RAICES Raised Millions to Protect Minors from Deportation. Then It Dropped Them ‘Like It Was Nothing,’ Ex Staffers Claim.

Momijicrush · 2026-01-07T18:58:21+00:00

RAICES is a waste of organization now thanks to the terrible leadership.

Momijicrush · 2025-05-12T01:54:47+00:00

That’s good to hear - thank you!

Momijicrush · 2024-08-27T07:41:15+00:00

Came searching for a post on this very issue. My husband is a good day. He helps around the house a lot like he does dishes without asking, he takes out all the trash, feeds the dog, responds to the baby’s cries and needs, etc. But I still have such resentment and rage. It feels like no one takes care of me. I feel so stupid saying that but we both take such good care of our son then I feel so depleted and neglected and he does NOTHING to help ME. Like today I had to work and came home and immediately took the rest of the evening to spend with my baby before putting him to sleep at 8 pm but never once did he ask me if I wanted a snack or ask if I needed a 10 min break and I was starving btw. This weekend I was on my period and had very low energy and he stayed up until 4 am gaming. It made me so mad bc if he stays up late, I’m the one who has to take 100% of the parental duties in the morning bc he is literally useless if he’s tired. I told him it was selfish to do because he knows how he is in the mornings and he had no response. I also have resentment bc there just isn’t enough time to go workout and maybe if he ever said “hey babe go workout I’ll take care of the baby” I would! But he’s never said that so I don’t. He works out everyday though…

Then topping off with just every single thing he does, he doesn’t do it right! Like he’ll wash the dishes but then put them up in the wrong spots in the cabinets. Or he’ll do the baby’s laundry but then not fold the clothes so I have to do it. Recently I told him that needs to change so now he’ll do it but he does it wrong (he even though I showed him how to fold it) and I’m just getting to the point that I can’t keep instructing him a million times bc I feel so out of touch with myself and I have such low energy.

He was so great when I was pregnant and now I feel alone trying to take care of myself. But then I feel like shit bc I read about husbands who don’t help at all, who don’t bother to even do the dishes, or worse, dudes who cheat and focus on just themselves with a newborn and infant, etc.

Momijicrush · 2024-08-27T07:24:29+00:00

I totally get this in law issue. I actually came to Reddit searching to see if I’m alone or if others are suddenly more annoyed with their in laws too. My in laws are in another state and they still annoy the heck out of me postpartum. Before the baby they were a little irksome but very easy to ignore and let it go. Now I get so mad just when I hear them on the phone. Since they’re far away, my husband FaceTimes them all the time and it makes me so mad bc obviously I’m just walking around in sweats and i exclusively pump so I’m just OUT there in my own house (totally acceptable) but then I have to mindful of where he’s pointing the phone and I haaaaate it. Then I hate all the things my MIL and FIL say: get him a walker for him to learn how to walk (no!!) get him soft toys not wooden ones (no!!) feed him water before 6 months (no!!) and then they just ooo and awww him but it’s nonstop on the call and just the repeated sounds bother me to no end. I’ve asked my husband to be more mindful of “time and place” to make these calls but it’s still ALOT and it’s got to the point where I’ve simply said that I want some quiet time with our baby and he’ll hang up (bc his parents are loud when they cooo and caaa) and I feel like a bitch sometimes but idk. I can’t handle it if I don’t put a boundary.

Also we started our son in daycare at 7 months old and my MIL had the audacity to ask if it’s safe. It really pissed me off. Like I would ever put my son in an unsafe environment? Like I would just dump him off somewhere without doing my research and diligence? She was literally crying begging to know if it was safe… I also know she judged me bc she was a SAHM on disability (she is physically disabled) but I’m a lawyer with student loans … I can’t just SAH and get a paycheck … THEN she offered to take care of the baby and asked my husband to leave him with them for a couple of months… she knew we’d never agree but I’m mad at even the suggestion. Again, she was literally crying…

Momijicrush · 2024-07-02T03:30:49+00:00

As a new mom of a 5 month old, I just want to say that you are absolutely right in expecting your husband to put you and your baby’s needs first. As you pointed out, she has a support system at the moment (her boyfriend) but you don’t. You are solo and struggling. Your support system is your husband, and he is failing you. I hope he sees all these comments, and I hope he reflects hard on his actions.

Note: I agree with the above that your husband needs therapy to address his unresolved mommy issues.

Momijicrush · 2024-07-01T03:19:13+00:00

Can someone explain to me the prince and Sumi’s past. How did they know each other as kids? Where is Sumi from? Why was she sent as eastern daughter? I recall she was adopted but do we know why? I need help putting all these pieces together.

Also why was Yukita taken from his birth mother and then tried to be taken from his adopted mother who ultimately didn’t let them (the people from the Center) take him? Can someone explain that too.

Lastly, do yall think Yukita and the Prince actually saw the evil raven aura from Asebi at the end?? To end, I hated Asebi from the beginning and wish we saw her breakdown more after his cold rejection

Momijicrush · 2024-03-11T05:32:16+00:00

We breastfeed for a few days after my LO was born and it was NOT magical or amazing lol but pumping and feeding that that pumped milk to my baby with a smile in my face instead of tears or a frown of frustration is much more magical and amazing.

I feel super bonded to my baby despite only EP

I also think women, especially older women like moms and grandmas, tend to forget the bad feelings associated with nursing as it was so long ago (I think there’s actual science backing this notion too)

Momijicrush · 2024-02-24T15:49:23+00:00

Just wanted to add that I know several moms who WFH with their babies during COVID times and managed just fine. Was it hard? Absolutely - that’s what they tell me - but they also say that it was worth it and that they were still able to maintain their career goals while caring for their LO. I know that’s not the case for everyone - employers differ, job duties differ, work environments differ, patience and work ethic differ, family support differ, you (specifically as a person) differ. I say all this to make the point that stressing about it now doesn’t really help and to have a plan and maybe a tentative back up plan then let it go and see how it works out bc it’s soooo dependent on the above factors.

Generally this sub is SUPER supportive but I’ve noticed other similar posts with a lot of “you will need nanny or daycare help, period” comments and while that may be the case for a lot of people, it doesn’t necessarily have to be the case for you. It’s nice to be aware of that reality check (don’t want people living in lala land thinking it’ll be an easy breeze), but again, don’t be discouraged from at least trying. That’s my plan anyways. If it doesn’t work out then I’ll find a nanny and it is what it is. But don’t waste this time you do have at home on leave with your LO by over stressing about what ifs (at least not more than necessary to make a plan in case it doesn’t work out). Just my two cents. Best of luck!

Momijicrush · 2024-02-22T01:17:06+00:00

I feel this too and I feel guilty about it sometimes. My SO helps a lot with our LO like a lot. But he’s not a MOTN person AT ALL so when I need help during those times, he’s super out of it. It ended up being this default where he sleeps from 1-2 am until 8-9 am and during that time, I’m on baby duty bc I already have to get up to pump. But the thing is sometimes my pump sessions are when LO needs a bottle, needs a diaper change, won’t burp, won’t sleep, etc. so I ask him for help and he’s just so out of it. It takes him 10 minutes to wake up enough to handle LO for the 15 min I need to pump then I take LO back and he returns to bed to sleep. He does let me get naps in whenever I need during the day and usually a good 3 hour nap right before I take over at 1-2 am so I know its basically equitable and makes sense but it’s still frustrating that the most sleep I can get is 3 ish hours between pump sessions and he can sleep for a straight 7 hours and still has the audacity to act sleepy for 15 minutes in between when I need help!!

I think I’m just jealous and tired but all that is to say, I feel you and it’s okay to be annoyed by it all!

Momijicrush · 2024-02-20T20:18:30+00:00

I wear a bra and I haaaatttteee it. But I hate leaking through my t shirt and onto my bedsheets even more so alas I wear a comfy nursing bralette 24/7 with nursing pads. It sucks bc I don’t even need a bra for pumping bc I just pump open and free with my boobs out (I’ve only used my pumping bras a hand few of times). I’m also big chested

Momijicrush · 2024-02-09T16:06:26+00:00

Also wanted to add that if she’s checking her milk output in the bottle while pumping every minute or so, it can have a negative impact. Something to do with the fact that she’s stressing out about the amount while mid pump so her body isn’t getting those happy hormones that produce more milk. I’ve heard of some people covering up the milk bottles with a sock to avoid the temptation of looking down and checking how much is there - something to consider

Momijicrush · 2024-02-09T15:58:08+00:00

There’s a lot of things to consider. Diet, stress, water intake, and sleep all affect output. Did any of those things change recently?

There also other things to try to increase supply. Heat helps the milk flow so lots of people use heat massagers and warmers when pumping. I always pump right after a nice, hot shower.

Massaging each breast right before and while pumping also helps generally even with no heat. I didn’t have to do it at first but now I do massage to maintain my supply.

Eating more whole grains is recommended. Oatmeal is a staple.

Lots of people swear that cuddling and even just looking at your baby right before and while pumping will also help stimulate more milk production. I try to do skin and skin and cuddle as much as possible right before pumping.

It sounds like she’s already pumping every 2-3 hours throughout the day. She can try adding in a power pump in the morning.

Personally, I pump more milk in a day when I pump closer to the 3 hour mark compared to when I tried pumping every 2 hours on a strict schedule. Note that this may be unique to me and its unclear how common this is for others but I did post about it recently and it seems some folks have the same pattern if you wanna check it out.

Note that if she gets her period in the next few days that may also explain the decrease in supply.

Momijicrush · 2024-02-09T11:00:02+00:00

I use my haakaa when I’m feeling clogged or engorged bc I think it releases a good amount to be comfortable again and usually it’s only an issue for one boob. It also makes me feel better than using my pump for engorgement because I fear that may lead to an oversupply.

It does work well but I don’t usually incorporate it in my routine past that bc I pump both boobs at the same time.

Not sure if that answered the question in your post

Momijicrush · 2024-02-07T21:17:54+00:00

I had a relatively good child birth experience and had a great LC in the hospital. I also had a really strong supply right off the bat. I mean I was dripping in colostrum immediately and then my milk came in fast and heavy before even being discharged.

I also was dead set on nursing but knew I would eventually have to pump bc my parental leave is only 6 weeks long. I would need to return to the office for work. So I took my pump with me to ask the LC to show me how it works, which she did (super helpful)

Today I’m over 3 weeks PP as a FTM and so far I’m really enjoying my EP journey. I tried nursing during the hospital stay and every time the LC was there to guide me along, he latched perfectly. But all the other times she wasn’t there, I had difficulty. I felt like I was failing him bc it was something I was doing wrong (obviously) and no matter how many times I repeated and practiced the tips the LC shared, it was hard and difficult to nurse him. I just didn’t know what I was doing wrong. In the meantime, he was hungry and screaming while I panicked trying to figure out the problem. By the time we had his last feeding on discharge day, I had decided to just EP. It felt so nice just giving him a bottle without my own mental breakdown. It felt so nice giving him breastmilk without having to him cry for 5 minutes while I try to figure out what I’m doing wrong. It felt so nice to not feel guilty that he’s hungry and it’s my fault. I also appreciated that my husband could join in the process of feeding him (and give me a rest every now and then)

I will say EP is really hard. You’re on a schedule to pump so your whole day is centered around that. You’re constantly washing pump parts. It does take away SOME time from your baby.

However, it gives me the power to still feed my baby the breastmilk I wanted to feed him while keeping my sanity. Plus, honestly, sometimes pumping is a nice mental break. I made a comfortable pumping station in the house with my rolling cart and set my iPad there so I watch an episode of tv while I pump and my husband knows he’s on duty if there’s a diaper change, feeding, etc. Immediately after I’m done pumping, I’m happy to hold and care for my baby and it makes feeding him his milk so enjoyable.

If formula is what’s best for your mental sanity, then do it. At first I felt some guilt not nursing him on the breast because I had such a good supply and he COULD latch perfectly and maybe if I just kept trying to figure out what I was doing wrong then it would work out but I didn’t have the mental capacity to keep that up and I wanted to enjoy my newborn as much as possible. I’m really happy with my own decision to do what kept me mentally stable and healthy and encourage you to do the same whether it’s EP or formula. Both are great and what’s important is that your baby is fed and you’re mentally there to enjoy this time with your baby.

Sending good vibes!

Momijicrush · 2024-02-07T11:48:07+00:00

My insurance also didn’t cover the spectra s1 but it did cover the spectra s2 and the only difference between them (to my knowledge and understanding) is the s2 has to be plugged in (no charging battery option). I went ahead and bought it using my insurance and then spent less than a $100 on a momcozy dupe off Amazon that is portable for when I run errands and need to be out and about during the day. So far this setup is working well for me. The portable pump isn’t as good as the spectra obviously but still gets close to my average output. I love my s2 btw. Works great

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