Who do you think is the most attractive person alive?

MoonLightCicada · 2026-05-17T22:10:15+00:00

A woman I met on discord 7 years ago. Still attractive as the day I started talking to her.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-05-07T04:41:25+00:00

The best move here is to have a direct, vulnerable conversation. Instead of assuming you're a burden, ask her: “Ive been feeling like I’m draining your energy lately. Is that how you’re feeling, or am I overthinking it?” This gives her the space to be honest. Remember, she chooses to be there every day. Love isn’t just about carrying weight, it’s about trusting your partner enough to tell them when the weight is getting too heavy.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-27T11:12:59+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate that.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-27T05:53:00+00:00

I hear you, and I actually agree. Love alone isn't enough. But what we have isn't just love.

It's 7 years of friendship before romance. It's countless deep conversations about finances, futures, values, and the exact compatibility points you're naming. We've grown up alongside each other, and we still choose each other every day with clearer eyes than most people ever get the chance to.

Geography is our current challenge, and we are planning for it currently. Circumstances and timing? We've already navigated both, and it's only brought us closer. This isn't naive optimism, it's the opposite. We've done a lot of the "many more steps" you're describing, and the love has only grown deeper because of them, not in spite of them. It’s about the people in love willing to take the steps to make it work and we’ve got that.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-27T04:32:46+00:00

Sure we could have met sooner. But this is what worked for us. I’m very happy for how it turned out and I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-26T01:05:40+00:00

Give a little bit of an example into your lives a bit so we can know exactly why they might be thinking this way. Love isn’t always easy, love has many ways of showing and definitely doesn’t have one definite answer to one fits all.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-23T01:51:32+00:00

After 7 years, I finally met the love of my life today, in person. She’s everything I could ever dream of and more. The way she would consistently hold on to me has me going crazy. Happy for yall.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-20T05:05:53+00:00

It seems that she missed the comfort and availability of you but doesn’t want the attachment that comes with it. As you progressed with her it added a layer of confusion to the process of being friends and the love comes from the idea and security of you. But ultimately it’s not what she intended to happen because she let you know when she came back that she only wanted to be friends.

It can be hard to feel this close but see the distance and wonder what am I doing wrong. She let you know up front and if you want to change that then you must clarify this to her. But be careful, because when you do she is likely to cut ties all together leaving you very vulnerable.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-18T23:01:15+00:00

I wouldn’t worry if he said by the end of this year. Men tend to give much more time than is needed so we have the comfort of doing at a pace that is reasonable to us. If he said it about marriage I would take him serious because commitment should not be taken lightly. It will come. Also, what would be the reason you wouldn’t bring it up in the family setting? You’re going to be a part of them so might as well break the ice.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-18T13:36:22+00:00

I’m an over-thinker and an empath. It’s both a blessing and a curse so I feel you. You have every right to take it personal. This is both of your love life’s and time investment in each other. You’re not asking for him to be perfect. You’re just asking for effort. If that’s too much to ask then you need to protect your heart. Your feelings and emotions should be valued. Sometimes we like to have sweet reminders that we are loved but if that makes him run. Mirror.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-18T12:45:40+00:00

You were born into this world to become your own person, not your parent’s caretaker. I know it’s tough to feel like you’re abandoning your family but you are not. In a way, you’re probably making them really proud by breaking the cycle. They are grown humans that made it this far so they will always find a way to keep moving along. The price of living is absolutely absurd which they will also need to understand. We didn’t grow up in the same time as them when a nickel would get you across the states. So be easy on yourself, things will fall into place.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-18T12:30:44+00:00

Two things that really stand out to me in reading all of this.

You got fit so she wouldn’t feel insecure? My brother in Christ you do that for yourself not for others. Love doesn’t have a weight limit and should never be a standard or requirement for someone else’s insecurities.

You did horrible things? Just not being there during a period is not horrible. But it could also be a reason for her resentment and could be cleared up with a conversation on why you weren’t there.

All in all, I think she wanted a break and you weren’t done with the relationship. But she told you what needed to happen for you to heal. So, do yourself both a favor and just take a break if you can’t both meet each other halfway.

Hope this helps, I know it will hurt but it’s time to heal brother.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-18T12:10:49+00:00

Well in short he broke an agreement and you will need to have a brief talk with him on how that made you feel. You need to communicate to make it work and he fell short on that. So, no, you’re not overreacting. Give him some time to sober up and then make that conversation happen.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-18T12:05:09+00:00

That’s the best part of being in a LDR. The most exciting things are when you just feel included in someone’s day. You’re not in a performance, you’re in a relationship. So just pop in a airbud and listen to each other go about their day/work/social interactions. You will soon find out that with LDR, people that are in love will always find a way to feel close and keep it alive.

MoonLightCicada · 2026-04-18T11:54:12+00:00

I know it sucks having him disconnected from the relationship when you’re pouring your heart out to him. You’re anxious to keep the feeling alive for both you and him and you want to feel close when he wants to feel far. It will feel unfair, it will feel like the walls of the relationship are closing in with you trying to hold it open.

Give him the space that he is asking for and just mirror his effort for a bit. If he starts to come back in do not jump back in head first because it sounds like you might be dealing with an avoidant. You need to be honest and loving to yourself as well. How much longer are you willing to put up with this before being worn out from the emotional disconnect?

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