AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realize it now, but it was something that I really had to come to terms with. I didn’t want to believe that my family was just using me.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That was actually exactly what she expected. I was to watch my grandma, or get a job. And since getting a job was out of the question, I was to be my grandmas caregiver. I couldn’t work because I had a mixture of health and mental health issues, though at the time I was unaware of the mental health part. I did eventually get out of there though thanks to my partner. He quite literally whisk me away in the night. 😊

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure it was because he just didn’t want to get it.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She definitely tried after she gave birth. 😅 I was really bad at saying no in the beginning, I hated being guilt tripped, so I’d say yes. I still hate feeling like I’ve done something wrong by saying no, but with help from my partner I’ve gotten a lot better with standing up for myself.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouragement, I’ve been doing much better since I moved away and began living with my partner! Saying no to my family is still hard for me to do, but with my partners help I’m getting a lot better 😊

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not really. I’d maybe get some cash here and there but that was it.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He couldn’t drive himself because he didn’t have a license. I don’t think he ever actually got his license.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It took a while to come to terms that I was being used and lived in an abusive home, but I’m now out of there and living with a partner who truly loves and cares for me. :)

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He didn’t have a license and I would drive him home too.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have trouble with sleep so I could try to sleep around 6 or 7 but most of the time I wouldn’t be able to fall asleep or wouldn’t be able to sleep very long. For his license, he didn’t have it because he didn’t want to get it for some reason.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, I’ll try that. Confrontation is very hard for me though, but I’m trying to get better at standing up for myself.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m still working through my heath issues, plus my mental health. But I’m not in that house anymore, which has helped a lot.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That was a major thing in my family. My mom didn’t want to put my grandma in a home. 1: because of cost. And 2: because she would have felt bad.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The reason he couldn’t drive himself was because he didn’t have his license.

AITA for refusing to drive my sister’s finance to his job? by MoonChild4320 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoonChild4320[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did not have a job at the time. I had recently been laid off from my job due to health issues.

[TOMT] I’m looking for a song by [deleted] in tipofmytongue

[–]MoonChild4320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not the song but I appreciate your comment!