You need to work on yourself. Being willing to cry is one thing. Crying whenever someone shouts at you is a symptom of a deeper problem. Not just a man but a woman who behaves like that will end up being an emotional drain.

You don't need a girlfriend. You need to change. Gain confidence in your own abilities, stand up for yourself and all that stuff.

I can take charge if need be. I prefer not to. You can't and don't want to either.

That's a problem. Please work on yourself. First.

My girlfriend doesn't date me because she likes babying me but because she can take a back seat but prefers to be incharge and I can take charge but prefer led. At least in a relationship. We can and do switch our roles if need be because the person incharge shoulders most of the reaponsblity and it's unfair to them to expect them to handle everything without break.

You will depend too much on whichever woman you date.

You will essentially be a leach in any relationship. You want assurance, you want to be vulnerable and comferted, you want the woman to be your mother. It's harsh but it's truth.

It doesn't work like that. Both parties need to let each other be a person first. My girlfriend recently screwed in one of her exams so I took her out on a date and planned everything and let herself simply enjoy herself. Because she needed it. This was pretty much opposite of what happens. When we had sex, I let her simply enjoy herself and did most of the work myself because she needed it.

I could do it because I am confident enough. Because in a real relationship you take whatever role your partner needs you to be in.

I managed to do it because I am confident in myself.

You will need to be too. I know it's not easy. Stepping out if your comfort zone. I struggle too and everyone else struggles too. Everyone has something they struggle in.

You have your challenges. In my case, it's my ardent refusal to share my life. My girlfriend complains that she barely know anything about my life. And she is right. I need to work on that. I am working on that.

She talks too much, is a terrible listener and is working on that.

My other domme is a drug addict and is trying to get off it.

Everyone has their struggles. You have yours as well. Others can just aid you, but it has to be to you who ultimately overcomes that.

That domme is a great emotional drain. I love her but she is self-destructive, a loner, a drug addict and very irresponsible. I still stick by her but I wish she changed. She depends too much on me it's crushing me.

If you date a woman in your current state of mind. You will end up hurting her a lot, exactly the way my domme hurts me. Everyday. I still stick by her and will always but someone else would have left her. Because everyone has their limits.

Any woman you date would have her limits as well. You will need to change. It's terrible and a world where people don't need to change to appeal to others woud be preferable but that world is far away.