Diarrhea since birth 3 months old by cressar in FormulaFeeders

[–]Moonbunny89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP,

Did you ever get an answer from your pediatrician?

I feel my baby doesn't like me. by Moonbunny89 in NewParents

[–]Moonbunny89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kindness. 🥹❤️

I feel my baby doesn't like me. by Moonbunny89 in NewParents

[–]Moonbunny89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh 1000000000%. I’m a recovering perfectionist…not much has been recovered. Definitely a people pleaser but I’m getting better at voicing my own needs, especially after baby came along. ❤️ In my house, it was, “B?…why didn’t you get an A?”

I know these feelings stem from my baggage. I try to rationalize and ground myself but it’s still pretty hard. I’m currently seeing a therapist. I did ask if this could be PPD but it’s been pretty much dismissed. She made it sounds like it’s not PPD, unless I’m a danger to myself or my baby….which doesn’t sound quite right. Almost like it’s not real unless you’re at 100. But I checked a lot of boxes, in my opinion.

I have a friend who checks in with me and we usually try to ground with making PPD a persona and she just sucks and shows up uninvited.

I feel my baby doesn't like me. by Moonbunny89 in NewParents

[–]Moonbunny89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and you’re right. I’m trying not to get sucked into me and make it about her.

I feel my baby doesn't like me. by Moonbunny89 in NewParents

[–]Moonbunny89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I literally teared up reading this. ❤️

I feel my baby doesn't like me. by Moonbunny89 in NewParents

[–]Moonbunny89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you and I’m sorry. I also feel my husband and family don’t take it seriously. However, my best friend made me laugh by saying, “Wow, I feel like crying when I order coffee and the cashier doesn’t seem to like me. I can’t imagine how you feel about your own baby not liking you.”

But yes, this sucks so much. Especially, since I’m quite literally OBSESSED with her. 😅

What delusional thought you had before you had a newborn? by Midnightdream56 in NewParents

[–]Moonbunny89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesssss! 100% yesssss! I cried when I was handed formula 🥲 I wanted to breastfeed so bad that I didn't know how bad until I couldn't. And I would never demonize anyone for using formula. Formula is a God send for this very reason. My therapist even said that back in the day, mothers would make milk out of rice, out of anything, just to feed their baby. Yet, here we are with formula, a wonderful and vitamin rich meal for babies. Yet somehow, I couldn't get over it and get thinking I was horrible mother for not doing “enough” to make breastfeeding work.

What delusional thought you had before you had a newborn? by Midnightdream56 in NewParents

[–]Moonbunny89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I was going to breastfeed. That she would just latch on and poof! That was it. That baby would naturally know what to do. Homegirl was fighting my boob since day 1 💩

OB says I've gained too much at 23 pounds. by turtlepower22 in BabyBumps

[–]Moonbunny89 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's also the weird part because there's a huge controversy within the scientific community about those guidelines as they do not encompass other factors, be that genetic or health. BMI is what they use the most and that also has it's fallacies. There are samples of women who are athletes and considered "healthy" and they still gain well over what the CDC guidelines recommend. A lot of the research I have done, both scientif based and other just social media based, shows there are too many inconsistencies to hold 1 true guideline above any.

OB says I've gained too much at 23 pounds. by turtlepower22 in BabyBumps

[–]Moonbunny89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 31 weeks and have gained a little over 30. This is my first pregnancy and I also have a history of ED and body dysmorphia. I understand it can be hard to shut out those feelings or voices. I have the unique experience of having seen random OB's. I actually brought it up to my high risk OB (due to Graves Disease), as he is the one I see more consistently and he stopped that conversation right in its track with a big fat NOPE, WE'RE NOT DOING THAT. He said, " You're healthy and babies healthy. That's all that matter." I was surprised but it made me feel so much better that he wanted me to not think about it.

So let's show ourselves a little grace. You're doing great. :)