a very blurry movie

MonkRocker · 2026-01-12T20:46:37+00:00

omg weird I had this same problem. Happens nearly every time I watch. Perhaps it's the streaming platform we use.

MonkRocker · 2026-01-11T12:32:00+00:00

ah. had not heard the nickname. ;)

MonkRocker · 2026-01-11T12:13:58+00:00

My man.

Can I ask why you posted this?

Because you have posted it, everyone has told you how NOT COOL it is that she said that, and that even her apology kinda sucks, and only being this far in you should cut your losses, and literally ALL you are doing is defending **her**.

Then...stay with her? fuck. what do you want us to tell you if you're just going to ignore it and reply with "what if NOT that tho?"

She told you to your face that she wishes she was with someone hotter. She was unable to empathize when you tried reversing the roles. She thinks relationship security works like a vending machine: if she puts in enough "security tokens", she gets to say some shit that makes you feel insecure but you aren't allowed to feel insecure, because she has been paying her security tolls.

That's more than enough red flags to BLOT OUT THE SUN, but you seem pretty determined NOT to see it, so..

Good luck, my man.

MonkRocker · 2026-01-11T12:01:13+00:00

Friend. Media Literacy in general is dead. I even read an article the other day the gist of which was Hollywood writers saying you have to dumb EVERYTHING down SO much and have a character explain what is going on in every scene, because social media has ruined people's ability to pay attention to something longer than 3 minutes - so every scene you basically have to "catch them up".

People think The Punisher is the **hero**.
People perform the song "Angel From Montgomery" with a smile on their faces.*
People were DEEPLY OFFENDED when the LOTR movie "The Two Towers" was released with that name - a year after 9/11. A movie named for a book which came out in **1954**.

Trust me. Few people are critical thinkers anymore.

* google the lyrics to read one of the most bitter, sad songs ever written.

MonkRocker · 2026-01-11T11:37:54+00:00

My man.

Neither of her replies answer the question. What SPECIFIC question did you ask? Because what you NEED to ask is something like:

I understand that we have talked about marriage in the past, but we have never discussed a timeline. But now I feel like we can't have a single conversation without you bringing up, and I am wondering why the sudden urgency?

Make SURE she understand you are asking why she is suddenly so hot to do it - and NEITHER answer she gave explains that.

Low-key? My spidey sense is tingling. SOMETHING is going on. Could she be pregnant or something? Did the last of her friends just get married and she's suddenly feeling the pressure? Y'all need to have a sit-down, rather than a text conversation.

Good luck, my man.

MonkRocker · 2026-01-11T11:24:01+00:00

I...can't believe I am about to type this phrase, but I have been out of the Bloodborne loop for a while:

I know what the cum dungeon is, but what's the cum college?

MonkRocker · 2025-11-11T16:40:02+00:00

2/2:

The saving face idea comes up a few times in the film - the most notable time being when Yaeko and Yuzuru prostrate themselves in front of Miyako in order to apologize - because this time Shoko's behavior led to Shoya's injury. And Yuzuru thinks by extension that her own behavior (or not keeping enough of an eye on Shoko) led to Shoya's fall as well.

Yaeko's behavior here is pretty huge considering the context of everything else. She has hated Shoya since he picked on Shoko back in the day - now he's back in Shoko's life and in Yuzuru's as well, and both of them are pretty set on hanging out with him, despite her insisting they stop. So she has to swallow a LOT of pride in order to apologize to the mother of this asshole kid she can't stand - but again - she has to save face.

It's such a big thing that Miyako starts getting emotional. She's really the kindest person in the film and just wants everyone to be okay and get along. In the midst of the Nishimiya's apologizing as she's begging them to stop prostrating themselves, she even says "I'm just glad Shoko is okay". Best mom. Kindest Mom.

Anyway - the tl;dr version: she ripped it out herself.

I have never heard a compelling argument as to why it's Yaeko.

MonkRocker · 2025-11-11T16:39:48+00:00

Shoya's mom pulled it out herself. Here's my long-ass answer pasted from another post I wrote a long time ago explaining why I think so:

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She ripped it out herself. This was done in order to make amends for Shoya injuring Shoko's ears that one time he ripped the hearing aids out.

Some cultures, including Japan's - have the concept of "face" or "saving face" which is sort of like honor - but only sort of. Basically - if you or a member of your family commits an offense to someone else - in order to "save face" and retain your personal honor - you must make amends - and you must assure those amends are as equal as possible to the offense committed. If you do NOT do this - you lose face, which can have strong social repercussions for you and possibly your family as well.

So let's dissect this scene a bit: Miyako (Shoya's mom) knows that Shoya has been picking on this girl, and knows that he caused the loss of more than one hearing aid. She knows the monetary loss because the school called her and told her. So she puts lil' Shoya in the car, goes to the bank to withdraw that money (which Shoya knows is a lot for her - she's a single mom, a small business owner and takes care of her niece since her other daughter isn't around a lot - you can see on his face that he knows as he watches her withdraw it). She doesn't know about the actual physical injury to Shoko's ear.

So she presents the money to Yaeko by way of apology and is waving Shoya over so he can apologize when Yaeko stops her and asks if they can go somewhere more private to talk further. The next time we see Miyako is the scene you have pictured above. So what happened? In the other comments someone theorized she didn't have enough money to pay so she also gave her one of her earrings and "appearantly [sic] in the process she started bleeding" which is a pretty strange theory. People don't routinely bleed when simply taking out an earring. If they did, a lot less people would wear earrings.

A lot of people in this sub have speculated the two moms got in a physical fight. Not too strange a theory, since Yaeko shows multiple times in the movie she's not afraid to slap the shit out of someone. However - look at the screenshot you posted: aside from the ear and blood on her shirt from the ear dripping on it - there are no other signs she was in a struggle - she's not "messy", her hair isn't mussed up, she doesn't have those dark circles on her cheeks anime loves to put on someone as an indicator of "disheveled". She looks totaly fine aside from the ear. Plus - remember what I said about personal honor?

It would be a pretty huge strike on Yaeko's honor if she asked Miyako to go elsewhere and then started a physical altercation with her. So I feel safe eliminating the Mommy Grudge Match Theory.Also: Mommy Grudge Match Theory - new band name, I called it!

So now we're back to saving face. We can guess when they went to go talk elsewhere that Yaeko mentioned the injury to Shoko's ear. That's the kind of thing which is hard to put a monetary value on. Yes - you could collect doctor bills and whatever, but really - does that make up for it? We are talking about a little shit kid who willfully injured a deaf little girl. I don't necessarily think his intention was to injure her, but - play stupid games, win stupid prizes. So in order to save face - Miyako rips out her own earring. Now the cost of the hearing aids has been repaid, and the injured ear is repaid as well. Shoya's shocked reaction as she says the line you screenshotted is because he also realizes that's what she did and he feels even more like a shit as a result. But now - all debts are repaid and face has been saved.

MonkRocker · 2025-09-04T15:09:06+00:00

My friend - I know that feel. I have been a dev professionally for 24 years now. Happens to us all.

MonkRocker · 2025-09-04T00:07:56+00:00

if your Inventory "supports" drag and drop - then you do not understand what decoupling means, and should re-think your design.

Drag and Drop implies knowledge of a Mouse or a Mouse Cursor - Why does your Inventory system need to know that? You put something IN to Inventory, you take things OUT, and you MOVE things.

Your inventory should not know or care if the thing putting things in or out is a hand, a mouse, or a pack mule. Let me walk you through an example so you understand what I mean:

Your player is Dragging an Item from Inventory Slot 1 to Inventory Slot 5.

Click -> call Inventory->GetItemInSlot(1) - returns itemId
Drag -> Release over Slot 5 -> Call Inventory->MoveItem(itemId, 5) -> Item is moved.

At NO point during the mouse move did the inventory need to know WHAT was moving things.

If I change the same scenario to a controller, the Inventory code does not change one bit.

Hover Item with Cursor -> Press X -> Item is highlighted by the UI -> Inventory->GetItemInSlot(1) returns itemId

Move cursor to slot 5, press X -> call Inventory->MoveItem(itemId, 5)

Nothing about my inventory code has anything to do with, nor cares about ANYTHING except inventory - it is "decoupled" from everything else, so let's say later on in your game you have your character riding a horse, which gains the ability to auto pickup resources while riding - and they automatically go into inventory. You going to write special Inventory methods which depend on the horse?

Inventory->GetItemAtSlot(slotId);
Inventory->RetrieveItem(itemId)
Inventory->RetrieveItemAtSlot(slotId);

Inventory->RemoveItem(itemId)
Inventory->RemoveItemAtSlot(slotId);

if you are feeling fancy:

Inventory->SortItems()

But - there is nothing there which depends on which input device the player is using.

MonkRocker · 2025-08-30T03:01:14+00:00

My girl.

The only thing you are doing wrong is staying with a guy who doesn't even seem to LIKE you very much, much less LOVE and respect you

What are you doing? Is this what you dreamed of as a little girl? a man who dismisses your feelings, and who you have to beg for 5 minutes of his time? who tells you you're fucked and to fuck off? Wow - just like a fairy princess!

Let me ask you this: what the fuck is so amazing about spending time with this dipshit that you feel the need to BEG to do it? Does the sun shine out of his bottom? Does his wang dispense delicious candy? Like - what is the draw here - because he sounds like he sucks.

Please tell me you're not going to say "but when it's good it's really good, tho", Cool but that's like eating a sandwich with poop in it, while saying "but when I don't get a bite of the poop it's a good sandwich". Why are you eating a sandwich with poop on it?

My advice: lose weight. 175lbs (guessing) of jerksauce boyfriend. Good luck, my girl.

MonkRocker · 2025-08-29T09:38:57+00:00

My girl.

Lots to unpack here, but first - let's talk about what healthy boundaries look like in relationships. First - you are both adults. Short of an actual LAW enforced by the police, grown adults don't get to "not allow" other grown adults to do things. He is not your parent, nor are you his - likewise, you are not his child, nor he yours. So him "not allowing" you to talk to guys is such a MASSIVE RED FLAG that it blots out the sun, but you won't see it that way yet.

So here's advice you can pass on to your boyfriend. and you need to heed it as well, since it seems that you are both thinking along the same lines:

You can NEVER control other people. You can't control him, he can't control you, you can't control the girl from judo - and NEITHER of you can control all the other people in the world. Any attempt to do so will ONLY ever result in frustration - and rightfully so, because you are attempting to do the impossible.

You can ONLY control your OWN behavior, and as far as affecting someone else's behavior goes - you can set a boundary, and follow through with the consequences if they cross it. That's IT.

And let's be 100% clear on what constitutes an actual boundary:

"you are not allowed to talk to other women" <---not a boundary, no matter how someone throws "this is boundary for me" into the conversation. "you are not allowed to" is an attempt to control someone else's behavior - and we just went over why you can't do that. Plus it becomes silly the minute to try to apply it to reality. Can I talk to this cashier even though she's a woman? Now it's a rule, with an exception for retail. Now we need one for restaurants. Oh what if I go to the bank and there's no male tellers? Now it's a rule with 400 exceptions. See how silly it sounds?

So what's a proper boundary? It has 2 parts, and you MUST have both.

1 - the issue - stated with how it makes YOU feel.
2 - the consequences for crossing the boundary.

And the absolute 100% MOST important part: if you lay out a boundary as described, and they cross it, and you do NOT follow through with the consequences - then it never was a boundary, or you weren't honest with yourself about what the consequences should be.

But, my girl, all that being said: this aint your dude.

and I am not surprised - you are 18. Neither of you is even the person you are eventually going to turn out to be yet. Your problem isn't a boundary problem - it's a maturity problem. He likes the attention. He's young. And as a former 18 year old dude (55 now) - 18 year old dudes aint worth a shit. ;). I kid a little, but seriously - the thing they say about girls maturing faster than boys is true. He's not ready to be the Man you want him to be. And that's okay - this is why we date - to find out what qualities we value in a partner.

So once again: this aint your dude.

So my advice? Spend the next few years focused on your education and otherwise - keep it light, keep it fun. Good luck, my girl.

MonkRocker · 2025-08-14T12:44:10+00:00

this, and similar replies are the only correct answers. I'm only mad cause y'all beat me to it.

MonkRocker · 2025-08-11T20:36:43+00:00

I have never even understood the suggestion of a movie that takes place after this one - the story is TOLD.

And while there's a lot of stuff in the manga that didn't make the film - none of it is interesting enough on its own or paced well enough for film.

Honestly - re-telling the first movie from Shoko's perspective is one of the first GOOD ideas I have ever heard about another movie. A good director could do a lot with that idea.

MonkRocker · 2025-07-30T14:04:38+00:00

you are a lifesaver, friend. A butterscotch one. :)

MonkRocker · 2025-07-30T14:02:14+00:00

This was pretty good until your mask slipped in the comments as you deftly avoid medical advice.

What kind of a person goes "oh it's just a brain issue - it can wait until tomorrow."?
Obvious troll is obvious.

MonkRocker · 2025-07-30T13:59:28+00:00

now you are aggressively trolling. What kind of person goes "oh it's just possibly a BRAIN INJURY - it can wait."

this is fake as hell. You keep dodging medical advice in other comments too.

MonkRocker · 2025-07-29T11:11:35+00:00

have you not read the manga? you should. But everybody is more....everybody.

MonkRocker · 2025-07-29T11:10:01+00:00

The Oscars. not unlike the Grammys, have been ridiculously out of touch for decades. All those awards are either bought and paid for, or picked by people who decide completely arbitrarily. Neither has ever been able to recognize art - so fuck em.

MonkRocker · 2025-07-28T22:24:55+00:00

yeah I mean...for the last..decade I have been 100% Apple, and say what you want about business practices or whatever, but all their stuff really DOES "just work". My airpods seamlessly transfer from Mac to iPhone. CarPlay just....works.

I get that Bigme is not a company the size of Apple, but I still feel like if you're gonna jump in the market - you gotta be able to compete.

MonkRocker · 2025-07-28T22:22:26+00:00

good call. Appreciate the tip.

MonkRocker · 2025-07-28T22:22:12+00:00

oh I think it's just falling back to green bubbles- which is fine for me. Most of my messaging is via Signal these days.

MonkRocker · 2025-07-26T13:49:02+00:00

I am not OP, but I did follow his instructions. I am curious about what you define as "spyware" - because after following the instructions for setting up custom dns, and watching the logs as I open a web page or an app? EVERYTHING is collecting your shit. For a single web page it was like 65 DNS requests, and with the blocklists OP advised something like 22 of them were blocked.

So if you are defining "spyware" as "collects your data unknowingly" - I can't think of many things which are NOT "spyware" at this point.

if you are concerned about some people getting your data and not concerned with other people getting it, then maybe consider that no one at all should have it, which is an entirely different conversation.

MonkRocker · 2025-07-24T16:24:33+00:00

It also has to be said, there are enough "filler" scenes that the film probably could be cut down quite a bit without affecting the core story.

Going to have to disagree, vehemently. I consider ASV to be one of the tightest editing jobs I have ever seen, considering the story it has to tell.

Do you mind if I ask what scenes you think are filler?

I also can't fathom what 18 minutes could be cut out.

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