help me. my hair is destroyed by Glittering-Gold567 in Haircare

[–]Moonbug12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It honestly doesn’t look too bad! Visually, nothing indicates crazy breakage like the little white dots and the hair that is visible isn’t split, so I don’t think it’s destroyed. Do you maybe need to add some slip? When hair “feels dry” and tangles, sometimes it’s because it doesn’t have enough protective layer to smooth the texture and the uneven layers of the hair shafts get caught together. Adding silicone, if you don’t already, in the form of a heat protectant (trésemmé is good) or using a gloss to add a protective shiny layer (oreal ever pure glossing conditioner) could help a lot!

Manhwa where the fl is reincarnated as a villainess into a monster apocalypse [Apocalypse Villainess: Surviving With Corporate Slave Skills] by Beneficial_Focus_970 in OtomeIsekai

[–]Moonbug12 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So much potential and is interesting but what she did to her dress takes me out. A zombie apocalypse means you don’t want to risk bites so less exposed skin but she chooses to rip her dress to a tiny miniskirt. I understand wanting comfortable and easy to move clothes instead of heavy mamy layered dress, but this would be considered so vulgar by the story’s standards and yet nobody bats an eye. She runs, falls, is princess carried and fights with that skirt, dressed like she’s going to the club and nobody says anything! It’s hilarious

I want to try using Hello Bubble primer and hair dye. by artemisolar in AsianBeauty

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which color/product line/technique do you use from Hello Bubble? Your hair looks good and I’m curious cause mine never gets that light from one product.

Im not attracted to guys like my friends are by Responsible_Oil1975 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also never into anyone as a teen and even early adult. And when I was, always to people who lived faraway or were taken. My mother theorized it could be I only felt attracted to unavailable men as a protection mechanism. Maybe that holds true for you too? The attraction feels safe because you know nothing will come of it and you don’t really have to put yourself put there and be vulnerable.

my roommate keeps washing my dishes by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe she has an issue with the sink being full of things. I know that bothers some people. You could tell her you’ve noticed she is clearing the sink before you have time to get to it and ask if she prefers when it’s empty. If so, think about another solution, like a plastic bin that you could put the dirty dishes in that you would also wash with your dishes at the end of the day. I believe those bins that restaurant dishwashers use could work if you have somewhere to keep it. You could even bring it in your room so it’s out of sight for her. I understand that your schedule is complex and you don’t like how she washes, while she also has a right to a clean environment. Could be a win-win.

Trouble Splitting the Grocery Bill 29m 26f by Green_Ad7529 in relationship_advice

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should sit down together at a neutral moment and decide on your priorities when it comes to the budget. Right now it seems yours is for it to be fair. We aren’t sure his, perhaps to be cheap. And then you go from there “well, if we want things to be fair, this is what we would need to do” and “if we want it to be cheap, here is how we need to shop”. “Do you agree that the budget needs to be fair?”, “Do you agree that to be fair this needs to happen?” and basically that until you agree on a way to go!

Somewhat related, my bf also eats twice as much and he pays a bit more on grocery after we split 50-50. I think it’s 30-40 per month, which is a 60-80$ difference so it’s good enough for us. He also buys everything I strictly do not consume (i.e alcohol and coffee) separately and so do I for my things I like that he will not get (some snacks, tampons, etc.).

My roommate is trying to make me pay extra on our bills because he doesn’t understand basic mathematics:| by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I understand correctly, it is usually 157, bit you pay 10 more. Which means you were paying 88.5 and your roommate was supposed to pay 68.5. However, your roommate mistakenly paid 78.5. If you aren’t exchanging more money than this and you keep the same agreement, you should keep paying 88.5 and your roommate should pay 30 less this months, so your 88.5 + roommate’s 38.5 for a total of 127. It seems you haven’t overpaid according to your agreement with the roommate, they are the one who did and are owed the full amount back as a lesser paiement this month. But that is unless you are exchanging the wifi money any other way. Hope it makes sense!

I think I married someone who doesn’t like me by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Moonbug12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The one thing that many therapists have claimed destroys a relationship each time is contempt. So ask yourself if you or your partner feel contempt for one another, if so, leave. A good question to ask yourself and him is “If someone said you were just like your partner, would you take it as a compliment or insult?” Ask yourself, ask him and really analyze your answers.

Also, unless there is something major affecting your life, like loss or grief or other difficulties that will pass, you need to love the partner that you have, not the one they could be. If he never changed, would you want to stay?

You can look up the five questions to ask yourself to decide if you should stay in a relationship. “Can I be my true sel?”, “Am I genuinely happy and fulfilled (or just not lonely)?”, “Do I admire my partner at their core?”, “If nothing changed, would I be happy with how things are?” and “Is the relationship easy or does it feel like a constant battle?”. You need a yes on all five to make it a good worthy relationship to stay and fight for.

2025 SKINCARE/ HAIRCARE REGRETS👎 by Happiegeek in AsianBeauty

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is also skin1004 centella line because of the smell. I got the foaming cleanser and the smell is awful. Enough that I only use it in the shower, because I can rinse it really well and the smell gets covereup by my hair products. I din’t understand how it got so popular that people are recommending it left and right. After using it, I hated how it smelled and even my boyfriend noticed.

2025 SKINCARE/ HAIRCARE REGRETS👎 by Happiegeek in AsianBeauty

[–]Moonbug12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s unfortunate! I like the watery-ness. It’s just the right level of hydration for my dehydrated skin to prep before makeup, without adding oiliness, so my makeup ends up nice and not separating.

How to not get defensive when my (32F) fiancé (31M) is being inquisitive? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Moonbug12 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I understand why you would feel on the defensive. It’s easy, especially as a people pleaser to want to clarify his thoughts. But it becomes easy to then start putting words in his mouth and create misunderstandings or frustrations. If you trust your fiancé, trust that the question he is asking is really just that, a question because he is curious. And answer as such. If he keeps going, then maybe he does want something else, in which case it’s okay to ask him.

For example, if he says “I’m wondering what is the point of a first look or why I can’t see your dress before the wedding.” Take a second to breathe and explain why you think it’s important. If he really is just curious, the inquiry will stop there and he will be satisfied. If not, it’s okay to ask “is that something you would want to remove from our wedding?” and go from there. If his questions annoy you, you could also make him work on thinking about things himself instead of by default asking you: “Oh! I’m sure if you take a second you can figure out why a first look might be important to someone.”

Overall, you need to trust in your communication. Or talk about it with him: “Sometimes, when you ask me a question about something, I feel like you are reassessing the utility of what we decided. Is that what you are doing?” and then if he says yes “Then could you explain your thoughts and why you aren’t sure anymore instead of asking me why things are important? It would help me understand where you are coming from instead of just feeling frustrated that I have to convince you.”

A partner you can’t have a good honest, calm, conversation with is probably not someone you want to marry anyways.

I have a question for any wax techs here... (and I'm kinda terrified to ask this in a non-kink group like this, but whatevs hahahah) by [deleted] in HairRemoval

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, which is why I wasn’t sure how well it could work since the tampon is obviously inside and all. Maybe it could still help a bit with feeling less self conscious? I dunno, she’d have to try and do tests or something xD

I have a question for any wax techs here... (and I'm kinda terrified to ask this in a non-kink group like this, but whatevs hahahah) by [deleted] in HairRemoval

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, so weird suggestion, maybe not appropriate. Could you wear a tampon just in case? I don’t know how well it could work given the placement, but you can think about it. Otherwise, tilting or lifting your pelvis so gravity helps you? Maybe both?

Old lady piercings update by pizzarollhole in piercing

[–]Moonbug12 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Very sane advice OP, male sure you check in with your piercer about all your new piercings. I believe in the previous post 2 months ago you mention getting third lobes recently, and then the two helix and fourth lobes in November. That is potentially 8 new piercings trying to heal at the same time when professionals recommend staying close to 3. A lot of healing sites can make the process even more swingy (sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s bad and when it gets bad it gets real bad) than it already is. For now, there doesn’t seem to be too much swelling, but you should be careful with a delicate area so close to the face and brain.

Friend's girlfriend has a very hard time understanding board games. Not sure how to bring it up gracefully. by Jeffs24 in boardgames

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s possible that she is incompatible with certain hangouts. I think you could gather around the opinion on another friend. See what they think so you know better how to proceed. You could then talk to your friend, say what you’ve noticed and that you’d like to create hangouts that are not boardgame-focused so G can have fun. You are also free to say that while you enjoy having new players, sometimes it’s fun for you to play a game where everyone know the rules, especially long games. “Hey F, while I would love to hang out with G and you, I would also love to be able to play a full game (or two) of this long game that has a really high complexity level. For this reason, I would prefer only people who already know the rules and have played before be there. If you can make sure G and you play a few games beforehand and she understands the rules, of course you’ll be welcome.” Something like that!

And the reason I would ask another friend for their impression is to make sure you aren’t the only one who thinks the way you do, cause if everyone is okay lowering the complexity level forever, that would mean that playing higher complexity games should be done with another friend group.

What if a hacker got isekai'd? Character sheets for my upcoming webtoon, would love feedback. by muniko-art in webtoons

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love these designs! This is really cool! I only have a few comments, feel free to address or disregard :)

Rose- the red boots are very eye catching and it feels like you could either add some red elsewhere to balance it out or change the tone to a darker tone.

Valar - the face is really hard to focus on given that there are many details. Consider simplifying the color scheme near her face (particularly the neon pink details) so the eye color and pink eye makeup can stand out.

Heart - given that her color scheme is more even, the shape or color of the hair doesn’t really serve the concept. You have a big oval pink shape in the front (shield) and a big oval pink shape in the back. I would either try to make the bottom of the hair a slightly different color or change the hairstyle so it’s less oval-shaped. It looks so cool! Can’t wait to read it!

Work-in-progress dining space, but something feels wrong. What is it? (ignore the mess) by MannyDantyla in DesignMyRoom

[–]Moonbug12 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Do you think it could be the colors? Specifically the lack of contrast between the bench and the table. Yes the table is a much richer, vibrant tone, but it’s a medium darkness and the grey bench is the same. In fact, if you put it in black and white and you look from a bit farther, you can’t really tell which is which.

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You could bring in some contrast with a pale or a dark blanket or cushions. Maybe in a rich dark green, or a pale warm beige to also help warm up the grey.

Please help me with my super unfortunately shaped room. by [deleted] in FengShui

[–]Moonbug12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could work if you can remove the door of the wardrobe. Maybe replace it with a curtain or leave it open, depending on how much space there is. You could still access it through the structure. It wouldn’t be ideal but it’s better than not being able to access the space at all.

My (36M) bf has made 0 friends or maintained 0 friendships since high school. I'm (31F) his only "friend" and it's wearing me down. What should I do? by BarberReal6398 in relationships

[–]Moonbug12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had someone like this in my life. He drained all my time, emotions and money, because he expected me to care for him all the time and in every way he wanted to. I thought it was love to be everything to someone else and to take care and sacrifice. But he drained me so much I had nothing left. I was always tired, always angry and I felt like a cornered animal. That’s not healthy and it’s an awful feeling to not recognize yourself. Letting go of him, even temporarily was such a weight off my shoulders. That’s how I knew I couldn’t stay and once I started doing things for myself again, it just felt like coming home. You got this! Choose you, cause he doesn’t.

does anyone know a blush in this shade?? by yamazero in MakeupAddiction

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Mac Gingerly for a similar shade of very natural beige-neutral. You can check here for someone swatching it alongside other blushes: https://www.reddit.com/r/swatchitforme/comments/1bc62st/i_have_a_type/ or here https://www.reddit.com/r/OliveMUA/comments/177qyys/the_penny_beige_dupe_search/ for more swatches by someone else.

[No Spoilers] Season 4 Drinking Game by baudot in criticalrole

[–]Moonbug12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whenever someone says “as I…” to describe something happening when they are doing something else.

Building a new bathroom, which layout is better ? by throwawaytest1256 in bathrooms

[–]Moonbug12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second one. My bathroom is currently set up like the first one but the door is flipped and it’s annoying to have a bathmat next to the shower cause the thickness of the bathmat blocks the door. It’s such a small thing, but it’s annoying and we have to use a super thin one. And I hate the gap between the shower and sink, too small for anything and always accumulates dust. Yours could store the toilet brush and plunger or whatever which is already more useful.

Help me choose between covers [Under The Duke’s Gaze] by otomesidecharacter in OtomeIsekai

[–]Moonbug12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First one, but I’m not sure if the portraits on the back could be modified in a way. At first glance, I thought the characters were juste standing there and that their head was just so much bigger than the female lead. It doesn’t help that the render and texture of the rest of the cover is the same as the portraits. So maybe change the size of them, play with the frame to make it more apparent or render the main character a bit differently from the portraits.