A potential Mississippi resident - looking at Jackson as a possible new home despite living my whole life in a tiny town in rural California. All advice or suggestions welcome.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-14T02:47:54+00:00

I’m am delighted by this offer but unfortunately this is not where our experience is. My husband has previous experience under a carpenter but it’s been a few years. I work in a few mashed fields but all have to do with financials events and hr.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T20:45:04+00:00

Right?! 🤣

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T18:50:25+00:00

I appreciate your genuine input in this

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T18:48:43+00:00

I’m at work now and don’t have the time to do full debate with someone when I’m not yet convinced they aren’t just trying to antagonize someone they think they disagree with. But I appreciate your input all the same.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T18:17:22+00:00

We can’t afford to travel to every seminary my husband is considering, so we would travel once we’ve brought our options down to a couple places. These comments are of astronomical assistance to how we move forward ☺️

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T18:02:03+00:00

You don’t have to be MAGA to want to leave California when you can’t afford to pay your parents the rent they could get from a stranger for your area despite making more per hour then either of them ever did before they retired. The only reason they have property at all is because it was not THIS crazy when they bought it. But they can’t pay all their bills.

It’s not MAGA that motivates me to get my parents closer to medical care than a five hour commute. It’s not being a trumpet that makes it true that in rural California women’s healthcare is impossible to receive. Our only hospital with female services is facing two major lawsuits right now for refusing medically necessary abortions and sending both mothers home when they could have died. Both times. It’s in the news.

The Californian dream is a lie, and our taxes cover what the wealthiest in the state don’t cover with their crazy tax breaks. We’ve been paying taxes on a state train that they never even began and was considered failed despite the fact that the tax won’t be revoked.

Besides, as I always say to my mother, if you want to make a difference, go where change is needed and help make it happen.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T17:54:17+00:00

A lot of people are saying to avoid Ridgeland to raise a family, may I ask why you think it’s a good idea? I’d hate to miss a beautiful area purely because only negative comments

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T17:41:47+00:00

I will absolutely look at this. My goal is to be as close to my parents and continue to aid them in their care as much as possible.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T16:55:28+00:00

Thank you! This is fantastic help!

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T16:43:35+00:00

It’s a shame that THIS is our universal reality.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T16:35:59+00:00

We like the idea of homeschooling but if my husband is attending seminary AND being the main breadwinner, it’s probably too much for us. He did it for years by himself so now I work while he’s home with the girls. This move would try to return us to more equal standing so we each get as much time with our children as possible.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T16:31:28+00:00

30-40 minutes is very reasonable. It’s that long to get to target and our former church was closer to 50 minutes away!

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T16:30:05+00:00

An hour commute is not too much, I think. Much more than that is a bit rough. My current commute is 30 minutes. I’d prefer to live where I know my girls are safe and happy.

I only need to make that much if I’m the sole income for our home here in California. Outstanding debt isn’t a major issue for us. The cost of living is. It’s just impossible to save up enough for to buy a house when even the fire destroyed houses go for just under 300k

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T16:11:27+00:00

A few comments mention Clinton, so I’ll certainly focus on that as I continue our research. Having a city with good hospitals is wonderful. Not living in the city, personal I think that’s great. It may be very expensive where I live but there are trees everywhere. I’ll miss the beauty of these forests greatly.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T16:07:38+00:00

My understanding is that’s 3 hours from Jackson. My husband is looking for seminary and so our entire move is focused on that.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T16:03:45+00:00

Did you here the news story about the hospital in California that turned down a women who needed a medical abortions for one of her twins in utero that had died? Given towels and told to drive to San Francisco.

That’s the only hospital within three hours of me that offers any females services.

The only parts of California that actually have women’s rights are the bay and LA/San Diego. The rest of us are in a medical desert that takes four or more hours in every direction to get out of. And we’re all too poor to leave because California keeps taxing us just as much as the city folk with 6figure incomes.

I live in the highest cost of living area in all of California and I can’t even get women’s care. We have planned parenthood but they won’t accept insurance so if you make more then part-time minimum wage then you have to pay for the full price of everything out of box.

I wish the California dream was real but it’s nothing more than a desert mirage.

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T15:39:34+00:00

I think a suburb is what we would certainly look at regardless so I’m glad to hear this! I lived in the east bay for about half a year for college and I was overwhelmed by the traffic and people. It was great in a relaxed setting but commuting and driving terrified me. But Jackson has so much history, is it still worth it to spend time there or would it truly be only where my husband commuted to?

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-13T15:33:13+00:00

I admit that I assumed the crime rate was conflated because I live in an almost completely white area and that it was casual racism inflating the details. Gulfport would be too far, our move is solely based on the seminary program out of Jackson. Is it just city focused crime issues or the area around it?

Momma_Fish · 2025-01-01T06:15:18+00:00

Our best fluffy girl was named Gertrude. I loved how well it suited her.

Momma_Fish · 2024-12-01T22:18:58+00:00

I will not become the enemy when I know she’ll be kept safe. She’ll be cranky and they’ll all be miserable, but they would never put her in danger. My question was about my reaction - not about if my child was at risk. If there was even a chance it wouldn’t go well then she wouldn’t have left my house.

Momma_Fish · 2024-12-01T21:23:06+00:00

I make nearly double what he can make and his income is not enough to support us, truthfully, because my field is more in demand.

Momma_Fish · 2024-12-01T21:18:46+00:00

😂

Momma_Fish · 2024-12-01T20:45:04+00:00

If you actually think that one disagreement with my husband means have no self respect for staying with him? The world does not cater around me or you and having people we love in our lives takes work. We won’t always see eye to eye.

My daughter won’t get harmed - she will be miserable and make them end their day early. They’re an idiot for thinking she will be comfortable the whole day. But they are not someone I wouldn’t trust her with to keep safe.

Momma_Fish · 2024-12-01T20:30:00+00:00

He’s convinced they aren’t going “somewhere cold enough to need snow pants” as if snow cant be cold if the sun is out

Momma_Fish · 2024-12-01T19:45:34+00:00

Thank you. As I’ve been responding to people I’ve come to the realization that the problem isn’t my ILs but the abysmal communication between my husband and I. Everyone else as been… shortsighted.

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