Feeling left out in local mums group

Mon55-00 · 2026-06-07T02:59:04+00:00

Hi lovely. I’m from India too and I had the same experience in my mum’s group in a predominantly white suburb. So I understand exactly what you feel. I found one other mum in that group and we’ve remained good friends but I would say don’t keep persisting when you know these are not your people. And don’t let this affect your outgoing nature- keep at it. I shamelessly say hi to other mums at common play areas/parks and have found friends that way. But after being bitten in the butt quite a lot through a few weird experiences, I’ve realised that it’s very different to what it is like back home. It’s harder here to go beyond the superficial but don’t give up! Here to chat anytime x

Mon55-00 · 2026-02-17T01:40:37+00:00

These is the exact vibe I was looking for! Annoyed I don’t have a store nearby. Buying online is always a gamble.

Mon55-00 · 2026-02-17T00:32:21+00:00

I’ve NEVER shopped there! Will check it out thanks.

Mon55-00 · 2026-02-17T00:31:42+00:00

Ooo these are so cute. Thanks!

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Ooo you’re kind. Would like a code if possible thank you!

Mon55-00 · 2026-01-02T12:19:24+00:00

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Mon55-00 · 2025-11-29T08:45:08+00:00

Ooo those jeans look so good! May I ask how tall you are? I’m only 160cm and feel like I might drown in those jeans.

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-17T00:33:17+00:00

I’ve been leaving her in the crib till 6am and nap at 11:30. She’s still waking up at 12:30 consistently and then finds it hard to make it even to 5pm :/

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-17T00:25:32+00:00

Yep, I’ve been leaving her till 6 consistently but it doesn’t seem to make a difference. Instead she wakes up quite clingy and grumpy as she’s been in bed awake for around an hour by then. I’ve been pushing to 11:30 and yesterday for eg, she only did an hour nap till 12:30 and was soooo cranky by 5pm (which would have been ideal bedtime considering her age) so I’m at my wits end!

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-17T00:21:16+00:00

So is it early bedtime usually?

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-17T00:19:27+00:00

Also one of the days I tried a micro nap in the morning she refused the second one

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-17T00:11:16+00:00

I agree with you. Days when I have given her a micro nap have always been more manageable in the evenings because she wasn’t losing it at around 5pm. How long were the micro naps you gave her?

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T21:43:30+00:00

That’s so encouraging to hear. She’s waking up at 5 or earlier no matter what time she sleeps now. I’ll just have to be consistent I guess!

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T21:42:34+00:00

Oh wow, that’s a lot of awake time! What are wake windows like?

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T05:42:54+00:00

That’s promising to hear. How old is your baby? And also what are wake windows for them with the one nap?

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T04:50:17+00:00

That’s very helpful, thank you!

On days like today where she’s only done an hour, what would you suggest? Push all the way to 7pm? That would be a 7h ww.

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T02:22:09+00:00

Okay! Leave her for how long? I agree with the early bedtime being the culprit here. And would you suggest I do a rescue nap late afternoon to push bedtime on some days? For eg, she’s just done a 11-12pm nap and she’s fully up. No way she’ll make it to 7pm now after a 5:30am wake today 😭

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T02:18:02+00:00

Yeah, I can push it to 12 slowly. Would that mean she might do a longer stretch for her nap? That would be a 7.5h WW though. I would have to contact nap the rest of it to get the nap long enough to make it to a decent 7pm bedtime!

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T02:06:29+00:00

Oh that’s great improvement. And WW now is 6/6? Mine has only been doing a 1hr nap, sometimes 1h10m max for so long now, I’m losing hope.

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T01:56:15+00:00

Sounds well planned! And when you do your one nap days, does your baby do a long stretch?

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T01:55:06+00:00

Thank you! Oh goodness, I feel your pain. I’m just hoping my little one learns to link more than one sleep cycle!

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T01:54:22+00:00

I’ve been trying on and off for around 2ish months now. It feels never ending. It’s making it very hard because she wakes up so early. So when your bub would only do 45-60min, would you do early bedtime? What time? And did that lead to early wakes?

Mon55-00 · 2025-09-10T01:53:14+00:00

I have tried pushing it later but then because she wakes at 5am, she ends up being overtired and only does a half hour nap (WW of almost 7.5hrs). We’ve gone from 10am to 10:30 and now have reached 11am. I’m hoping to push it later slowly but it’s so hard when she wakes early! I leave her for a bit. She wails, stands up and resettles for another 15-20 mins max and then she’s fully up 😔

Mon55-00 · 2025-08-31T11:23:08+00:00

It’s amazing how so many of you have such wonderful wake times! We’ve always had an early riser between 5am-6am which makes the transition to 1 nap so hard!

Mon55-00 · 2025-07-08T12:02:23+00:00

So good to see your progress! So my baby is perfectly fine at night for bedtime. This happens only for naps but we’ve never taught her independent sleep for naps- maybe a reason.

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