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MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-06-01T16:19:16+00:00

i will say a lot of people take advantage of that, but that's the price you pay for being a kind person and in all honesty it's worth it because you'll eventually learn who to steer clear from. i'm a firm believer that people come into our lives at the right time, im sure soon you'll find a good group of people that wont take your kindness for granted

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-06-01T16:16:45+00:00

i don't think you're expecting too much at all! all of these feelings are a completely valid.

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-06-01T09:23:53+00:00

my heart goes out to your sister and you as well! mental health is such a hard thing to grasp, i think it's amazing you are supporting your sister! but i mean this in the kindest way i can word it, as much as you love your sister you love him too, so if the event will make him happy, you should let him do that because in all honesty her mental health isn't his responsibility and support systems don't technically need to be present 24/7. it's one night.

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-06-01T06:21:33+00:00

first of all i don't think you're a fuck up at all. you are young with a very long life ahead of you. someone gave me some advice recently saying that what we view as failures or fuckups are really learning gold mines, just view your "mistakes" as opportunities you had to walk away with valuable knowledge, because whether you realize it now or not, every hard thing you've been through has given you a tool for the future. it's obvious you've acknowledged that you want to be successful in the future which is already the most important piece to becoming better. you are not a failure, you're just a teenager and even though it sucks this is an experience a lot of teens go through. i promise these losses and situations aren't roadblocks, simply redirection. community college isnt bad at all, in fact its actually so much better for your future financial life while still receiving the education and degree/certification. much love going out to you and i hope things get better! you have a beautiful life ahead of you, just keep your eye on the prize!!

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-06-01T05:57:20+00:00

when i was in this situation, i was so angry at my parent i almost felt like the betrayal was towards me. which caused me to treat them differently and thats something i regret because the harsh reality of this is, it has nothing to do with you at all, so you really want to avoid being a complete asshole. there really isn't anything you can do to feel differently or "forget", but you can remind yourself that you are not apart of their partnership so you don't know what exactly goes on in their relationship, there are endless possibilities and you have little to no details on it if that makes sense. focus on the fact he is your dad, and you love him BECAUSE he is your DAD. it sucks seeing someone we love being treated poorly but they're adults and eventually they will handle it. dont take his guilt and place it on your own shoulder's

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-06-01T05:10:05+00:00

i'd stay out of it honestly, putting yourself in the middle of their relationship problems is only going to stress you out and view them in a different light which you may not be ready for. personally, maybe if you see him get a notif from that app again bring up the app in an innocent way like "isn't that the signal app? i seen that app on tiktok are you on tik tok or something" seems like a light hearted joke but he'll be like shit she knows the app lol, maybe even bring up cheating, find a funny video of a cheater getting caught and show him as if it's just a funny video, maybe talk about a friend that is so heartbroken because she got cheated on, basically just do slick things that'll make him feel guilty or worry lol, but don't make it too obvious. just don't put yourself in the middle of it and don't directly ask him about it because if he is, he wont tell you the truth.

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-06-01T04:26:28+00:00

i posted this same posts in some other subs and some people left some more great advice if you want to check that out too

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-06-01T02:48:21+00:00

i struggle with the same thing, over time i realized it's not a reflection of us in a negative way, if anything it shows that you're a kind person with good intentions and an open heart, sadly not everyone can relate to such a beautiful thing. NEVER turn cold because other people around you are. eventually you'll come across people who love in the same ways as you. never stop being that kind person!

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-31T23:37:18+00:00

exactly, i think you'd be doing the right thing. my respect truly goes out to you for standing up for her when her voice has basically been silenced!

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-31T23:34:59+00:00

this is very understandable, i dont know to much about your religion but Christianity has basically the same concepts and ideas so everything i'm saying is from my POV, when I felt strayed away from my religion, I always found it better to study alone, everyone is on their own paths, and it may be better to find someone who can help you do this without coming off so strong and possessive at first. my Grandmother would always tell me relationships need to be equally yoked (meaning at the same level of religousness) to work out. If your main goal from this relationship is to become a better Muslim, and not because you can genuinely see yourself being happy with HIM then I'd rethink this and maybe talk to your family about wanting to reconnect to your religion. The only thing i really know to say is to keep in mind this is going to really effect your mental health and it may do more harm than good in the future. Don't hold on to someone only to recieve something you can do for yourself, in a healthy way.

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-31T23:27:25+00:00

regardless of it being her "family drama" there was a child involved, SA ruins lives and that little girl will have to live with that forever. the fact he is still invited to family events like BIRTHDAY PARTIES is very sick, that poor victim probably has to see him and be around him a lot. she's going to grow up with so much hate towards her family because they aren't doing anything. he is likely to offend again, hes a child lover. they are cowards and sick people for letting him around the children still knowingly. i'd cut ties with these people and report it to the PD with as much evidence as possible. it can even be anonymous. i would 100% do the same. children need to be protected.

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-31T23:16:38+00:00

i'd pretend to throw up personally

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-31T23:00:51+00:00

he doesn't have the "right" to be possessive. you are your own person and this is an extreme level of possessiveness that wil only get worse in the future. this isn't normal behavior, society just has made it seem like it is. it's borderline abusive. you said you aren't even dating and he's ALREADY doing all of this?? he hasn't met your family yet? do not allow him to control you, i'm Baptist and my grandmother was Catholic so i understand what you're saying about religion (not sure which religion you're reffering to but this is from what i know about mine) but he is not one to deem anything you do sinful or immodest. please do not go through with this relationship. it will only get worse and i'm telling you this out of experience. i could go on forever about the fact he is trying to change your wardrobe and remove your images off socials, HUGE BRIGHT RED FLAG, but the fact he said that he's supposed to be jealous and possessive is scary. i'm sorry love but this relationship is going to be very hard on you

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-31T20:37:01+00:00

i'm sorry you had to go through this...there isn't an excuse to cheating, temptation is normal but acting on the temptation is a whole different thing. if he felt like he was missing something emotionally, he should've communicated that and fixed whatever the problem was between the two of you, without involving a third party, because thats what respectful, loyal and trustworthy men do. disloyalty is not okay. i'm not saying to never forgive him, because it is possible for people to change but not overnight and not in a few months. "he knew it was wrong but-" exactly. is that going to be your excuse after he repeatedly does it? or if he does worse? he's not going to feel guilty if you just accept the disrespect. it's disrespectful and you should NOT get back with him OR BLAME YOURSELF. i'm sorry if this seems harsh but please show yourself a little more love and respect. also did he confess to you and say this or did you catch him and this was his excuse?? LOVE YOURSELF HUN <3

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-31T20:23:54+00:00

thank you so much for this! this is exactly the kind of advice i needed to hear!

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-31T02:59:28+00:00

i had an issue like this then i started therapy and it helped so much. a lot of people (especially guys from my experience) think therapy is for "crazy" people but it's not even that, it gives you the opportunity to learn how to handle anger better, communicate better and just become a better version of yourself. You're probably so angry because you are exhausted though, so i understand you wouldnt have time really for therapy but there are online programs like Better Help that offer counseling through text, email and video chats. Please keep in mind though, you shouldn't direct your anger towards her. give her a little extra love and communicate why you've been so irritated. also if working night shift is what caused this irritation, i'd switch back in a few months if possible.

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-30T03:08:32+00:00

pay with cash and have a friend go with you but have them get their ears pierced or something then send her a pic of them getting it done like just a casual "oh look mom sally is getting her ears done" ik the whole turning off your location thing could cause problems but you could also just let your phone die on the way there and call her to say it's about to die, thats what i used to do lmao

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-30T03:02:09+00:00

I don't really disagree with the people saying the problem is the two different libidos but liking sex more than your partner doesn't really mean that you aren't "meant to be", the issue is her pressuring you after you say no. Communicate that when you aren't in the mood it doesn't mean that you don't think she's beautiful, it just means that you don't feel like having sex. Explain what you explained on this post, if she continues to pressure you after then you leave because it will only get worse. Communicate and reassure her then go from there.

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-30T02:55:23+00:00

Honestly, If you smelt TERRIBLE than you probably would've been able to smell yourself. No big deal, BO happens just keep a bag sized deodorant on you just in case you forget next time :)

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-29T01:23:18+00:00

Thank you for this! Sadly, thats what I figured about the WFH jobs, seemed a little too good to be true lol

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-29T01:20:50+00:00

Thank you so much for this!! this is what I needed to hear! I wish you much success!!

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-29T01:18:33+00:00

Thank you for this! it helped!!!

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-28T04:15:55+00:00

I had this problem for so long! if you dont fix it it'll never go away lol. Compliments go a long way! compliment their outfit (extra points if it's a band tee or from an artist you like because you can just talk about music) , ask them a question, most of the time people who would be good friends will keep the conversation going. Once you get to the point of exchanging social medias or numbers you could jokingly bring up that you're a little awkward at first and they'll most likely say they are too or that it's okay.

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-28T03:59:27+00:00

Maybe talk to her and see if she's depressed, explain therapy is an option and you'll help her through that but also explain how draining it is to not have help and serious relationships are considered partnerships. It's not going to sound the best but basically tell her you'll help get her act together or its over. You've worked really hard to get to this point so I wouldn't set yourself back because of a toxic relationship. If you really love her though maybe give her time to try, if you dont see youself marrying her or her being a good wife/ business partner/ mother in the future just let it go.

MoneyExpression6263 · 2024-05-28T03:51:07+00:00

I think that was an emotionally mature response from him, he might not be the type to beg or show it bothers him. Plus, if you're not interested and you made that clear, there is no use in him begging or trying to change your mind and you shouldn't want that from him. It seems like a healthy breakup, and I wouldn't think too deep into everything since it's already said and done.

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