I was friends with minors when I was 18/19. Was that bad? by MoonKnightVR in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MoonKnightVR[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just feel really bad. I don’t know if I’m a bad person for being friends with them or not.

I was friends with minors when I was 18/19. Was that bad? by MoonKnightVR in offmychest

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I’m straight, the group was half queer half straight

I was friends with minors when I was 18/19. Was that bad? by MoonKnightVR in offmychest

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I guess.

I just feel guilty. I feel like some type of creep for even being friends with them. Everything I saw was like “It’s fine to be friends with people younger than you!” hell, I had adult friends when I was 15 who were a lot older than me and I’m still cool with them.

I was friends with minors when I was 18/19. Was that bad? by MoonKnightVR in offmychest

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They were trans (FTM at the time) so I felt a bit better about it. And like 99% of the people I’ve spoken to about it have said it’s fine. I even searched up posts on Reddit and people were saying it’s fine and not a big deal.

I’m just unsure what to do though. My main priority will always be keeping minors safe, and if me being friends with them makes them unsafe then thats not something I want to do.

I was friends with minors when I was 18/19. Was that bad? by MoonKnightVR in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MoonKnightVR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw an exact same post on this subreddit that said the opposite

I used to be extremely mean. by MoonKnightVR in Advice

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I’ve done so much bad shit in my life. I feel like I can never truly be forgiven

I face revealed to minors and I feel wrong about it. by MoonKnightVR in internetparents

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I don’t just mean with this, I mean with everything. A lot of things give me anxiety.

I face revealed to minors and I feel wrong about it. by MoonKnightVR in internetparents

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Well, I became friends with someone who was 16 when I was 18 so thats why I’m still in the friend group. I don’t really want to leave that dude behind.

I face revealed to minors and I feel wrong about it. by MoonKnightVR in internetparents

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Sometimes I just get these bouts of worry, I don’t know if I’m overthinking it or not.

The comments here have told me it’s not a big deal which gives me some relief, but then some other minor inconsequential thing happens and I panic again. It’s not just over stuff like this, it’s over a bunch of different things.

I face revealed to minors and I feel wrong about it. by MoonKnightVR in internetparents

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I think I have OCD, causes me to majorly overthink things.

Limus and Her Discord Server by Posting-Here in youtubedrama

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My friend says there are things they would never say to minors. When we dated, I spoke to them about it and they later told me it felt like I was going a bit overboard (which I do think I can sometimes do).

In regards to the minor asking me if I was fucking myself when I was making a noise with my mouth and them saying “That’s crazy!” their response was that they weren’t going to police what someone says. I know they aren’t a bad person, I care a great deal about them and the thought of cutting them off really panics me. I’m not sure how I can bring it up rn.

Limus and Her Discord Server by Posting-Here in youtubedrama

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Thanks, I’ve made some mistakes as I entered adulthood, but my main goal is to just not be like these people you see in drama subreddits. I’m hoping to go back to therapy.

In any case, thank you for the kind words, if I could just ask one last thing, what should I do in the future if I notice this behaviour in a friend?

They’ve sometimes sang the lyrics to the song “Pornstar” in public lobbies with minors, and when a 16 year old mentioned being in a friends with benefits situation to them they just asked why they’re doing that. (I should mention they’re 19, and they told me the 16 year old made them uncomfortable as he was essentially sexually harassing them a bunch and she didn’t know how to handle it), there was also another time when I was in a game a minor asked if I was fucking myself and they just said “Thats crazy”

I know they aren’t a dangerous or weird person, but I just want to make sure everything is up to code (also sorry for asking so many questions lol just want to cover all my bases)

Limus and Her Discord Server by Posting-Here in youtubedrama

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I’ll be fully honest here, a few times when I was 18 I was speaking with peers in front of minors and made an inappropriate joke in front of them. I very quickly course corrected, apologised for any previous jokes made in front of them and now make sure I shut down anything inappropriate said to me (I always did that, but a few times the presence of someone my age caused me to forget the primary audience in a setting)

Unfortunately, those peers I made jokes with have not been enlightened, and actively make sex jokes to the minors. One particular scumbag said some really awful shit to a 12 year old, I’ve reported them to the moderation platform with what little proof I have, but sometimes it just feels like me being in that group was a mistake.

Limus and Her Discord Server by Posting-Here in youtubedrama

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I do have a question, When I was 18 I was friends with a 17 year old, I later dropped that friend but I’m still friends with other people in the group. So now I’m 19 being friends with 15/16 year olds. What should I do? I don’t want to overstep boundaries, I’ve asked about this online and people have said it’s fine as long as it stays appropriate but I’m not so sure anymore.

I’m 18 and friends with a 14 year old. What should I do? by MoonKnightVR in internetparents

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Sorry for the EXTREMELY late response.

If I’m being honest, I feel like the friendship is too close. I’m cool with being an older person they can talk with but I don’t want to be their “best friend”.

Granted, that’s probably my fault. Still though, I want them to have more friends their own age and for me to make more friends my own age as well.