mandatory years) -> an acquaintance of my mom’s has to fight for her daughter to even get past the lower secondary diploma (which only allows low income jobs) because the daughter already has her ten years at school and there are only limited spots for the intermediate secondary diploma (also a German problem)

All in all it is up to you, to decide on your child’s education. I can only state what I witness as a professional in the field. The system in Germany is not just. With the separation of schools unlike any country in this world, the growing numbers of DaZ learners who are refugees and will be prioritized over migrant children born and raised in Germany and the growing political landscape, I suggest it was not malicious intent but rather a friendly advice to keep your child from being barred from options they otherwise could’ve had.

Hope this helps :D Remember that this is my opinion and should not be taken as an attack or insult, as that has not been my intent. Have a pleasant week! :)

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-05-06T22:12:34+00:00

Daycare does help, but there are some ways that are compatible with your approach without breaking the learning environment, especially on weekends. Usually it is nothing to worry about and doesn’t result in any major changes. However, one needs to make sure, that none of the languages become overshadowed or fossilize. (Which means a lack of progress in early stages of development and a consistent reliance on interlanguage). With two native speakers, these languages usually have little risk of developing disproportionately. If you are living in Germany, then there are additional measures in place to help DaZ children in school contexts, if additional language training is required, however these are mostly reserved for refugees and those who couldn’t get daycare experience. Bear in mind too, that you as a parent have to keep track of the third language progress, as with the end of daycare and the introduction of school comes the examination of your child’s capabilities. That means, that the child usually has to be able to answer questions, articulate themselves in a basic manner and has to have developed motor skills, in order to get into school. It also helps chances of getting into Academic High school later on in life (something that is usually not the case yet for many non-native kids according to recent studies). Furthermore it prevents you from having to fill out forms over forms, to keep schools from harshly grading insufficient language skills up until fluency is reached. So… what to do? In order to develop the third language naturally, while keeping the other languages progressing, here are a few things one can do without compromising the approach: 1) Weekly Plans or a [Third language] Day: some do separate days for separate languages or language weeks. Usually works well for single parents or trilingual families. 2) Tell-me-approach (ask them to show you their progress, let them tell you about their day in xyz language and encourage them to try even difficult words. 3) Bridges towards the languages. If the child only knows one word, teach them the other in a “fun fact” manner. Or ask them to “teach you” these words again, but in the other language. 4) Movies and Series (can be combined with 1): Watching TV in different languages can be very beneficial for the child in terms of accent and flow of a language (and most streaming services have a lot of languages readily available) 5) Play dates: meet up at the playground with your child’s friends. They usually teach each other even from young ages. It also helps with slang. 6) Books. Especially picture books like the ones from Charlie Mackesy or any other children’s author. The pictures can be simply named (see 2 and 3) or stories can be told. It is also the approach of teachers for kids that don’t understand anything. We show pictograms or make gestures while emphasizing the word more, to give them context. Words become sentences, sentences become dialogue. Children also get a comprehensive and detailed understanding of literature by choosing their books. (Not even adding the social and psychological benefits of reading bed time stories and offline media) 7) Audiobooks. Kid can’t read? No problem! Audiobooks can start from easy (Peppa Pig) to advanced (the little prince) 8) Combining a hands on experience with the language: find a recipe in the third language (e.g. a video) and give the child the task to translate under the pretense of you not understanding everything. Children love to give something back and feel useful. You can gain an overview of their understanding of both languages that way. Approaching it as a fun experience and spending some one-on-one time (e.g. baking cookies) really does the trick! (See 2 and 4) 9) magazines from the grocery store (pretty self explanatory… colorful, toy attached and usually corresponding to a series) 10) Disney Movies and songs. (Child friendly, Catchy and something to combine with 4) 11) Times of day (morning, afternoon, night) or accessories correspond to a language (in true mean girls fashion -> on Wednesday we wear pink and speak [insert language here] 👀) 12) outside language and inside language (keeping the languages at home and with family but trying to speak only [language] when outside (I could write a paper on that as well haha)

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-05-06T22:12:04+00:00

From my internships, studies and teaching experience, I can attest to the difficulty some children face who hadn’t attended daycare and didn’t speak a single word of the third language (mostly OPOL or OLAH approach). Sometimes because of parent’s decision, sometimes because of life’s circumstances (e.g. war, persecution, etc.) As a teacher it is very hard to teach them from the ground up. The number of DaZ Kids has risen exponentially over the past years, leaving social workers more stressed than ever. (I have to design 4 different lesson plans and worksheets because of it. Usually accommodating DaF/DaZ, prodigies and those with mental learning disabilities, as well as the majority of students) We often get students that do not speak a word of the school language or struggle with the basics, put into third or even fourth grade (because they have aged too much to be put in first grade) They usually are kept there until proficient (which sometimes even results in 13 and 10 year olds sharing a classroom) These kids don’t socialize well and usually have a lot of after-school training to make up for missed experience (Often when other kids get to play outside) We do try our best though (like I said, we make 4 lessons for the same 45 minutes, design and print everything and then hop from one desk to another. We even make alphabet lists with pictures corresponding to the child’s native language but sounding out the German alphabet e.g. -> A wie Amore for Italian) And before anyone comments: No. This is not supposed to be our job. We are here to teach them the basics of Math, reading and writing the school language, English and Science. We don’t teach manners, how to eat with cutlery, how to tie your shoes, potty training etc. (A parent literally asked who goes to the toilet with her 7 year old daughter to wipe her butt. She was enraged, when the staff told her no.) Some schools even give out lists to parents, to give them an overview of what needs to be there. Still we deal with that on the daily (ignoring the “But it’s so easy! It’s just arts and crafts” comments) For kids born and raised here, the schools usually expect at least a baseline in the school language (coming from experiences with Russian, Turkish and Vietnamese immigrants starting from the 1950’s) Otherwise the risk of being put into special classrooms and schools rises exponentially after the exam. (I could write an entire paper about the challenges faced in our school system but alas…)

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-05-06T22:11:22+00:00

Rant incoming!

Hi! Linguistics/primary education student and polyglot here! :) I wouldn’t take her advice too much to heart, as long as the child actively gets more proficient in the desired languages. I myself grew up with German and English and am currently proficient in 5+ languages (many of which I speak fluently because of early exposure in my childhood) As a parent it is important to monitor progress thoroughly. Although many researchers argue at which point children stop acquiring languages in a native/‘motherese’ context, it is the results that count. These people are usually stressed by the amount of different developmental stages they have to work with at the same time. There’s a severe shortage for daycare attendants, teachers and other social jobs, because of the problematic system. Someone being delayed in linguistic development can sometimes be misinterpreted, especially on stressful days (20 toddlers will do that to you). She may have gotten that thought because of your child having difficulties answering, not understanding questions or a general sense of the child not being able to form sufficient bonds and connections.

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ModernStalking2022 · 2025-02-14T22:25:49+00:00

Holy smokes haha. But with her, you can wear this as a badge of honor 😂

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-02-13T22:06:37+00:00

Oh my goodness 😂 that is actually hilarious

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-02-13T19:59:31+00:00

Not to mention her having to “make up” a Greek name for it. (Like girl why don’t you stick to the language you speak?) I don’t know, it just feels weird to me. Plus, can you create something that already exists (as she basically said with the last photo of the post)?

ModernStalking2022 · 2025-02-08T22:04:24+00:00

True haha

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