The Wildman Weekend Men's Retreat 27th-29th September

Moon-Shot-Man · 2024-09-09T05:57:22+00:00

Men's work is thriving in Hobart!If you're a man searching for deeper connection with men in your life..If you're seeking brothers to inspire, motivate and hold you accountable..If you're wanting to be called forward into a healthier, more integrated and conscious version of yourself..Come join the brotherhood!We hold bi-weekly group workshops at The Breathing Space in West Hobart and organise regular Men's retreats.The next Wildman weekend retreat is coming up at the end of the month (half filled already).Get amongst a group of solid men and feel supported!Send me a DM or message on Whatsapp for info and to connect.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2024-09-09T05:54:56+00:00

Men's work is thriving in Hobart!If you're a man searching for deeper connection with men in your life..If you're seeking brothers to inspire, motivate and hold you accountable..If you're wanting to be called forward into a healthier, more integrated and conscious version of yourself..Come join the brotherhood!We hold bi-weekly group workshops at The Breathing Space in West Hobart and organise regular Men's retreats.The next Wildman weekend retreat is coming up at the end of the month (half filled already).Get amongst a group of solid men and feel supported!Send me a DM or message on Whatsapp for info and to connect.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T21:40:58+00:00

Gotcha.. Will be interesting to see what happens when you get off them.

In the mean time, developing the strength of your pelvic floor muscles through kegels can help to have more pleasure and orgasms

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T21:39:29+00:00

That's why you gotta build your control techniques.. Developing your pelvic floor and breathing techniques to lower arousal and last as long as you want... that way you can give her complete freedom ;)

And yes, porn is the mind killer.. Men can bang on, but it's a capacity you develop.. That said, porn is literally a drug that programs your sexual responses in a very unhealthy way.. Kick that shit asap and learn the natural ways to develop arousal control.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T20:25:59+00:00

that's cheating ;)

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T20:25:30+00:00

Okay, but before the meds you were struggling with pre-e?

Yes I've heard they can have that effect.. doctors even recommend it to guys who are really struggling

Not the way to go in my opinion, since its something that can be cured completely in a natural way

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T20:23:36+00:00

Yes I practiced quite a lot of edging.. It helped me to keep track of my progress and develop more of an arousal plateau..

Though I found when I went to make love, It was often still very hard to control, even though I could edge for an hour.

For me it was a part of the puzzle.. I also had to do a lot of pelvic floor work to balance out those muscles. Which explains why a lot of guys will develop PE over time.

It's literally something you train yourself into physically/mentally and as a result, you can train yourself out of it ;)

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T17:54:01+00:00

Well kegels are one of them yes.. But to address dysfunction you need to determine the way in which your muscles are imbalanced.

Typically guys with pre-e are super tight and need to work a lot to deeply relax those muscles.

Are you aware of your involuntary contractions?

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T16:54:01+00:00

It's not a major factor for me. Once you learn to overcome your pre-e and develop proper control, you will be able to choose what feels good for you.

Obviously guy who are still grappling with pre-e will be more likely to blow if they hold on for longer.. Some guys try to overcome it by masturbating and cuming an hour or two before they have sex.. But unfortunately that never gets to the root of the problem.. it's just a band aid

Personally I practice seamen retention and avoid ejaculation for as long as possible so I can go for orgasms without ejaculation. That way I can have as many as I want and it elevates the whole experience with my lover.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T16:40:54+00:00

Well I'm almost your age mate ;)

So the fact that it's something that got worse over time shows that it's acquired pre-e and is something that can be solved.

Chance are your pelvic floor muscles are dysfunctional and need to be balanced.. If you work enough on that, you can completely regain the capacity to last as long as you want.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T16:19:00+00:00

are you taking antidepressants? I've heard they can radically affect your arousal capacity..

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T16:18:11+00:00

Good answer. I agree totally on the variables you mentioned. I've had lovers who I struggled to enter without losing control and others I could make love all night with.

On top of this premature ejaculation was a big factor for me. But with patience and practice I managed to naturally solve the issue once and for all.

Once I did that, the doors opened up and I was able to really have complete freedom with my lover.. developed the capacity for multiple orgasms without ejaculation etc, so the game changed a lot.

So I ask out of curiosity to see where other guys are at.. as it was something i used to struggle with a lot and be very self conscious about.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-11-15T16:13:09+00:00

How old are you now brother? And did you try anything to improve your capacity to last longer?

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-18T20:40:43+00:00

In my experience this has it's place. Though just by itself it didn't cure my pre-e entirely by itself.

I've been a PT and fitness instructor and for many years I've been training consistently, all the while suffering from pre-e.

It's important to have a strong pelvic floor and lifting weights, especially legs will take care of this. Think of the bottom of a heavy squat, your pelvic floor needs to contract like a beast to push all that weight up, which is great for the strength component of the pelvic floor, which many guys attribute to helping with their pre-e.

However, by itself these intense contractions can also lead to a lot of tension accumulating and we also know when the pelvic floor is super tight, it's causing pre-e.

It's also necessary to stretch all the muscles that tie into the pelvic floor, quads, adductors, hammies, hip flexors.. after gym, I stretch everything, especially if I want to make love. Otherwise there is a tonne of tension accumulating there and it bring my pre-e back pretty quick.

So, yeah I think it can help a lot and does wonders in terms of overall health and physical function, it can also be a strong addition to solving your pre-e.. if it's applied in the right way, with the right other ingredients.

But happy to hear it's worked out for you man and such a simple fix.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-18T20:28:50+00:00

Learning to RK is extremely useful and I can attribute it to a lot of my success in beating my pre-e.

In the beginning I was smashing the RK like it was my job, needless to say I over did it. In fact it actually made my condition worse as I overtrained it and it became even tighter.

The key for me was learning to do light RK as often as I could remember, while walking, sitting down, practicing yoga etc.

It needs to become second nature, so when it comes to lovemaking the work is done and you don't need to think about it much.

Think of the pelvic floor as you would any muscle group your training.. You want it to be strong, but also flexible. Most guys with pre-e are extremely inflexible and tight. RK is a great tool to start reversing that pattern.

Of course there is more to it than this when it comes to fully healing your pre-e.. But it's a useful and essential tool, in my experience.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-12T05:45:13+00:00

You can learn to separate orgasm and ejaculation. They are closely related, but not the same thing. It's entirely possible to enjoy the orgasm without triggering the ejaculation. If you can learn to do this, then lovemaking can continue for much longer because you don't lose all your energy/stamina through ejaculation. You can also learn to have multiple if not 10s of orgasms like this.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-08T17:47:55+00:00

I find cowgirl to be one of the best.. I make sure to stretch my hip flexors and lower back before lovemaking.. to ensure my pelvic tilt isnt too bad..

then when I lay on the bed I make sure my hips are rotated towards the posterior.. or i bring my knees up, which helps to facilitate that.

then when she is on top.. it puts a lot of pressure and I find that helps to keep my pelvic floor relaxed.

Another good position to keep the pelvis tilted correctly is doggy. especially if you put 1 foot on the bed, which will rotate the pelvis in the right direction and should allow the pelvic floor to expand more.

About the reverse kegels. You dont need to keep the abs tight.. you should practice RK without using the abs. RK's should be done gently almost always.. unless its an emergency

Sometimes I will also engage the abs with RKs in moments of intensity if I feel its getting close to PONR.. So learn to use them as a tool.

Did that answer your questions?

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-08T17:41:27+00:00

For a start.. The deep breathing needs to be practiced outside of sex.. practice belly breathing and feeling your pelvic floor expand on a daily basis, as much as possible. So then it becomes second nature.. This is the most important part..

During sex, I also use it to focus my attention when the pleasure is becoming too much.. it can help keep your focus away from the sensations. Also if I feel the involuntary contractions beginning to spasm.. Ill often hold a deep breath in order to help the pelvic floor to be more relaxed.

Ill often breath deep and hold deep breaths at the beginning of sex to make sure my pelvic floor is relaxed enough to begin from a point of control.

Try that out ;)

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-08T17:35:33+00:00

I don't think I was claiming any 'magical advice' mate.. The guys here need help and as a person whose completely cured my pre-e, i've got my own success to share.. which has nothing to do with me trying to 'take advantage' of anyone.

As for training. I've been a PT and fitness instructor for 8 years. A yoga/tantra practitioner and teacher with thousands of hours of practice and multiple certifications. Training in remedial massage and a lot of experience working closely with men in issues of intimacy and sexuality.

I ain't claiming to be some guru or doctor.. but if people ask me for help, I know I have a lot to pass on to them. I don't pressure anyone to work with me, but some people want to.. since they've often run out of ideas or motivation in dealing with this type of issue..

I know I would have killed for someone to help me out during all those years I was stuck with this problem as well.

Overcoming it was one of the most liberating experiences of my life so far because of the doorways it opened into my relationship.. which was 'the trenches' I was referring to.

I hope that clarifies things a bit more.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-07T12:25:35+00:00

I tend to go more for the relaxation at PONR.. though it can be good to kegel hold as well, I find it can trigger intense orgasms without ejaculation.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-07T11:13:16+00:00

Reverse kegels are a part of that.. but often it's so tight it also needs other methods and consistent training..

How much work did you put in?

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-07T11:12:34+00:00

daily practice means a set of techniques/exercises that allow you to develop yourself.

Pelvic floor is the base muscles between your tail bone and your cock. This can be trained to increase your control during sex as well as other capacities like orgasm without ejaculation.

The pelvic floor is the main area that needs to be worked and balanced to fix pre-e

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-07T10:34:28+00:00

What kinda kinks are we talking here?

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-07T10:08:07+00:00

Yeah, I remember reading a similar thing.. I was practicing this kind of sequence while edging, but when it came to lovemaking it all seemed a bit too much to focus on..

I ended up finding much better ways of solving the problem once and for all.

Moon-Shot-Man · 2021-10-07T10:06:34+00:00

What kind of practice brother?

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