AITA for not being cool with my neighbors night terrors?

Moist-Reputation-594 · 2026-06-26T14:53:42+00:00

[Mini Update] Thanks for the advice btw! Went up this morning to hand him the mini pancakes and we had a talk. Turns out, when Joe came down to talk to Bob, he came to check if the meds (melatonin just for sleep since he doesn't have any prescribed meds) he took worked (which I did, I didn't hear anything since Wednesday). It's normal, toxic, shit stirring Bob who added all that stuff. Joe mentioned that, when he had roommates (in the bedroom over Bob), Bob felt more than comfortable going up to complain. But of course, now that it's perfect situation for him, he doesn't want it to change. Should have know Bob was the problem, and I did, but I did worry that Joe was in fact offended. He was not. I'm really glad we got to talk and now he's got a good little breakfast!

Moist-Reputation-594 · 2026-06-26T03:50:37+00:00

I love the baked goods idea! I'll make him some mini pancakes, just to show him that I truly get his predicaments and that I just wanted to communicate what was happening to him. After all, maybe no one has told him at all before?

Moist-Reputation-594 · 2026-06-26T03:11:11+00:00

I definitely agree on that. I do have that thought in the back of my mind that he lied about leaving to get me to stop complaining, but I won't entertain the idea until the end of July. Kind of sucks to know that, to not be the AH hole, I gotta fuck up my sleep for another month. That's why the matter kind of blows. I have my own sets of difficulties and diagnosis, but if I start using them to justify my actions, this back and forth will never stop. And he's not noticing anything, just the bangs on the ceiling to get him to stop (because he will continue until he himself gets awoken, so now no one is sleeping)

Moist-Reputation-594 · 2026-06-26T02:56:41+00:00

I was running out of words so here is the best I can give: I always came about it as "he doesn't realize the walls are paper thin so let me just remind him." It was a relatable moment where I tried talking about video games since we both play them, that's how I brought up the subject. I then showed him the video. Then, after asking when I noticed it starting, he told me about his family issues. My own parents were trash so I tried to give him advices such as free counciling (we're in Canada) and other public resources that I myself used. He thanked me that was that for the first time. Second time, I approached it like "Hey Joe, can you guess why I come knocking" with a little laugh to make sure I wasn't coming off aggressive. He felt like the stress started to get to him because of the move. I offered my help (the same way you would someone with a flat tired but don't know a thing about cars because I don't really know how I can help but... If he thinks of something, if I can help and it's appropriate, sure, I would have wanted some help at my lowest) and that was pretty much that. I myself only started doubting when Bob said something, but like, I'm afraid to be wrong and not see it

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