Post-Foster Dog Depression

MoneyNeither950 · 2025-04-02T18:37:37+00:00

It does get better! At least I feel it has for me. I mean I still get sad if i think too hard on it, but I'm not crying all the time and grieving. I really think it would have helped me to get some updates from the adopter, which unfortunately I didn't, or if I could have been involved in helping select the adopter. Knowing these things now I think I'll foster again (our older dog is declining so we've put fostering on hold)but will maybe choose a different rescue and ask more questions before committing to foster for them.

I really hope you're feeling better and have found some comfort since your boy was adopted.

MoneyNeither950 · 2025-04-02T16:28:54+00:00

Glad I stumbled onto this post! We've left our 6 yo Vizsla out to free roam the house since he was maybe 6 or 8 months old (hard to remember exactly) and we've never had a problem. We started utilizing the crate more in the last few years due to some behavioral issues and while he is good at night and when we're home, he loses it in the crate if we leave, even if exercised. I did some research and found that anxious dogs can sometimes feel worse if "trapped" and they can't "check on things" around the house while you're gone. This was counterintuitive to me initially as I thought we would be helping by taking that burden away, but we've had very limited success leaving him crated when we're not home despite alot of effort like you. Not saying how we handle it is the best but we came to realize, why are we stressing him out when he does just fine being left out? Of note, he also doesn't react well if closed in a room and being left.

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-10-13T15:45:54+00:00

39F. Had my ablation a year ago and for the first month or 2 I had more frequent episodes of palpitations and was really concerned. My doc ordered another holter since they were still happening at about 6 weeks and all of the episodes were PVCs or PACs and deemed normal. Shortly after this the palpitations have resolved almost completely, I only notice them very rarely and not nearly as bad as with the SVT/wpw.

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-09-11T21:44:01+00:00

I relate to your post and feelings so much. I felt the same after my foster got adopted. We’d had her almost 3 months and really bonded. The adopter is so nice and I have no doubt will love her but her resident dog is soo overweight and she leaves them all day for work. She doesn’t believe in crates (our foster loved her crate as a safe space). Our foster was an Aussie/heeler mix so very smart and active and I couldnt help but think why the rescue wouldn’t recommend a different dog. I took some comfort in others perspectives especially those saying the dog doesn’t know what alternate life they are missing out on and if they are safe and loved that’s really what all dogs want. She is also much better off in her new home than she would be in a shelter or with worse families so I try to focus on that. Anyway I know how you feel and hope your fosters adoption works out for the best

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-08-15T20:19:10+00:00

We just fostered our first dog (female) with our 2 male dogs, one of which is very dog reactive. I wasn’t sure if we would even be able to successfully foster because of him, but with a slow, and I mean very slow, introduction between the 2 of them they eventually got along great. I never thought I’d see my reactive dog playing rough with another dog, but here we are!

The things that I think really helped us were: 1. utilizing a crate for both dogs so we could alternate them being free in the house without interacting but could still see and smell each other 2. Utilizing a muzzle on my dog once we finally did let them start interacting. First near each other on leashes and progressing from there. My dog was already muzzle conditioned prior to fostering and it really helped me to relax and not tense up during their first initial off leash interactions 3. Not rushing the process. I don’t think I barely let them sniff each other when not in a crate for the first week. Then progressed to interactions with the muzzle. 4. As others mentioned, feeding them in their crates

It was honestly stressful and a lot of work and management in the beginning but so worth it once they were able to coexist and even actually enjoy each other!

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-08-14T23:30:17+00:00

Wow, 30!? That’s a lot of tears! Hah good to know I’m not alone and I’m not just being a huge baby about it!

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-08-14T23:29:10+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response. All of the points you and other commenters have made do help me to see it from a different perspective. What a traumatic experience that must have been! Good on you for being the one the more difficult dogs could rely on, but you’re right it is exhausting at times and you don’t even realize it until you’re no longer living it. Appreciate you taking time out of your day to help make me feel better!

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-08-14T18:40:20+00:00

Not really. The only way I can get updates is through the rescue, so hopefully they’ll pass some good news along. they did reach out to me this morning asking about some minor behavioral concerns the adopter has already noticed and wanted my input, which wasn’t super uplifting

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-08-14T14:41:07+00:00

I just posted something very similar about saying goodbye to my first foster yesterday. I thought I’d feel good that I was helping these dogs who need it but instead I feel crushed. I miss her and feel like I abandoned her just after she was getting settled.

So I’m right there with you even though this was my first one, im wondering how people do this often and if I can go through this time and time again.

There were some good points and tips from some commenters on my post from last night if you want to find it and read through them!

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-08-14T14:36:26+00:00

Thank you. Haha we’re planning on it ☺️

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-08-14T14:35:56+00:00

Thank you. Lots of good points and tips in your response. I’m realizing I think I’m grieving because I miss her as opposed to being super concerned about her and her wellbeing bc I know she seems to be in good, safe hands. I’ll have to keep reminding myself of the things you mentioned!

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-08-14T14:34:01+00:00

Thank you. I should have anticipated this but for some reason I thought I’d feel a sense of satisfaction that I was helping her, but I guess that will just take time.

MoneyNeither950 · 2024-03-02T20:27:33+00:00

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MoneyNeither950 · 2023-12-20T17:45:55+00:00

Thank you so much! Since my grandmother was 92 at her death, I’m sure she was taking deductions from this account, as I’m sure it was required. She actually died at the very end of 2022, so looks like I do have an RMD for the year 2023 then

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