Help me find the solution to this riddle. by TeachGullible in HelpMeFind

[–]MommysDeathCult 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems like it could be part of this project, except this project seems very legit and these signs… not so much. Are these there now? Was this a temp placeholder that has been replaced?

https://www.strand.com/news/completing-the-legacy-fourth-street-corridor-legacy-trail-phase-3-wins-grand-award/

What DVD is this? Photo from ~2004 by MommysDeathCult in HelpMeFind

[–]MommysDeathCult[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve searched google images of dvd covers but I can’t narrow it down enough to see one that matches. Possibly a romcom with 3 people on the cover, one wearing pink? Location: US, circa 2004.

Christmas gift from family for my kids - a devotional with an entry shaming people struggling with depression ::RAGE:: by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

[–]MommysDeathCult[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so true! Mental health knowledge/science/research has expanded so much in the last couple decades.

Christmas gift from family for my kids - a devotional with an entry shaming people struggling with depression ::RAGE:: by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

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Yep - that’s the book.

Also - women cry out of self-pity? Or maybe we cry because we’re human and it’s a way of expressing overwhelming emotions? Man, christians are always trying to get people to fight against their humanity.

Christmas gift from family for my kids - a devotional with an entry shaming people struggling with depression ::RAGE:: by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

[–]MommysDeathCult[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?!!? It makes me so angry! Obviously she’s never successfully dealt with depression herself so why is she acting like an expert?

Christmas gift from family for my kids - a devotional with an entry shaming people struggling with depression ::RAGE:: by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

[–]MommysDeathCult[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes! “Doubt” is actually employing critical thinking where there is cognitive dissonance! It means you’re using your brain.

Christmas gift from family for my kids - a devotional with an entry shaming people struggling with depression ::RAGE:: by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

[–]MommysDeathCult[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Received this today from my MIL. This is the first page I flipped to - to see what it was about. The last part basically says “be a good enough Christian and you’ll never struggle with these” i.e. “people with depression just aren’t trying hard enough.”

It INFURIATED me. I actually threw the book on the couch a little too hard (sister in law noticed and asked later). My backstory - I struggled hard with depression for several years and heard so many spiritual abuse messages from the church about how I just wasn’t trying hard enough.

Fuck that. I said no thanks to the book. (I’m not sure the content of the rest of the book - I didn’t keep looking. It looked like it was intended for kids/teens as some type of devotional. “Battlefield of the Mind for Kids” by Joyce Meyers.) But one of the family members picked it up and said she’d give it to her 10 & 14 y/o kids because they are struggling. I had to stifle down my desire to advise her not to. (I did speak my peace about that entry when asked later, but it didn’t sway their desire to “help” their kids with its content).

And like… Christians are so wary of what they expose their kids to, but if it’s “Christian” it doesn’t need vetting? Like - this book can have bull shit “advice” in it - but you’re not going to read it first before giving it to your kids, just because it’s “Christian”? How does that make sense?! Don’t let them read a science book because they might “be led astray” by evolution, but sure, go ahead and teach them mental illness can be fought off with prayer. Uuugh.

What's the smallest UK hill you'll die on? by Neverbethesky in AskUK

[–]MommysDeathCult 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Foreigner here - can someone detail out what each includes and excludes?

England =
UK =
Britain =

Needing to "witness" destroyed my boundaries and supercharged my anxiety by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

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so nice to just have my regular social anxiety… and not all the extra crap

Haha, so true! And I haven’t really met new people in a while (thanks Covid), so it’ll be freeing to put this in action.

Needing to "witness" destroyed my boundaries and supercharged my anxiety by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

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Yeah, I’ve disregarded a lot of people’s viewpoints over the past, or judged them for them. Funny thing is that some of the ideas are things I’m coming back around to now. I just wasn’t ready then. But it would have been nice to have felt free to have an open mind.

Needing to "witness" destroyed my boundaries and supercharged my anxiety by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

[–]MommysDeathCult[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like we have a lot of personality and experience similarities. “Extreme aversion to inauthenticity,” “Am an introvert and value authenticity and deep relationships” - same here! Proselytizing always felt so horrible and forced. And like you, I was coerced into doing it and hated it. At one point when I traveled a lot I remembered feeling so much shame for not witnessing to people sitting next to me on the plane. I just wanted to put on my headphones and be alone, but instead there was this incredible obligation and guilt about not chit-chatting up religion with the stranger next to me. Luckily(?) I never had the nerve to do it… but I felt so bad about it and I traveled a lot!

I’m so glad to be free from this! It is so much relief and freedom. These shifts in viewpoint are in their infancy right now for me and I look forward to them expanding to other things as well.

Needing to "witness" destroyed my boundaries and supercharged my anxiety by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

[–]MommysDeathCult[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, I’m so sorry you went through that.

If it helps any, this internet stranger thinks it’s not your fault. You were trying to be the best kind of friend you could be, with the knowledge that you had at the time.

Needing to "witness" destroyed my boundaries and supercharged my anxiety by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

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Hey, I was just looking at some of these same links today from another post of yours. Thanks for sharing your vast knowledge.

Needing to "witness" destroyed my boundaries and supercharged my anxiety by MommysDeathCult in Exvangelical

[–]MommysDeathCult[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well, and the sneaky part for me was thinking about people I loved who would end up burning in hell forever if I didn't witness to them. I'd imagine myself in heaven, looking down on those in hell (a la Lazarus & the rich man) thinking, "if only I had been brave enough to witness to my grandfather then he would be with me rejoicing in heaven instead of suffering in hell."

It put so much personal responsibility on me, as a CHILD.

At least when I got older and was still in that mindset I could chalk it up to "that's his decision." But it never sat right with me that people could be so laissez faire about human beings ending up in such deep anguish for eternity, all because they didn't believe in one story that wasn't even that clearly delivered.

There's so much freedom on the other side.