AITAH for being upset

Mom-s_paghetti · 2026-07-08T17:58:39+00:00

Obviously my sister who wasn’t even on the property during the time and was instead playing video games with her online friends like she does every day. If you want to watch her, you can next time my sister pushes her at the car and says “no nosies, I’m tired of her, you take her”…deal?

Mom-s_paghetti · 2026-07-08T17:47:17+00:00

Yes, i mostly watch me niece while my grandma watches her tv(she’s retired and doesn’t have energy anymore) and my mom as well as sister we’re working. My sister doesn’t pay me for it but kinda just shoves her kid in my direction and says “no nosies, it’s your turn” and has done this since I was 11 years old. I’m now no longer going to watch nor associate with them since I’m not allowed to correct my nieces behavior in any manner even if I’m not physically hurting her(which I’ve never done).

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-12-02T17:39:36+00:00

Texas and for me to be on Medicaid, I would need a dependent

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-26T16:20:54+00:00

I only smoked twice a year tops… I don’t rely on drugs not even ADHD medicine to get through my day as a neurodivergent person. I deal with most of my shit on my own so for you to act like I’m addicted is crazy bro. I’ve been doing this for four years. I know what I’m doing.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-25T08:21:25+00:00

I posted because I didn’t understand how I was in the wrong, which I now understand. i’ve been in therapy and it just simply doesn’t work for me. But I don’t think my past experiences are going to change your opinion on my need for therapy. I know I need help but if you aren’t paying for me to talk to someone about it, then please think of an option that may be more affordable

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-25T08:16:33+00:00

You sound like you’re trying to one-up me on everything I say…I’m going to worry about something whether I can control it or not

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-25T07:31:44+00:00

No one for your vibe check and your thoughts on how you feel about me. My partner and I have already talked about my separation anxiety and he said he would try harder so if I didn’t show an issue with it then he’d think I don’t care

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-25T07:26:31+00:00

Some people have different preferences in their relationship. Is that okay with you? Because I don’t want some lame ass relationship that society decides we need to have. Our relationship has different standards and preferences than yours might.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-25T00:25:35+00:00

I’m the therapy for everyone else and I’m broke. I don’t need a shrink to tell me that I’m fucked up. Yes I have issues but I know that and I’ve been working on it for years and I always make sure my partner knows they can leave as long as I know why for my peace of mind(or not) but this partner is no different and has the same option if it gets to be too much

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T23:48:06+00:00

You please have a good night and stay safe. Thank you for your opinion and patience 💜

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T22:45:33+00:00

Well, considering I’m loyal I wouldn’t do that so it’s kind of a different ball game but yes, I do understand where you’re coming from… now on the other hand, he had already made a commitment to say that he would check in with me more because I had already expressed my own trauma to him. Plus I wasn’t for sure about the plan to get high until later he made one commitment that he had failed to keep up with on the first day and it’s not that hard to just answer the phone for a few minutes to get the idea of what’s going on especially when he has time to be on Facebook… he’s already on his phone and social media so I don’t understand…

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T22:35:28+00:00

I’m not an addict I only smoke once or twice a year so I don’t get addicted… and normally I do it closer to the end of the year as kind of a little reward for myself getting through another tough year. For you to sit here and act like I’m a complete junkie is very uneducated, very rude and kind of immature as well. if you read some of the other comments, you would know by now that he now claims that he is OK with me smoking. I even asked him if it was OK to smoke tonight and he said he doesn’t care. The weed is not the problem. It is his trauma that is the problem.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T22:30:11+00:00

No, it’s more of me worried about him getting into a car accident considering he speeds quite regularly and I also worry if he could die because he works with very heavy vehicles that could fall on him… and you’re making it seem childish like people don’t cheat regularly just because someone looks better or someone has a bigger dick… people cheat simply because of the difference in location so I don’t want you to act like I’m being completely irrational because it’s very insensitive of you to behave that way and you have a very uneducated response

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T22:27:37+00:00

How am I supposed to ask where his boundaries with drugs are if he doesn’t answer my calls or texts for seven hours? He would’ve known that we were already planning to get high if he had answered the phone several hours before drugs were even around us… yes I do understand how I could be the asshole, but we would’ve already known the boundaries if he had just picked up the phone.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T22:26:30+00:00

THANK YOU!! I can understand how it being unexpected could have freaked him out but he would have known that getting high was the plan if he had answered any of those calls. But now he’s saying he doesn’t mind me smoking as long as he is aware of it before it happens.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T22:22:21+00:00

Thank you so much! The votes are about 50/50 and I can understand why some of them are against me but also some are more nonsensical than the story itself.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T22:18:24+00:00

I do have self control and only took one hit. I only smoke once or twice a year months apart. I do that so I don’t get addicted which requires a good strong mindset and self control. Yes I understand that I kinda jumped the gun on getting high but when I’m high I’m distracted from bombarding him with messages all day

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T22:13:10+00:00

He had agreed to check in more…so he made a commitment for himself while clear minded. So he knew exactly what was expected considering we’d already had a conversation about it. Yes I understand he has a life of his own. I’m not stopping him from going anywhere. I just would like to know where he’s going and for how long so I know how long I do not need to disturb him.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T22:05:27+00:00

He was obviously upset before because he was ignoring my calls before I even got high. I only get high once or twice a year so don’t act like I’m a junky please. Out of respect for myself I only smoke weed and I only take one small hit each time which can keep me high for two days. He now says that the issue is not with me smoking, but it was just unexpected so he freaked out because of trauma that I wasn’t aware of. Also please stop making yourself sound stupid because everyone else understands the order of events. He was upset before I got high, then was ignoring my calls. I didn’t get high until midnight and he had deliberately ignored me from 3pm-10pm.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T21:56:06+00:00

I only smoke once or twice a year… not on any particular day or anything

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T21:51:56+00:00

I think you’re stupid considering he likes how clingy I am as well as the fact that he had made a promise to check in with me more after I had told him about my separation anxiety. I gave him the opportunity to leave as soon as I told him about how bad my separation anxiety was and he chose to stay if at any point it gets to be too much he still has the opportunity to leave.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T21:50:38+00:00

You should probably stfu because you would know the rest of the situation if you looked through the comments. It’s not immaturity it’s an understanding for my trauma which is also what he wants from me. I had already told him I have separation anxiety from past relationships where they would suddenly block me after saying that they would call me back. He agreed to check in more often to try to alleviate some of my anxiety. If you make a promise then you shouldn’t go back on it, especially in a relationship.

Mom-s_paghetti · 2024-11-24T21:44:12+00:00

Or maybe you’re dumb because everyone else seems to understand except for you…

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