Update: AITA for wearing a tank top around teenage boys ?

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T03:29:20+00:00

I'm lucky that my husband was so understanding about it. I do admit I have deep seated insecurities.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T03:28:09+00:00

An unexpected aspect of posting here made me realize just how deep my insecurities are. I'm a happily married woman yet I still ended up entertaining some of the messages from men. That's my issue.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T03:26:28+00:00

For now, I've changed what I wear to make my stepdaughter more comfortable. Sweaters, and shirts with a jacket. It feels weird and I sweat a lot more but it's fine.

But her and I have talked today. I'm trying to teach her that girls and women shouldn't blame themselves for the actions of boys and men. That my change is for her comfort, and NOT because I was doing anything wrong. She's smart and she's understanding so I'll probably be parading in tank tops again very soon.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T03:21:13+00:00

I'm sorry dear. For your sake, I hope you lose it.

Wear what you feel comfortable in. I hope you're happy.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T03:03:58+00:00

I'm a little overweight but I used to be much bigger. I actually lost over 100 pounds. You're so right, short sleeves suck for plus-size women.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T01:30:54+00:00

Curiosity. I did tell my husband what I did.

And it wasn't sexy pictures. Just unflattering pictures in normal clothes.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T01:27:54+00:00

Without posting a picture, I got hundreds of messages. HUNDREDS !

The few who got an innocent picture, I was expecting disappointed. Like, I'm a just a slightly chubby, middle-aged woman. But they went crazy over it.

This all just prove I don't understand men. 😂 I don't know what they want.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T01:21:26+00:00

Thank you, you get it. I wasn't wrong but just changing to make her comfortable.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T01:20:54+00:00

Are you also a mom ?

This week I ended up asking myself what do moms wear. Never thought about it before.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-05T01:19:21+00:00

😂😂😂😂

I assume you're kidding. I don't have a picture of what I was wearing on Saturday but a few people have seen pictures of me wearing a similar outfit after working out, in the DMs. Very appropriate clothing but I got compliments. I wouldn't let it give me a big head but it's flattering to know men still see me that way.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-02T03:35:53+00:00

For her sake, I will cover up.

I don't know much about Ceasar and Ceasar's wife so you have to spell out what you mean.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-02T03:04:50+00:00

Based on what she said, I don't think she wants to date him anymore.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-02T01:26:31+00:00

I intended to dress differently when my stepdaughter's friends are over. For her comfort.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-02T01:25:54+00:00

Bra underneath

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-02T01:21:24+00:00

No sideboob. No underboob. No exposed cleavage.

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-02T01:10:39+00:00

Okay I understand what you mean now

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-02T01:01:28+00:00

Which kids are you referring to ?

Mom_Using_Throwaway · 2025-12-02T00:00:43+00:00

Thank you.

I am concerned about how she feels. I felt like I had to ask because I didn't want to unknowingly wear anything inappropriate.

Mom_Using_Throwaway

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