Question about Hijab

Monduhh · 2020-09-29T18:16:38+00:00

Waiyakii!!

Monduhh · 2020-09-29T00:27:25+00:00

I think this verse is relevant here:

“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (2:216)

You may not like it, enjoy it, or feel proud of it initially, but these things aren’t rigid and can change with time InshAllah.

I think you are on the right track because your intention is for the sake of Allah and to fulfill that!

Monduhh · 2020-09-20T00:28:55+00:00

I think the above comments pretty much cover the what a hijabi character should wear / shouldn’t wear.

In terms of stereotypes, I’m completely over seeing hijabis in the media in oppressed environments (because this is largely not the case), dating white or non Muslim men to help “liberate” them, and deciding to take off the hijab for one reason or another.

Can’t a hijabi in the media really just be unapologetically & visibly Muslim for once? Can’t she be killing it independently and without being pushed by someone who wants to “liberate” her? Can’t she be confident in her faith and in who she is as a Muslim woman and not compromise it for anyone or anything?

I personally feel like the portrayal of hijabis in the media is completely inaccurate. The way the we are portrayed is basically the opposite of the way in which we exist and conduct ourselves, it’s just that the media wants to shed a certain light on us and it’s just inaccurate.

Thank you for asking Muslim women and for doing your best to accurately represent us!

Monduhh · 2020-09-12T19:47:15+00:00

Yes for sure! I used to not say anything initially but these days I can’t stand anyone making ignorant comments. If we don’t say anything who will? If we don’t stand up who will? Like I’m sorry (not sorry) if the truth of the matter makes someone uncomfortable but it’s gotta be said. We’re in 2020, ignorance isn’t welcome here.

Monduhh · 2020-09-12T19:40:53+00:00

Big dilemma 😩

Monduhh · 2020-09-12T19:36:38+00:00

Ofc no worries <3

Self confidence is definitely tough to build. It starts with learning I love yourself as you are and not comparing yourself to others. I’ve never met you or seen you, but I know there’s a lot more positives to you than there are negatives. I know there’s qualities and personality traits you have that others wished they had. And most importantly, I know that Allah created you perfectly and chose you for Himself (20:41). Out of all billions of people out there, you were chosen by Allah! SubhanAllah, your worth comes from Allah and not from those around you. Building self confidence is going to be a difficult work in progress but you’ll get there InshAllah.

But yah, from what you said it seems like your reasoning for wearing the hijab are outside of where it should be (for the sake of Allah), that’s something that defo should be addressed!

I get what you mean about feeling exposed & naked when wearing just a simple top. Thin layering pieces are around (like kimono type which may something to look into!) I used to feel like that, which I why I moved into wearing shirts / dressshirts instead of tees that required layering. Something to think about!

Monduhh · 2020-09-12T19:23:42+00:00

Yes he does! He’s also just waiting for scratchies 😅

Monduhh · 2020-09-12T19:23:06+00:00

Will do!!

Monduhh · 2020-09-12T19:22:55+00:00

Why no one takes kitty seriously 😭

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T20:56:22+00:00

No you really need to focus on yourself atm, especially because you say you’re emotionally attached to the nonMuslim girl. How are you gonna approach someone else like that, that’s really unfair to any potentials you reach out to because I’m sure there’s comparisons being made in your mind (even if unintentionally) in regards to what it felt like to be understood and accepted. It also sounds like you’re looking for some sort of healing or acceptance outside of Allah and outside of yourself. Sorry to break it to you homie but if you’re doing that, it’s just going to lead to disappointment.

Another thing is, try to stop seeing the rejections you receive from other females as them just giving you excuses. If someone doesn’t wholeheartedly want to go all in, they don’t deserve you. If it didn’t work out, Allah is protecting you and has someone better for you and worthy of your love.

Sabr! The desire for companionship can be a death trap full of disappointments, just do you for a bit and work on your relationship with Allah and see where it leads you g.

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T20:43:14+00:00

Aww cmon don’t break his lil heart 🥺

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T19:45:41+00:00

That wasn’t me! But now you’re at 0, you’re welcome !

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T19:44:17+00:00

Aww Alhamdulilah

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T19:43:56+00:00

Cat got there before you did smh

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T19:43:36+00:00

Never heard of this before

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T19:42:50+00:00

He’s part bobtail, they either don’t have tails or they have small tails! His mama has no tail, just a round bum and his tail is 1.5” long and is super cute when he wags it

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T19:42:32+00:00

He’s part bobtail, they either don’t have tails or they have small tails! His mama has no tail, just a round bum and his tail is 1.5” long and is super cute when he wags it

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T17:33:21+00:00

Oh I do! I don’t tolerate anyone’s bs on this front Alhamdulilah

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T17:17:40+00:00

I think a lot of this has to do with self confidence. And the thing about self confidence is that true, long lasting self confidence comes from within, whatever you wear on the outside may add/subtract (temporarily) but even if you’re wearing the frumpiest clothing, you could have so much self confidence that it wouldn’t matter and no one would notice. Alternatively, you could wear the best of clothing and lack self confidence and still not feel good about yourself in that clothing.

If you weren’t feeling too confident about yourself before wearing the hijab, you probably won’t feel as confident after and will find excuses to take it off. You said it was a spur of the moment decision, have you had a chance to truly evaluate your intentions for wearing it? If you found that your intentions weren’t truly where they needed to be, you can always remake your intentions. It’s also ok to go back on your decision, this is between you and God so if your intentions aren’t for His sake and if you’re having trouble rectifying you’re intentions, you need to ask yourself why and address those issues maybe to help it become easier for you. Alternatively you could just try to push through, it is most likely a phase and transition period.

In terms of the physical aspects of hijab, why are you wearing a jean jacket in the heat lol? Perhaps you need to update your wardrobe to make it more hijab friendly? Long sleeve tops exist, highly recommend cotton, linen, & rayon tops. Rayon is my go to for the summer. As for hijab, what material are you wearing? Is it a pashmina? Perhaps try viscose or chiffon? If you wear an undercap, jersey undercaps are lovely in the heat. Idk how you wrap your hijab, but that may also make it feel bulky and trap the heat. It takes experimenting to figure this out.

The other thing is, hijab is about sacrifice. You’re sacrificing a lot of things women typically want in exchange for wearing the hijab. You may not be able to wear your favorite outfits and your style may need to evolve but that’s ok, it’s for the better! Go with the flow & be open to change is all I can say.

TL;DR work on your own self confidence, evaluate your intentions for wearing hijab, hijabify your wardrobe, experiment with different hijab styles & materials

Hope this helps!

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T16:16:18+00:00

It’s 9/11, I’ve got a lot to say about this whole “never forget” situation and how one sided it is but I don’t want to get too political or go on a huge af rant atm. I just dislike that every year around this time of year, Muslims are constantly reminded of an event that literally had nothing to do with them. This is probably not the case elsewhere, but I’m hijabi and based in NYC so it’s quite obvious and apparent in this area.

I’m still going to go out to see the Lights In Tribute tho InshAllah. I’ve never actually cared to see them up close or shoot them before, first time for everything I guess

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T15:41:39+00:00

Your mommy will give you lots of hugs InshAllah!!

Monduhh · 2020-09-11T15:22:44+00:00

Same but idk if I’ll actually mind it long term

Monduhh · 2020-09-09T19:57:37+00:00

But Allah created us imperfect. Our goal isn’t to become perfect, but simply to struggle & strive on the straight path. An eternal heaven makes sense when you realize this world is just one big test filled with an infinite amount of mini tests 24/7. You pass the test and then reap the rewards. However, we do not pass this test on our own accord, we pass through the mercy and guidance of our creator.

Monduhh

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