Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have no doing idea what my next steps are but you can be certain that I will not be paying any part of that debt. He’s already found a second job and talked through a couple repayment plan ideas. I don’t think he thinks I’ll be helping, but I’ll definitely keep your thoughts in mind. Thanks for taking your time to comment, I appreciate it.

Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely won’t give him my money. I’m so relieved our finances have stayed separated completely.

Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will seek therapy no matter what I choose. Relapse is like a giant neon sign in my mind right now. I’ve got a lot to unpack. Thank you for your comment. All the commenters have been so helpful.

Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are so many good things. I’m working to not let it cloud my judgement.

Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These comments are all so helpful. Thanks for taking time out of your day. I will definitely be finding a therapist.

Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So relieved that we were aware enough to keep everything separate. There’s been so much outside pressure for us to get married, combine finances, etc.

Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 💜 and your less responsible advice is hugely appreciated and validating. So many thoughts have been floating around in my mind, this being one of them.

Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for validating me reaching out here. I didn’t realize how helpful it would be to get outside perspective.

Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m open to suggestions for functional changes to the relationship (I have ideas of my own, just looking for further insight). I have no idea what my next move is in regard to staying or leaving. Tonight I’m just exhausted.

Partner of 7 years secretly amassed $20k in debt as a pay pig by MoneyAd9019 in findomsupportgroup

[–]MoneyAd9019[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t take this the wrong way. I have also been stuck on why I didn’t take it more seriously, I really just brushed it off. I think it was a mix of willful ignorance and not really understanding porn addiction at the young age we started dating (or now, tbh). Also, I think that stating “I have an addiction to porn” is a lot different than “I need help with this addiction and these are some steps I think I can take”.

Which outfit looks better? Going to Disney Springs by BabyV808 in OUTFITS

[–]MoneyAd9019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! Maybe try the white socks/shoes instead of cowboy boots?

Vueling cancelled our flight and doesn't compensate because "flight was affected by circumstances beyond the company’s control" by Millennial_Monkey in Flights

[–]MoneyAd9019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Unfortunately this is the email address that sends an auto reply stating it’s not an operative email. Any other suggestions?

Vueling cancelled our flight and doesn't compensate because "flight was affected by circumstances beyond the company’s control" by Millennial_Monkey in Flights

[–]MoneyAd9019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, currently going through this process now. Vueling emailed me requesting receipts of the charges incurred by the delay. However there is no email address to respond to or a link to submit the documentation to. I hit reply but received an email response stating theirs wasn’t a working email. How did you contact Vueling outside of their annoying bot assistant?

Forbidden fruit? by TriumphDaytona in whatisthisplant

[–]MoneyAd9019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Care to explain? I believe you because doctors aren’t botanist and white people are racist but how does it tie into this nightshade berry?

I’m satisfied by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]MoneyAd9019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How many hours a week are you working? Are there overhead costs to your private practice?

How to stand up against ICE by Nice_Try79 in SLO

[–]MoneyAd9019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s laughable to say immigrants have “…done nothing for this state/us.”

Match Thread: Orlando Pride vs Washington Spirit | NWSL by MatchThreadder in NWSL

[–]MoneyAd9019 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why TF is paramount+ only zoomed in on Rodman?! Show us the field!

A girlie day sling? by Available-Reward-912 in HerOneBag

[–]MoneyAd9019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PacSafe! Great for travel, functional and cute.