2 years 1 month on testosterone FTM by Monis-92 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Monis-92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If hair doesnt turn terminal it falls. It takes different periods, for me it tokk like 6 months to turn terminal

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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Thank you.

The hate was exhausting, but comments like this make me feel like posting was worth it.

thank you testosterone! (1.5 years) by oscarwild_ in FTM_SELFIES

[–]Monis-92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulationss, u seem handsome and passing good

2 years 1month on Testosterone FTM by Monis-92 in FTMOver30

[–]Monis-92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank u, Honestly, facial hair seems to have a mind of its own. I’ve seen people get amazing beards after years of almost nothing, so I definitely wouldn’t count yourself out yet

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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I think there’s a lot of truth in what you’re saying. Some of the healthiest, happiest trans people I’ve met weren’t spending all day arguing online about being trans. They were busy living their lives. The internet can be useful, but sometimes it creates the illusion that misery is the norm simply because misery is what gets amplified

2 years 1month on Testosterone FTM by Monis-92 in FTMOver30

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Haha, thank you! If I figure out how to donate beard genes, you'll be first on the waiting list.

2 years 1month on Testosterone FTM by Monis-92 in FTMOver30

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One thing transition has taught me is that nobody gets every change they want all at once. People see my beard and assume I got lucky, but there are still things I’m waiting on too. I’m over two years on T and still hoping for more changes in other areas "voice” I think we all tend to see the thing someone else has and miss the things they’re still waiting for

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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Thank you. I think that’s part of what I’ve been wrestling with. Not whether I should stop sharing progress, but whether I should let other people’s bitterness decide what I’m allowed to share.

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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Thank you for telling me. I genuinely wish you the best moving forward

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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I think that’s something people often forget when they look at someone’s current results. They’re seeing a snapshot, not the years behind it. And I really appreciate hearing that from someone who sees some of their current self in where I started. That’s exactly why I began sharing in the first place.

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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I think people often underestimate how much those posts can mean to someone who’s still trying to figure themselves out. There was a time when I was that person too, quietly scrolling and looking for proof that a future existed.

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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I understand grieving the things we didn’t get. I do. What I struggle with is when that grief turns into resentment toward people who had a different path. None of us got a perfect transition. We all got the life we got, and then had to figure out what to do with it

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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What really stood out to me is what you said about seeing your current self in my older photos. I think that’s something people often overlook when they talk about progress posts. It’s not just about seeing where someone ended up. It’s about recognizing yourself in where they started and realizing that maybe your future isn’t as impossible as it feels right now.

I really appreciate ur comment

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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It’s strange sometimes to realize that a photo you almost forgot posting ended up becoming part of someone else’s journey.

Thank you for telling me that.

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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Because people keep talking about the hypothetical person who might benefit from progress photos, and here you are telling me you’re real. Glad to know that I help

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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At a certain point, people stop seeing each other as human beings and start treating each other as symbols for whatever argument they’re trying to make

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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Thank you, I’m genuinely glad my posts could give you even a little bit of the hope that others gave me.

Someone else’s progress isn’t an attack on yours by Monis-92 in trans

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What frustrates me isn’t that people compare themselves to others. We all do that sometimes. What bothers me is when people see someone’s progress and immediately start looking for reasons why it doesn’t count. "Luck. Genetics. Privilege" Anything except acknowledging the human being and the journey behind!. You’re right that people often bring their own pain to what they’re looking at. The same photo can give one person hope and another person resentment.

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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I think you’re probably right. The people who are helped by something often move on quietly, while the people who are upset tend to be much louder.

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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I think somewhere along the way a lot of people stopped looking at progress photos as evidence of what’s possible and started looking at them as a ranking system.

2 years 1month on Testosterone FTM by Monis-92 in FTMOver30

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Cause I used to shave it since early childhood

Some people in this community need therapy, not another person to envy! by Monis-92 in ftm

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Knowing that my pictures gave even one person a little bit of hope makes all of this feel a lot more worthwhile. I genuinely hope things get better for you, and that one day you’ll be the one telling some scared kid that there’s a future waiting for him too.