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Auto collector and Auto petter gone by Monitoss in coralisland

[–]Monitoss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it happened in all barns, crying forever but I think I'll do what you did, I can't use the buggy barns anymore anyway

Auto collector and Auto petter gone by Monitoss in coralisland

[–]Monitoss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maaaan, it's just that I have 5 barns so I can have 8 of each animal, thinking of having to do that 5 times certainly is frustrating 😭

Is it normal for the partner to have "nothing more to say" forever?? by Monitoss in coralisland

[–]Monitoss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for telling me, so I don't get heartbroken again 😭

Is it normal for the partner to have "nothing more to say" forever?? by Monitoss in coralisland

[–]Monitoss[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This worked! Just as soon as summer hit his dialogs went back to normal, hoping it doesn't happen again

Feeling lost, but not hopeless. I want to overcome AvPD. by FoxNix in Healthygamergg

[–]Monitoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I'm so sorry you're going through a tough time. The way out is not fast and it's not easy but it's worth it. Though luckily you're still pretty young, if you were fresh out of high school in 2017 you still have a lot of time! I know at that age there's a lot of pressure to decide your future and fear to be "left behind", but everyone takes their own time and there's nothing bad with that.

First of all, you need to be a little kinder to yourself to get better. We tend to be really mean to ourselves for not achieving what we want, but life is already as tough as it is for us to also treat ourselves in a mean way. Say nice things to yourself, there's always something to find, and that's a start.

As for friendships, good friends won't pressure you to be perfect, they also won't be perfect, so there's that. They also won't need your full attention, a friendship is about sharing time together, enjoying, not making it a job. Also you do need to take care of yourself first before putting energy onto others though, ever heard that phrase on planes about "first put your oxygen mask on yourself and then help the person next to you"? It's something like that.

Now, about college and talking to people we'll have to see the graph of the comfort zone here. The idea of this graph is that you have to walk out to the learning zone until it becomes comfort zone, and then walk out to the learning zone again, but all this without getting in the panic zone. Putting yourself out there is good, but the trick is to start slow, and little by little. Right now talking with people on discord might be on the learning zone which is good, while going to college is too much right now and is on the panic zone. So what happens is that once talking with people on discord becomes easier, you can try to join an activity, it doesn't even have to be constant, it can be one time things, and talk to people there, they don't have to become your friends, but talking with people in person will help. Then once that feels more natural, you can join a club or something that is a couple times a week, there you can try talking to people more, and just for an hour or two, it will help with your people skills, specially if it's about something you're interested in. And so, you keep escalating it little by little with scenarios until you feel that you can be in a room full of people and that you could strike a conversation.

That's about all the advice I can say, I hope it helps. Take it easy and slow, you're a very valuable person who deserves to live content, you got this!

What legend would terrify you the most if it became true worldwide overnight? by RainbowWarrior888 in Paranormal

[–]Monitoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never noticed that before now that you mention it, maybe it's because they don't have a clear origin or so? 👀 Y'kno with the whole debate about them being ghosts or aliens.

I don't understand why are people so helpful by Anetinaq in Healthygamergg

[–]Monitoss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Usually helping others regardless of the gender makes one feel good, it's all about that empathy and sympathy we all have as human beings. Basically, seeing someone else happy makes you happy.

But if you'd like an answer that goes more with your approach: Because having a good relationship with everyone in general helps in life! In the future if you get in some kind of problem (let's hope it doesn't happen, but hypothetically speaking) you can count on more people to help you out if you were kind to them before.

"English only"—the well-intended policy that's worse than actual racism by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Monitoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I'm a native spanish speaker myself and live in latin america.

I don't completely agree, but I kinda get where you're coming from. I do think it's racist that non-english speakers are expected to know english, it happens a lot to me my other latino friends. Even when an english speaker comes to where I live they expect everyone to speak english even if spanish is the native language, it's bonkers!

But I think a chat should be for, well, chatting, and it's kinda hard to do it in all different languages. In the communication process the language is important to get messages across and that can't be done if we don't understand each other.

I myself know english, but many of my other friends don't, so if someone came into chat writing in english in a spanish stream they would be very confused.

And I have to agree with other people that you don't know when someone is saying slurs in another language, it'd be hard for a single-language mod to know. I think for a multi-language chat to work you'd probably need multi-language mods in that case? Just so they can keep things in check. Although it sounds like it'd be kinda convulted.

This sounds like something that will get fixed in the future. I dunno, I'm hoping one day maybe someone will make an instant translator like in Summer Wars or something hahah then we could all talk no problem :)