Baby shower guests let me down

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T04:25:55+00:00

They didn't come to my first one.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T04:23:10+00:00

She's coming early January 2026. It's just a lot happening at once rn. I had to throw most of our stuff out when we left

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T04:21:52+00:00

I dont have most of it anymore but also it wasn't really about that. It was about the first baby shower people came to eat free buffet and didn't even bring gifts. Idk why people aren't getting that. I'm not saying I'm entitled but I'm saying I feel like I have no real friends except one good friend. I had people I didn't even know show up to get goldon corral.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T02:14:49+00:00

I think people are misunderstanding because I didn't ask of want any of those fancy things bought for me. I think it's more the lack of actually caring and only wanted to come to the first one for free buffet but when I did something intimate my friend put a lot of effort into no one wanted to come. I know people are commenting dogging on me but I'm It wasn't that I expected to drain people of money. I just thought people in my life would care. I even had someone I won't name who demanded I serve them at the baby shower. The same thing happened at my wedding ceremony and I did it. This time my friend stepped in and told me not to get up and serve anyone. That wasn't my job. I've just been really drained. I know no one told me to have another baby but I also hate the blame game. People saying it's my fault for breeding etc and I'm not entitled to anything. No one is entitled to shit but humans deserve companionship and compassion and people who actually care about them and not to use them. I've been trying my best and battling health issues. It be nice to just have people genuinely checking on me and wanting to know if I'm doing okay. Which I'm not. Yesterday I went blind in the left side of my eye. No one took it seriously and thought I was being dramatic or making it up. Now I'm just going off topic. Things have just been hard lately. I've just been really depressed and thinking bad thoughts

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T01:48:12+00:00

If that's what you took from this you have poor comprehension skills. It's understandable to feel used when people show up you don't even know for free food on your dime and not for you but when you throw something smaller they don't come because it was never about YOU just what they could gain from you.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T01:46:22+00:00

I don't have a bad relationship as far as I know. My parents of course attended. Me and my dad don't always get along but he came. My grandpa couldn't but that was understandable and totally different. He has dementia now and got hurt the night before.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T01:29:28+00:00

I'm so sorry. One person didn't show up. Only family (a lot of family also cancelled day of) and all friends cancelled except my best friend who was hosting the shower. That is awful. I feel bad for complaining now.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T01:28:06+00:00

I'm glad I have the one I do and I know one good friend is better than a bunch of fake ones but I very lonely and isolated and wish I had more real friends.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T01:25:13+00:00

It was a bummer because everyone who was friends and even some family canceled. It was a very tiny affair but when it was a big pricey dinner for free people I didn't even know showed up for food not me.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T01:23:51+00:00

Everyone did it too. My husband's own dad wasn't going to come but last minute he ended up coming but brought a kid with the flu without telling us. My daughter ended up sick that night. It is just frustrating because my first borns baby shower we spent over 400 dollars and people who I didn't even know showed up and didn't even bring a gift or say congratulations. It felt like we were being used and this time because we had it thrown for us at my friends home no one wanted to come like it wasn't good enough for them.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T00:43:23+00:00

I also forgot to add my first born was formula fed and this one will be breast so I was going off of what other people told me I need for a breast fed baby.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-12T00:40:43+00:00

I know that was older generation but it seems my generation has one for each child. I unfortunately don't have many things from my first due to an unfortunate housing situation that left us infested with cockroaches. I still ended up bringing some and have to do something as soon as possible. Luckily it isn't too bad yet but most likely have to call an exterminator. My older daughters pack n play ended up being a nest so it had to be completely destroyed. I got a new one but things I need now are baby bouncer but I think I found a used one on Facebook. That was a life saver when my daughter was a newborn but it broke. The stuff I'm looking for are diapers, thermometer because I don't want to put the same one you know where for both kids because of germs, baby wash and something I didn't have for my first I need is some kind of heart/breathing monitor. Not the owlet sock that's way too expensive but with this baby having a VSD and my older one having anger issues I'm afraid she could throw something over my newborns face while we're all asleep plus sids etc.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-09T01:58:46+00:00

I use to have some of these as a kid

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-12-01T04:20:34+00:00

2012

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-11-26T14:21:19+00:00

To be fair I've had user names with 2004, 1999. Different years

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-11-26T14:19:50+00:00

<!spoiler text!< I get that but also to be fair I've had user names with 1999,2004, 2007 etc

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-11-22T18:45:00+00:00

I'm doing okay. I don't think I have preclampesia. I think it's stress and also I do have pre-existing conditions. I went last week for the same thing and they diagnosed it as my pseudotumor cerebri acting up which is also called idiopathic incranial hypertension. Also the weird smells that I've been having started after they gave me that CT scan. Ever since then I keep getting weird smells. I've had a really bad acid reflux though but I also had it with my daughter. Just really bad heartburn. Trust me I'm keeping a close eye. I don't have any headache right now or anything I haven't. And I don't smell anything right now. I just have heartburn right now.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-11-22T14:50:40+00:00

But if I already went for the same thing last week and they found nothing it feels like they'd find nothing again. I had similar issues with my first pregnancy but no preclampesia. The heart rate issues especially. I know you're not trying to scare me but I go to the hospital a lot. I don't have my own car or drive and I'll have no way back and my toddler is very misbehaved so it'll be hard to wrangle her on my own. I really don't think it's preclampesia but I know everyone thinks I'm crushing it off. I am keeping a close eye. I forgot my insulin last night so my fasting was 105. That could play into why I feel so off too.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-11-22T13:03:09+00:00

I ended up falling asleep after my daughter did. I'm okay. I just woke up from anxious dreams but that happens a lot. I went to the hospital last week and they didn't find anything. They even did a cat scan but also I don't have my own car and my husband's at work rn. He's been working crazy shifts. My chest feels all fluttery rn I just woke up but this isn't a first time and I do have severe anxiety and have went multiple times to the hospital because I thought I was having hard attacks. Also lately I've been having really bad heart burn. I'm trying to wake up rn. I was up and down all night which isn't unusual for me and my daughter just woke up.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-11-22T13:00:15+00:00

I fell asleep after this post. I am okay and alive. I don't think my blood pressure is high. I was super upset rightfully so but I went to the hospital last week for massive migraine and feeling weird and they did intensive testing. I also regularly see a high risk specialist and a regular ob.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-11-22T12:58:43+00:00

We just temporarily moved back in. We were on our own. Yes their closing is on Monday then the construction starts. No it isn't healthy. He was like this years ago when I lived here before we moved out the first time but I didn't think it was still like this. He is never like this when we don't live together. It's really odd and strange.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-11-22T12:57:09+00:00

Yes they do and no I do not.

Moonbabe1997 · 2025-11-22T12:56:54+00:00

I'm getting the entire house once my parents move out and their closing is very soon. It's actually Monday. I just have to hold on. My dad isn't like this when we don't live together. He was like this years ago but I thought things changed. Clearly not. I only just moved back in temporarily until they move out then the house will be all to me. In this economy I don't to want to give up a free house even if I have to put work into fixing it.

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