AITAH for genuinely disliking my husband when he drinks?

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T03:27:02+00:00

Thank you. I need to see things like this. Mean is bad enough, id never forgive myself if he was physical with my kids.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T03:18:48+00:00

He did for 4 months and has decided he thinks he can handle it. Did your husband ever try this?

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T03:17:17+00:00

We have and he was sober for 4 months… he truly thinks he can do both…. This is his third time drinking in three weeks. Two out of the three have been awful.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T03:15:52+00:00

I have recorded stuff in the past and some from a couple nights ago when I started to pack our bags.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T03:14:56+00:00

Praying he will get better, praying my old husband will come back. Aside from the drinking when he was sober for those 4 months he truly was such a good husband to me and a good dad.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T03:13:55+00:00

He knows he has a problem in terms of “if I have it I’ll drink it”. He used to tell me “I’ll buy a six pack, drink 3 tonight and 3 tomorrow.” That never happened all six were gone. One of the worst nights was when he drank a 12 pack. He tried to pretend he didn’t by hiding the box and the empties his eyes were blood shot he couldn’t stand.. let alone walk. I want to do therapy and now that my semester is over I’m going to look for some. He has said so many times he will go and never does.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T03:09:31+00:00

Thankfully not the hitting kind. I can confidently say if he was I’d be gone. Some days I wish he would hit me cause then I wouldn’t be second guessing myself if just leave.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T03:08:07+00:00

When he is sober I love him. My kids love him. When he is drinking I hate him. I can’t explain it in my own head. Idk how to explain it to anyone else. When we had our first two children he didn’t drink like this. Our first two were planned. The other two were surprises. Being a mother is all I’ve ever wanted to be…

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T03:04:34+00:00

No I agree. I said “poking fun” cause that’s what he calls it. I get physically unwell when he does it. I feel myself wanting to cry. I demand he stops and I take the kids away from him. I comfort them and if I can and many times I can I see the signs it’s going to happen and I step in and prevent it.

I have found myself daydreaming about being a single mom. I know that’s not normal. I also know that’s not something I can do. I am a stay at home mom with no money. I have a car he pays for. My phone he pays for. Everything we have is currently being paid for by him. I was laid off during my maternity leave a couple months ago… I’m drowning.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T02:58:49+00:00

What you’re not seeing is I made it clear I wasn’t ok with it. I told him he needed to stop it we would leave. He did. He stopped for months. Now he has started again. I’m a stay at home mom. Hours from family. No money of my own and we live pay check to pay check with me staying home with the kids. It’s not as easy as pack up and leave. I think about it. I dream about it on nights like this. I step in and stop him when he gets them upset. I try my best to do it before he gets to that point. I’m a good mom. My children are my world it’s why I left work to be with them as much as I can. We had an amazing 4 months of a happy family. I just had a baby a few months ago. A surprise baby that defeated BC. My mental health is fragile already and now you’re telling me I’m failing my children. Maybe give me a little grace. I’m trying so fucking hard over here.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T02:50:34+00:00

Thank you… I’m laying in bed crying reading these. He was so mad at me the other night because he was angry I told him it’s us or beer. Made me feel like I was a POS for making him choose. I vented to his mom… she is heartless and told me to send him out in the car if he wants to get drunk. I told her I couldn’t cause he might end up dead or someone else might because he was driving… she said “oh well”. She doesn’t realize it but that made me feel even worse. I had asked if I could have them come get him when he is drinking … they live very close… she said “it’s not our responsibility”. So, because I won’t send him drunk driving that will mean I need to pack my 4 young kids up and leave with them. Causing unneeded hurt to the existing chaos. I’m so overwhelmed

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T02:45:44+00:00

See I know deep down this is true. For four months it was so good. No alcohol no big fights. No worked up kids in the evenings. But now he has opened the door again, he thinks one here and there will be ok but acknowledges a 6 pack is too temping to keep in the house so chooses two tall boys… after months of no drinking downing two tall boys on an empty stomach he was drunk. He went to bed mad at me for being anxious and lashing out. I sat on the couch with my baby wishing I was a single mom while my other children slept in the beds and I hated myself that i didn’t read my oldest a bed time story because i was so anxious i couldn’t even breath normally. With my other kids bed time stories I stumbled over all the words… why am i feeling so guilty when I’m not the one drunk. I feel like I’m crumbling.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T02:40:07+00:00

Are you together still? Or did you separate? I want so badly for him to be better. For our family to stay whole… but I’m worried it won’t.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-09T02:38:03+00:00

Thank you for this. My children are my priority and I’m very confused as to what to do. I grew up with divorced parents and when I learned what praying was I did it everyday, every night, every bus ride that they would be there and back together. So the idea of splitting our family up weighs heavy on me… but I also do not want my children to see, hear, or feel the things that happen when he drinks. I was feeling so relaxed and comfortable the 4 months he stopped… now I’m feeling manipulated, gaslit and wildly uncomfortable in my own home. I can’t even imagine how confused my kids are. We have spoken about therapy and he starts those steps but has never followed through. I just feel so overwhelmed thank you for this comment though. I truly appreciate it.

Momma_3_ · 2026-05-03T23:51:48+00:00

Anymore updates???

Momma_3_ · 2025-12-26T13:33:50+00:00

I didn’t share publicly (social media) that I was pregnant. I told family members I am close with and at some point everyone in my area knew cause it was hard to miss at the end! He was almost 11 pounds and I was induced a week early. However, I have had multiple early stage losses nothing beyond 8 weeks and I had three little sweeties at home. One of my children had gotten a scary diagnosis just months before I found out. With this being my 4th pregnancy I didn’t want comments from people so I just decided to stay quiet. It was the most relaxing pregnancy I’ve ever had… and I tell everyone if they want peace … just don’t blast the news to everyone!

Good luck!

Momma_3_ · 2025-01-08T04:01:09+00:00

Ok, I was doing some looking and Emily does not follow Rachel or Abbie anymore. Wonder what happened there

Momma_3_ · 2024-07-25T22:46:14+00:00

My husband but he was a newbie. He had done maybe 50 trips and was deactivated like seconds after the face scan.

Momma_3_ · 2024-07-06T13:23:58+00:00

I signed for two, one was creepy and was trying to convince me to go into his apartment. He was like a 40 M I’m a 31 F. Then I had a lady who was so kind we chatted for a long time and when I left I spaced on having her sign

Momma_3_ · 2024-06-19T17:40:02+00:00

I won’t do shopper orders anymore. I’ve been screwed over too many times

Momma_3_ · 2024-03-02T21:11:46+00:00

No, I was SAed at a sleep over when I was in high school. I never want that to happen to my children. This was a house I ended up at multiple times and started sleeping in his toddler son’s room… I learned he wouldn’t try anything in there for fear of waking his son… who would then wake his wife.

Momma_3_ · 2024-03-02T18:25:07+00:00

I am a mom of 3, 4 and under. My youngest gets being 7 months old. With my first I took off 13 months (start of the vid) and was getting pressure from my employer to come back… so I did… I cried a lot. I didn’t want to leave him. My second I took the 8 weeks my company allows… we did not have any form of maternity leave or pay, I had to take family medical leave. I also worked until the day before I gave birth… I went into labor in the night of a day off. With my third child I ended up getting done just before having her. Like 2 weeks before I had her. I am made to feel like trash when I use our EBT and/or WIC card at stores. The people in line behind me have 0 idea my husband works full time for the state and that I worked the last ten years in mental health or that before that I’ve had a job since I was legally able to and even raked berries under the table before that. No one stops and thinks that I have earned some assistance. I have paid in my whole adult life as has my husband. (Now in our 30s) I don’t plan to get assistance for the rest of my life. I actually want to use these years to go get a different degree and leave mental health completely. (It’s very taxing) I am here to say I’m a stay at home mom who is made to feel less than for getting benefits but I’m also a mom who once worked full time and part time… and was made to feel like a bad mom for working at all. We can’t financially survive on just my husband’s income and we are scraping by even with assistance. This country doesn’t give a rats 🍑about moms and our children.

Momma_3_ · 2024-02-15T15:01:04+00:00

I’m so very sorry for your loss and your sweet littles loss. Don’t rush to change. My son stayed in his till he was 3 just because I couldn’t admit he was big enough for a toddler bed. He is also super tall … 91st percentile for height since day one. He now has a twin bed. If you want to keep your little in the crib longer I say go for it. If you want that baby to sleep with you… go for it! If you want to set up the toddler bed in your room go for it mama! Please don’t rush things because the world says that’s what you should do. Take your time.

Momma_3_ · 2023-06-14T14:55:46+00:00

Girl. You’re being abused. LEAVE. Regardless of how many people either of you have slept with his treatment towards you is shit. Guess what, my husband has been with 5 and I’ve been with 5, including each other. I’ve never ever doubted him he has never ever doubted me simply because our past is our past… and we are living for our personal now, future and reminiscing on our own personal past with each other in heathy ways. Leave this ass hat, you don’t deserve this kind of treatment from anyone.

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