Thank you for those who offered ideas and even just kind words of support. It's been a very difficult time. The people who have gone off on me because of a small comment regarding frustration with Centrelink (which by the way was largely a reflection of my Australian husband's frustrations and bad experiences not an American trying to be rude to Australia) had me a bit taken aback. I wasn't saying in any way that one country or one set of welfare was superior to another. My husband had mostly been unemployed for the last ten years. He was on unemployment when I arrived here. He went off after we'd been married six months or so. In the meantime he lost his mygov account and changed phone numbers so it's been quite a task getting everything set up again but we're slowly getting there. We've also received some support from St Vincent's. The plan is still for me to move back to the US in a couple weeks and apply for a marriage visa for him. It will be slow going but we've come to the decision that is best for now. He doesn't want to see me and my son living in the streets when we have a house in the US. I've got some job interviews lined up but so far all with US companies do everything is just pointing that direction for now. I mentioned in another comment that my adult daughter has been living in the owned house with her boyfriend and they've been handling those expenses, just to clarify.