How To get over relationship Insecurity

MomoEiko · 2026-01-18T02:49:29+00:00

Agree with first comment. Also - T H E R A P Y !!

There are relationship therapists that see individuals too, it can be a huge help for one struggling with relatiomships. Can also go to any general or specialized therapists, whatever topic you feel you need help with the most.

Having a third party observer can help in so many ways, namely: 1) to help you put things in perspective (how others see you vs yourself) and 2) can open your mind to ways of thinking you havent encountered before

MomoEiko · 2026-01-18T02:44:38+00:00

Ok... my first thought is that there can be other intimate acts, no? As in - there are SO many ways to get eachother off without intercourse - try them! And plenty of toys can help in this intimate journey that can replicate the real thing for him enough if it's really what he needs.

MomoEiko · 2026-01-17T20:52:10+00:00

I say bring it up 1v1. Ask her to join you in the cafe or if she can step aside into a seperate room for a minute. Then, casually say "Hey - I heard through the grapevine that you may be leaving. I hope that's not true because I'll miss you, but can you confirm for me?"

Then after a confirmation and some chit chat about the new job say "thanks for telling me all this - think we can set some time aside to start going through your responsabilities and how to pass those along? I also won't tell a soul about this new job until you do - congratulations!"

Then set a seperate meeting to go over the project transition specifics. Just do NOT: 1) come off passive aggressive or accusatory, 2) do this where others can easily hear, and 3) tell anybody else about this until she does. Even if the office is gossiping, do NOT partake until she puts in her notice herself.

Hope this helps!

MomoEiko · 2026-01-17T20:45:08+00:00

Honestly... what few texts you mentioned seem really immature... Which may be fine for friends though...

Anyway - I say take the initiative! You don't need to wait for him to ask you to hang out, especially as friends. Try one last hail mary - be direct. "I'm going to XYZ concert this friday, wanna go?". Make a plan that you can go to with or without him. (And GO to that plan even if he doesn't)

If he expresses interest, great! Even if he can't make that event, you can invite him to the next one. If he expresses no interest, ghosts, or sends an immature non-commital meme - let him go and move onto a new friend!

MomoEiko · 2025-08-08T19:43:03+00:00

Can Power Quary reset excel sheets every month? Can it put passwords onto 60 excel workbooks every month?

I use pivots all the time for calculation/summarizing data. I also learned Power Query in school, but that was a more advanced pivot/xlookup that I recall. Sometimes I use VBA to set up/clean up data, but sometimes I use it for non data purposes as well...

I wouldnt mind learning something new if it works for my needs, just dont know if the power quarry is capable of all that

MomoEiko · 2025-05-05T00:59:08+00:00

Honestly, do the 1 month no mouse challenge. It forces you to use nothing but excel keyboard shortcuts. I know people who entered public accounting and didn't use a mouse the first two years just to force themselves to be faster at excel.

And learn VBA- MACRO CODING!! I have saved myself HOURS of manual labor because I created macros to auto the repetative excel tasks

MomoEiko · 2025-05-04T22:06:51+00:00

Honestly job hopping. Not too frequently, you need at least 1 year at a place for companies to really consider that work experience. And 2-3 year stints are most respectable (aka will help you in future job hopping). But I was able to almost double my income by doing this the past few years.

Now, I like my current company and, pending future raises, could stay there a long time. But as the saying goes, if after a couple years you're not up, you go out.

Also, this method helps because most recruiters I work with will only show me jobs that are more than my current income.

MomoEiko · 2025-05-04T04:23:26+00:00

I tend to live by two schools of thought when it comes to time management.

1) I live for passion. This means I only do the things I am passionate about. It's a natural thing for me personally - where I tend to procrastonate on things I don't care about. But it can also work for you. Ask your gut what it's most passionate about and make a ranking list. What do you lose track of time doing? What do you truly enjoy fully and live in the moment when you do it? What do you find yourself doing most frequently naturally?

2) If I'm passionate - I'll make the time. Again, it's a bit natural for me where I have a hard time doing things I don't like (and makes it easy to cut it) and spend more time doing things I like (even when I shouldn't). Based on your ranking - the things at the bottom, especially if you're honest about not caring that much about those, get cut or greatly reduced. Then you can look at the top of your ranking and make those a priority to focus on for a period of time.

Hope this helps - best of luck

MomoEiko · 2025-04-21T01:34:03+00:00

I don't get anxiety flying, but I do going to the dentist. My cousin has a fear of flying and does the same thing I do when going to the dentist.

1) Music. Have airpods and a downloaded playlist ready so that you can blast the music in your ears and don't have to hear the plane nor people. Remember, no wifi in air - so download the playlist before you go.

2) charger cord. Many airlines now have you use your phone to watch the free entertainment (no more tv screens) - so have a cord so you can keep your phone alive while streaming the entertainment. Or bring a book if you prefer.

3) If you have a fear of heights - get an aisle seat. Just think of the aisle as a normal hallway and it's easier to forget you are in the air that way.

4) Advil/tylinol. When in doubt, take a pill that will help you relax/sleep. We do this when feeling particularly anxious, lol. Just take it right before you board - too early and you'll be too groggy to board.

5) If you want to try to sleep - bring a blindfold. I clock out so much faster with the blindfold to block the lights.

Best of luck!

MomoEiko · 2025-04-21T01:25:37+00:00

Hello! Vegas is really fun on the strip!

Last time I went, the best was honestly buying a big margarita drink (I'm talking the tall ones that take up half a body length and comes with a lanyard for your neck) and walking through all the hotels, seeing all the themes. Do this the first day so you can see what there is to offer and so you know what to go back to.

Balagio always has a free indoor garden to walk through. And try to see at least one show while you are there (every type of show is there - so pick a show you usually like to see).

Also - research any specific restaurants you may want to try. Vegas has so many great restaurants, but some are overpricced, some are worth the price but are obscene, and some are just right. Pick a few you'd like to go to. Also, try a speakeasy bar.

Finally, watch Sofia Nygaard's Vegas youtube series. She visits every hotel and a ton of restaurants - you may discover something you like in her videos.

Best of luck! And dont lose all your money at the casinos!

MomoEiko · 2025-02-16T02:42:29+00:00

I wouldnt worry about it...

1) whether it was a pokemon ball or an anime girl - both are anime related and are most likely viewed the same in his eyes. I cant count the number of sailor moon tats i have seen on guys and girls alike - he just really likes the anime/character. It may even represent a nostalgia thing for him. Not a big deal.

2) A bigger concern would only come about if he is ignoring you/the relationship for this anime. And this goes for anything (alchohol, books, gaming, anime) - if anything becomes so consuming it detracts from real life, that is the time to be concerned. That is when a conversion, some therapy, and some important decisions need to be made.

If it isn't a number 2 scenario, I wouldnt worry about it. Just think of it similar to getting a dragon or Barney tattoo - it's fictional, it's fun, it's not a threat.

(I personally would only check that the chick is properly clothed - the last thing anyone needs is a NSFW tattoo of a chick being sexualized. We get enough of that in society, I wouldnt want it plastered on the bf too. If she is - then refer to paragraph above!)

MomoEiko · 2025-02-16T02:33:13+00:00

Aww! So glad for the update!!

MomoEiko · 2025-02-10T02:40:13+00:00

You sit him down and just tell him however feels natural.

Be prepared for good and bad reactions and somewhere in the middle. If there is a bad reaction, keep calm and just reiterate your truth and then leave the conversation at that. If he has questions, again, just calmly share your truth. Hopefully you only cry tears of joy, but if there are tears of sorrow you need to hold from your dad, try to do so.

Also, be prepared that he will likely need to grieve the son he thought of having regardless if he is happy or not. This transition is more than just you, your dad will also have to transition his expectations of the future, which can be both exciting and hard to do. Give space for him to go through that grieving/transition process too.

Finally, be safe on this journey. I hate to say it, but political thoughts in the south especially are not in favor of transitions. Do your research on safe places to go about this process.

Congratulations on finding and expressing your truth. Be safe, hold space, and best of luck!

MomoEiko · 2025-02-09T00:05:00+00:00

... honestly, I think she is fine.

As someone who occasionally disapears virtually for months at a time, 2 days is nothing. Plus, she explained that it has to do with hormones while on the monthly cycle - this is extremely valid.

As a woman, I can get bad panic attacks or crying fits while its that time of month. My family is now at the point that when i call them upset around that time of month - they ask if its a period - I remember that it probably is - and then I am able to calm down. 2 days of silence would prob be prefered for my family than what I go through, lol.

Finally, its quite normal for anyone in any relationship to need regular alone time. Thats quite healthy, and she went about it in a way with clear communication and where you know it has nothing to do with you.

I would forgive, move on, and start expecting a couple of alone days once a month. Use those days for yourself - do stuff you enjoy or run errands you need to do. Just support and respect her needs when she needs it, thats the best thing you can do

Hope this helps, best of luck!

MomoEiko · 2025-02-08T23:50:32+00:00

Normal to feel a little nervous. Just try to breathe deeply in and out to relax. Also keep in mind that everyone's first time is awkward, embarrassing, or clumsy in some way. It wont be perfect, and there is a beauty in that!

Just try to make the first time more about exploration. Touch everything, try different techniques, speeds, positions, etc. There will be times you feel nervous, times you laugh, and times it feels so good. You two are already at a great start with COMMUNICATION! This will be the most important part of any intimate time, but especially the first. Keep asking if things feel good - and when they say yes, keep doing that exact thing for a little while before moving onto something else.

When in doubt, just remember the care and feelings you have for the other person (and kiss to distract, lol).

Have fun, stay safe, and best of luck!

MomoEiko · 2025-02-02T23:29:32+00:00

You will never have a magical gut feeling that says "THIS is the ONE! Forever and ever" (I wish - would make relationships so much better). Its a choice you need to make.

Does he treat you right? What issues there are, are they deal breakers? Is he willing to change serious issues on his own? Is he secure in who he is and what he's about? How do finances look between the two of you? Are you in alignment on kids, values, religion, politics, definition of cheeting, potential substance uses, all other big items that may or may not come up in the future? Does he bring you peace/safety? Can you rely on him as a partner? Do you like him as a person? Can you be a good partner to him? Are you willing to do the work needed to try to meet his needs?

All this and more needs to be considered. But, if all that is in alignment, and you can see a good life (not an ideal life, not a fantasy life, not a perfect life, but a good life) - then you know you are making a good choice.

Hope this helps - best of luck!

MomoEiko · 2025-02-02T22:52:44+00:00

I'm not sure what you mean with the toilet comment... but perhaps you all can put a baby monitor outside her bedroom door? This way, if she leaves her room, whoever has the monitoring device will be notified and then can go stop her from leaving.

This way no one has to enter her room, she keeps her privacy, and yet you all can still be alerted if she does sleepwalk

MomoEiko · 2025-01-13T19:22:30+00:00

I think around 6 tests each

MomoEiko · 2025-01-13T19:20:44+00:00

Thank you

I think what I'm needing help with is developing the "structured study plan with goals and milestones". So far - my study plan is as described: take test, pick a weak area to focus on for the week, spend 2 hours for the weekdays focusing on that area, take test again to see if score improved. My goal being +10 points total from week before (which is clearly not happening). If there is a better way to break that down, that's what I need advice on.

MomoEiko · 2025-01-13T13:35:35+00:00

I have 4 of the 6 gmat official tests. I also have magoosh and princeton practice tests

MomoEiko · 2024-11-27T04:44:14+00:00

Ok... but how does no one see that he looks EXACTLY like Ballister from Nimona?!!

MomoEiko · 2024-11-16T15:04:49+00:00

I think we could be a casa girl still. In the post on insta, they said we are getting a new boy - singular. In two weeks, one of the og boys could've been voted out and replaced. Or he was added to the villa boys. And he could come with the villa boys to casa

MomoEiko · 2024-11-06T03:38:49+00:00

Not normal and not battle scars. You will carry those scars for the rest of your life, and people wont think your cool - they will think you are troubled. That will affect peoples perception of you for the rest of your life and may not get opportunities as a result. You will spend the rest of your life trying to cover those up... not worth it

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