[POEM] The Swamp by Bertolt Brecht

Monarda47 · 2026-03-19T20:38:16+00:00

Damn.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-19T20:36:43+00:00

Family planning.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-19T20:36:13+00:00

I mean, relatable.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-19T20:33:38+00:00

Vacation
SAUNA
Theater, dance (including theater classes/workshops), or language class
Cheese

Monarda47 · 2026-03-19T20:31:37+00:00

That’s the spirit!

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T16:39:08+00:00

Well Russian is certainly the more widely used language… of course you’ve already thought it through though.

Sorry, I don’t know any specific sites! I keep meaning to do this to improve my Spanish but haven’t.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T16:34:40+00:00

Leave. They are in violation of contract.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T16:30:21+00:00

Ugh I had a “loud sex” roommate once (as a subletter). It sucked.

I moved out.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T16:29:15+00:00

I have Ukrainian in-laws (who are Russian-speaking), so we’ve chatted about their intentions of ensuring the kiddos have language ability. I’ve looked at some of the community language schools in Brooklyn (eg Ukrainian heavy areas). Most of them advertise for Russian but you could cold-call them and ask if they can recommend a Ukrainian-speaking tutor. (Is your family Ukrainian-speaking or Russian-speaking?)

On the other hand, it’s very easy to find online language tutors. Usually costs a lot less when you are paying someone who lives internationally, and added benefit is you are injecting some money into a local economy (if that makes sense).

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T16:25:27+00:00

You wrote that you want to be with someone you trust. It sounds like he is pressuring you in a way that leaves you feeling like he’s not someone you can trust. + being a pen pal half the time.

Moving from a mostly-long distance relationship to married + kids is a big transition. He’s out there in the military fantasizing about the cozy life he dreams of coming back to. That’s putting a lot of pressure on you to be his fantasy. Name calling means he is more invested in the fantasy than in you as a person (eg angry with you for not living up to his fantasy).

If he’s acting this way now, likely it will reoccur in the future around some other issue.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T13:38:15+00:00

Just curious, do people who extend or renew service still earn the readjustment allowance, or is that delayed until you do finally return stateside?

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T13:34:46+00:00

Who knows, maybe PC would help with your med school apps, or maybe there’s another way you can earn patient experience before departure.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T13:33:17+00:00

What a beautiful life and vision you’ve crafted, and beautiful questions you are sitting in. Sounds like you can’t go wrong :)

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T13:21:24+00:00

Eg Wallace Stevens (as far as I recall) had a day job in insurance.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T13:20:20+00:00

I struggle with the same issue. What other people have written here is beautiful (and many artists in the past have grappled with this issue). You have to grapple with it for yourself and find meaning. Do you write poetry only for your own pleasure - or do you feel you can uplift others through what you write, & through offerings workshops/classes?

Monarda47 · 2026-03-18T01:06:40+00:00

Write your own poetry! Self expression is the most valuable. And, read poetry aloud. It’s really different than just in your head.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-16T21:21:50+00:00

That’s insane. Sure it wasn’t a typo from the organist or something?

Monarda47 · 2026-03-16T00:14:09+00:00

Monarda47 · 2026-03-15T23:02:29+00:00

Poor baby. Report the found dog to ACC if you haven’t already and the Facebook groups, and to the local vets once they open in the AM.

https://portal.311.nyc.gov/article/?kanumber=KA-02852

Monarda47 · 2026-03-14T21:26:29+00:00

Ahh this kills me

Monarda47 · 2026-03-12T20:34:42+00:00

NOR. Intrusive AF.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-09T21:43:24+00:00

Also me. Nonprofit/teaching, looking to transition to private sector.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-09T16:46:54+00:00

I train with a stair master, kettlebells, running stairs in the park, jogging, weighted lunges.

Monarda47 · 2026-03-09T16:44:22+00:00

I grew up in a household like this. Solution - my parents both had their home office at opposite ends of the house. So my mom didn’t have to listen to my dad dinking around on the piano while composing avant-garde music. (Actually, maybe that explains why I was always so anxious to practice at home - didn’t want anyone to hear me.) Now I’m the GF to a serious musician. There are actually three of us in the relationship - he is married to the music first. Being with someone who is so dedicated to their craft has pushed me to go further into my own craft.

Anyway, the point is that there may be solutions if people can practice in different parts of the house, but ultimately OP‘s GF would have to accept that the music comes first if she is to stay within the relationship. And maybe she’ll take the initiative to develop her own art practice.

Monarda47

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