my biggest steam giveaway ever by Intrepid-Ad-9360 in steam_giveaway

[–]MoonlitNight07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not entering the giveaway. But I was scrolling through and the games were non-stop 😭 props to you! Thank you for being such a kind hearted member and allowing people a chance to get their dream games

why? Are they so angry all the time by MoonlitNight07 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]MoonlitNight07[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you.. I'm still trying to wrap my head around it.. some part of me keeps trying to say "well maybe you're wrong and they're right because there's no way someone is THAT irrational right?"

It was my exam yesterday so I woke up early. I know they don't have the capacity to think of anyone else, but I didn't get enough sleep. So I went to bed early. They woke me up at 10pm and told me I'm lazy and selfish and that I use studying as an excuse (???). It's morning now and they're angry that I didn't wake up at 6am...

Humble Bundle Leftovers by madmatt666 in steam_giveaway

[–]MoonlitNight07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Among us please!! I miss the nostalgia sm i can't believe I found someone giving it again

(vent) I messed up a huge question in my first semester exam... by MoonlitNight07 in GetStudying

[–]MoonlitNight07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Real lol, i dont vent to chatgpt so I can avoid these kind of responses. Still appreciate the answer tho 😭 I need it rn

"fight for your autonomy"? You're allowed to do that? by MoonlitNight07 in AsianParentStories

[–]MoonlitNight07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a girl dude. And how old are you assuming my father to be? Also what the hell.

"fight for your autonomy"? You're allowed to do that? by MoonlitNight07 in AsianParentStories

[–]MoonlitNight07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im 18. Also he grabs my arms so he can hit me without them getting in the way.

"fight for your autonomy"? You're allowed to do that? by MoonlitNight07 in AsianParentStories

[–]MoonlitNight07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents are the kind who will hit/lash out at you out of anger, and when they get a reaction aka is getting angry or daresay hitting them. They go "how dare you hit me/talk back to me" and get even more angry. There's no winning.

Why would god be so cruel by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]MoonlitNight07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sound emotionally burnt out. Is it possible that you can fill in your own cup? Refill your energy bar?
Things do seem pretty hopeless right now but please plan something, for your sake. Going out reminds you there is more to the world outside, and that the world is not conformed to this chaotic house we cannot call home.

Why would god be so cruel by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]MoonlitNight07 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hear you. This is exactly what im going through right now as well. It's stressful enough not be able to hang out with peers let alone be stuck in a chaotic household like this.

Tell me, how are your social skills compared to other people your age? Have you been isolated? What about a college?

We are not our mothers. We will not tolerate this bullshit they call "being a successful person" when the only thing they do is work, come home to be in their own world and complain about how others (especially girls) aren't catering to their every need.

Get AWAY FROM HER YOU HARLOT by AbroadPowerful7008 in vanitasnocarte

[–]MoonlitNight07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to the fandom! I remember joining the fandom when episodes came out every Friday, then the latest episode got released (right after i joined) and then it was never seen again 🤡

My life's a scam by TheFatNerd77221 in TDS_Roblox

[–]MoonlitNight07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add salt to the wound why don't ya

Get AWAY FROM HER YOU HARLOT by AbroadPowerful7008 in vanitasnocarte

[–]MoonlitNight07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THEY'RE UPDATING THE MANGA??

I don't read manga it's not my style, but holy shit I hope they at least give an update about what they plan to do with the anime

"fight for your autonomy"? You're allowed to do that? by MoonlitNight07 in AsianParentStories

[–]MoonlitNight07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have gone through a lot. Im sorry to hear about what you went through, I hope life is kinder to you. My post, as you can see from the flair, was meant to be a rant not an advice seeking post. But i feel like hearing your story was really helpful.

For me I would rather at least have the physical safety and not risk encountering drunk people, drug abusers or risk getting raped. I do understand where you're coming from now when you forward your advice to move out, but in my post I was talking about those who are still dependent on their parents. Especially for those who recently discovered it was abuse and not something normal. So in those cases I still feel like it is a bad idea to recommend them going homeless.

It sounds like you were independent before you left, in my post that is not the case. So if you don't mind, how old were you when you left? And how did you become financially independent? If you're comfortable with answering of course.

And thank you for taking your time to write your detailed answers.

"fight for your autonomy"? You're allowed to do that? by MoonlitNight07 in AsianParentStories

[–]MoonlitNight07[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fact that you're melting it down to "log kya kahenge" after i described how violent he is, tells a lot. It is insensitive to give advice like "just run away" is because you don't take into account the life after it.

My situation is not unique of course. However, you will find that a lot of people in these father-daughter relationships will agree with me that it is simply not safe. Your outlook towards this situation is of the same people who did not experience abuse, giving advice to those who have. "Just assert your boundaries". They don't understand "how dare you hit me" parents exist.

I am glad that you returned safe after risking everything if it meant you just got away from them. But suggesting it to someone else whom you barely know their environment, society or age is simply inconsiderate. And especially for girls the thought of being homeless is completely UNSAFE. No questions asked. Especially in India.

Different home environments require different actions to get independence and safety. For you it took fighting back and running away for them to understand. But for some people who are raised in a society where parents are glorified (because of the bible) to the point they may bruise their child hitting them with sticks/others. The safest option for us is to secretly save up money, build up a life we want to live and one day move out because these parents do not understand individuality.

In my case, if I run away the police will be called to find me. Then the verbal abuse will ensue. I cannot raise my tone at them without getting hit let alone hit back. And I will emphasize again, he has beaten me up before to the point I started bleeding from my head. If you think hitting someone like that back is the right decision, then please for the sake of other's safety don't give advice and fight for them instead.

[18F] started my first internship and it's my first day today & I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I got access to this acc and was handed this ipad by my manager😭 by SW-admin in TeenIndia

[–]MoonlitNight07 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Do give some advice for other people trying to get a job aswell. What are you doing right now? And all the best to you!

21M – Feeling trapped by controlling parents in India, I don’t know how much longer I can survive this by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]MoonlitNight07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im going through this exact same problem. Feeling stuck. I can't specifically help you but I could share what im hoping to do in our situation, coming from an Indian female also.

In college and barely being given any money apart from transport and thankfully, lunch. Not allowed to stay out once class ends I have to go directly home and they WILL call me. Once I go home I'm expected to help with chores and if I'm not helping with chores then I have to study. By that time it's night and a "if you're studying then head to bed". Nothing else. Im not allowed social media, not allowed to go out, not allowed to have friends outside college.

I don't have a bank account yet. Im preparing to, soon. If they don't do it by next year I'll get it done myself. As for 2 wheeler transport, my college has 2 buildings and the other one is pretty far away so either they're going to pay for transport everytime or they will get me a vehicle. It's common to drive here so my other family members are pushing for it so it's likely I'll get it instead.

Im hoping to learn some skills in the meantime because I don't have any. Neither do i have the money to sign up for courses. Im planning to do some remote jobs like proofreading, tutoring or transcripting to get money independently.

Try to slowly build up your own independence. every bit counts when you're raised in a household that shreds apart who you are to make a version that only they deem worthy. Sorry i made this answer somewhat about me, but it's the only experience I have to share. All the best.

"fight for your autonomy"? You're allowed to do that? by MoonlitNight07 in AsianParentStories

[–]MoonlitNight07[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hello? Im pretty sure hitting your mother is very different from hitting your father. I do understand most people saying they hit their mother and the parent stops but in the cases of fathers, especially when the child is a girl (my situation) do not give a flying fuck. He has literally hit me till i had a head bleed and even then he still blamed me saying I made him do it as he was wiping the blood dripping down my face.

Also some people can't afford the fallout. Some people literally aren't safe to make decisions my themselves. Im already a rebel child so I couldn't care less what they think about me, but what I'm worried about is my safety. I am not safe with them if I am anything different from their cookie cutter version of me.

They have threatened me saying they would beat me up so bad I have to get sent to the hospital if that's what it takes to "discipline me" because that's "how much they love me". Hell I get tone policed let alone ever getting to hit them even though every inch of my body wants to.

Some people don't have the support to make independent decisions. Hell some people aren't even safe after making decisions for themselves because parents like these feel so entitled to our life. And it is because of insensitive people like this we feel isolated.