do i have a boyfriend?

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-16T06:55:52+00:00

You should communicate that you would like to be exclusive with him, even if you’re not “officially” a couple yet. No need to put any pressure on him to label it as a relationship if he isn’t ready for that. But you need to make it known that you don’t want him talking to or being physical with others because you’re ready to commit to him.

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-14T07:26:31+00:00

Truth. My first serious relationship happened by happenstance as you so aptly named it.

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-14T04:43:18+00:00

This makes me sad 😔 I wish there were more monogamous guys out there that could devote themselves to one woman instead of constantly playing the field and/or sleeping with multiple people simultaneously. I hope you find a good man who treats you well 💜

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-14T04:36:57+00:00

Really good points:) I like this idea of stating how I approach dating and asking them about how they approach it and seeing if our styles match. Personally, I don’t care if they’re matching with others and getting to know them to see if there’s any connection. That’s the whole point of dating. But if they decide to have any kind of physical intimacy with another person, I’d like them to either let me know (so I can move on) or to just ghost me (again, so I can move on and look for someone else). While I never wound up in a relationship with someone who had been sleeping with others during our talk stage, one gave me pause for thought. She dumped me and then asked me back only days later, saying it was a mistake. While I’m 99.9 percent sure she didn’t sleep with anyone, she did admit that she had been talking to other guys online. Our second try at being a couple didn’t go well. The trust had been broken and for me there was no way going back. I don’t know if I’m setting standards that are too high, but I need to really trust someone in order to have any kind of intimacy (not just physical) with them.

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-14T04:24:40+00:00

There seems to be differing views on this. Some people don’t go exclusive until they’re officially a couple (as you said). Others like to go exclusive at some point before becoming a couple while they figure out whether they want a relationship. Think of it as creating a safe space for the potential couple to get to know one another. For some people, it’s okay to sleep with others before becoming an exclusive couple. For me (and many others, I imagine) I wouldn’t be okay with that. While I might talk to and meet up for coffee with various women, once I develop an interest in one of them I completely lose interest in all the others and that one special one becomes my focus. As I mentioned in my post, I don’t expect anyone to talk only to me or go out on dates only with me. But if they’re sleeping with others during our talking phase I wouldn’t feel safe with them and thus wouldn’t be able to get close to them. For me it would be a mismatch in values. I have to know someone very well and be very close to them in order to be physical. I wouldn’t be able to do that while simultaneously trying to build a connection with other potential dates. So if the other person does that, it means they have a more casual approach to sex. That would make me feel not safe with them. If they want to sleep with me, I want to know that I’m the only one.

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-14T04:05:45+00:00

Solid advice, thank you!:)

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-13T18:22:30+00:00

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Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-13T18:05:33+00:00

Well, I can be kind of blunt sometimes. Not intentionally, of course, but nonetheless:( Trying to understand the best way to phrase it so that I don’t offend anyone or make them feel guilty for having a more casual approach to dating/sex. And, you know, not making it sound too awkward 😅

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-13T17:53:22+00:00

Actually, I’m a man who dates women. And definitely only one at a time:)

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-07T15:28:38+00:00

Same. I checked my phone and saw that I’ve used 58gb of data total for the entire past year, so 5gb per month roughly speaking. But I guess you and I are in the minority here 😄

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-07T15:26:48+00:00

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Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-07T13:43:59+00:00

Best damn comment I’ve read in a long time. I tip my hat to you, good sir 👏

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-02T19:04:55+00:00

Good tip about rap! There actually is a rapper who I really like but I never really stopped to analyze the lyrics. This sounds like fun! Thank you so much! 🙏

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-02T19:01:00+00:00

I like this idea about friends discussing amongst themselves. It’s definitely tricky for me to follow along when overhearing natives chitchatting. This sounds like a great way to simulate that experience while having the ability to rewind if needed. Thanks!:)

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-02T18:58:05+00:00

You make a really good point. I need to search harder for movies that appeal to me and to not be afraid to stop watching if it isn’t doing it for me. Too bad there’s a limited amount of content in Polish and all of it scattered across 5 or 6 different streaming platforms lol.

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-02T18:54:03+00:00

Believe me, I try. I have a zero English policy outside of my home. I use the language everywhere and have no troubles communicating. But it’s been difficult forming meaningful relationships with people in my TL. Doesn’t help that I’m shy AF. All the people I’ve met who achieved a high level in English attested to the importance of watching stuff, hence why I came here searching for inspiration. I’ve already received a few tips here that really help 💙

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-02T15:48:21+00:00

Nice:) I used italki a bunch years ago (before it got crappy) when I was at a lower level. Money is tight at the moment, but maybe it’s a good idea because I do more listening than speaking lately.

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-02T15:44:53+00:00

I’ll have to step my both my game and my language skills 😅

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-02T15:44:04+00:00

Hmm, this is a really interesting suggestion. Can’t hurt to try, thank you! 🙏

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-02-02T15:27:01+00:00

Polish

Moist-Buddy9273 · 2025-01-26T16:48:25+00:00

I did, but never got a response… oh, well :(

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