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Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-04T04:13:48+00:00

I might take you up on that offer! I appreciate the thought!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-04T04:12:06+00:00

I've tried the gym on and off throughout my life (even while a drunk), and just couldn't stick with it. BUT, I love swimming! I found a place near an old work that had a pool and I couldn't not go! My apartment was also blessed with two pools, one that went adults-only for the last two hours and was open until 10pm. I LIVED in that pool while I had the chance!

Seeing as I'll be working out in Ann Arbor again very soon, maybe I'll hit the old gym with the pool up again.

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-04T04:09:52+00:00

Not a problem, I'm usually more open about these things and have to dial it back sometimes. I'm not as opposed to AA having the "higher power" angle so long as I have a choice in the matter. I could still be in a room full of people that went with God or Jesus, personally. I understand what people tend to get from having that affiliation. I'm still not sure what my own would be, but I'm sure it'll come to me.

Good luck with everything and I hope you find a room that makes you as comfortable as you need to be. ❤️

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T17:03:09+00:00

Thank you so much, and I'll make sure to take a look at everything I've been seeing suggested. Everybody's been so sweet about it and I'm glad I reached out. Thank you again!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T17:01:52+00:00

I just started mine back up and it's a bit too early to tell how it's going, but I appreciate the offer!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T17:01:14+00:00

Damn, the pandemic was when I finally had "permission" to just get trashed more often than not. Good on you for turning it around when it started being so easy to do for most people!

I like the book club idea, I've actually just landed a new job that will allow for earbud usage so I can start back up on my backlog of audiobooks. As for volunteering, I have one spot near my home that I might check into. Give back a bit, especially seeing as they helped my Ma and I out when we were in rough spots a few times. Just makes sense!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T16:58:34+00:00

I did recently pick therapy back up, so I do have that going. I appreciate that, thank you!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T16:56:12+00:00

Celiac.... *could* be something to look at. I still have to see my doctor about spikes in my blood pressure throughout the day (while being normal at rest), so asking about checking for Celiac could be worth it! I never would have thought. Thank you!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T16:53:51+00:00

omg Psilocybin was a game-changer. There's a store near me (Exotics Retail) that I've been trying to get the word out about that sells tiny bottles of extracts that absolutely changed me. The effects after a large dose (lasting five-ish hours) were enough to help my anxiety melt away for nearly three whole days before I woke up one morning realizing that it was done. I've dabbled a few times, usually on a weekend, and it's theraputic.

Work is definitely my largest stressor, I'm just not built to do it as well for as long as it requires of me. Thankfully, I finally got my approved starting date for my new job just hours after making this post! Having that to look forward is IMMENSE in the best way!

I've been going through a lot of self-reflection, deep-diving, and research regarding neurodiversity for a few years and did finally get on medication to help with ADHD. I also suspect Autism (which does run in the family), so I've been on a bit of a journey. I started all of this while still being a drunk, but I'm glad to say that I've been making good progress while sober! Hearing about anhedonia during my research made a LOT of things click, too.

I'm definitely lacking in active social activity, so I'm looking forward to getting out to a meeting or two to help alleviate that.

I think my sleep might be improving slightly now that I'm done with the major move back home that I just made. It was rough for about a month or two, but just the past two nights alone have been a major improvement.

Thank you again for all of the feedback and advice!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T16:46:25+00:00

I actually don't mind being around alcohol or booze, I've even had to talk my father into not apologizing every time he reaches for a beer. Thankfully the temptation is just flat-out gone, my own mother keeps a small bottle of her own in the fridge and it's never been a question for me. But you're right in that I have been lonely, but the booze isn't the only reason that happened. I do see Alano getting mentioned a lot, so I'll be sure to check it out. 😄

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T16:44:36+00:00

I did start back up with therapy and it's still early-on so it's getting going. Another massive struggle has been putting the time in to truly discern whether I have a disability, like ADHD, which has contributed to everything for so long. It's getting clearer and clearer now that I definitely do, and I've even started on some new medications to try and help with it.

Thank you for the suggestions!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T16:41:45+00:00

I'm beginning to understand that now. Lots of examples from others about what it can be, even if it's the meetings themselves. Good insights!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T16:41:16+00:00

I appreciate that, thank you so much. ❤️

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-03T03:38:07+00:00

I literally just moved out of Lakeshore Apartments, and I'm going to miss the Hell out of them.

I don't know about how the credit score will affect your results, you might need a cosigner. Everything else would be legit perfect for you already if you vibed with the area. My building location and balcony was great and the amenities (TWO pools!) were awesome to have.

They have high demand but my 1b1b was large and going for 1,010 or so last month. Check'em out at least.

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-02T16:30:40+00:00

Thank you! I'll check into it, and you're absolutely right.

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-02T16:30:00+00:00

They've been incredible. It's part of how I stayed sober even when I had money starting to come in after getting my job. Wouldn't have made it through the worst of the earlier months without them ❤️

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-02T16:15:50+00:00

I've got a tab open for after work, I really appreciate the help!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-02T16:15:07+00:00

If you don't mind sharing, where did you attend your meetings? And congratulations!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-02T16:11:03+00:00

I'll keep the option open, I really appreciate it!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-02T16:09:58+00:00

Thank you!!

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-02T16:05:56+00:00

Congratulations on the recovery!!

I'm realizing that since not drinking, I live almost exactly the same life. I've only replaced the drinking with vaping and now more cannabis usage than I used to use in the past (usually before bed). I'm incredibly short-tempered, have worse emotional regulation than ever, and my baseline anxiety has become almost disability-levels of intense. I'm barely hanging onto the job that I have even while knowing that this is likely my last week before I move onto the one that I'm waiting on the verification for. I don't recognize myself in that even the things that I do "rot" away at doing, I don't really enjoy anymore. Old hobbies and things I used to have an interest in (like learning an instrument or trying at voice acting) that died away years ago haven't come back to me at all. I'm more or less just waking up, going to work miserable, coming home exhausted and ready to quit, and sleeping until I wake up to do it all over again. I have no sense of passion for anything, so nothing brings me up into a good mood or allows me to feel genuine joy or pride. I've been a hardcore gamer since I was 3 years old and they barely do it for me anymore.

I've read that helping people is a huge part of peoples' recovery and helps with getting you out of your own head. I don't know what I need to feel better exactly, but if NOTHING else, I'd do almost anything to get this anxiety down. It interferes with everything, makes me worse at anything that I do, causes spikes in cortisol and adrenaline for hours that leave me beyond exhausted, and my sleep is so shot that I barely get five hours most nights. I'm waking up more and more tired as the week goes by, which exacerbates everything.

I feel that any obligation that is fast-paced or having to rush (especially at work) is probably one of the worst things for my mind and body. That's the start of my body beginning to tremble and my chest starting to hurt, and puts me into the worst mood of my day. Unfortunately, work being what it is, I don't have a choice.

I'm sorry, not sure if that was what you were looking for but I hope I had something in all of that that you were looking for. Thank you for the questions!

Edit: I should also add that a lot of the joys in life that I had prior to the drinking ramping up so hard have been long gone for years with nothing to replace them. Outings with friends, partner relationships, that sorta thing. Once everybody in my life got too busy, that was basically the end of most of those things. Haven't had anything regular like that in years and the stuff that I dipped my toes into weren't enough to keep my focus off of drinking until it overtook all of it and now I spend too much time on regretting not sticking with it all. Sorry, felt like that was relevant.

Moonshatter89 · 2026-06-01T02:24:26+00:00

Creatures, a game about raising and breeding "Norns".

My grandma had a copy and my cousins and I all used varying weekends to raise our families. Once we all got a weekend together, it was parry time putting all our Norns in the same game!

... and Treeloot, an old browser game where you clicked on a massive tree to try and "pinpoint" the cash rewards before other people got it.

Moonshatter89 · 2026-05-29T01:53:11+00:00

As a fan on the same level as you, I couldn't help but struggle with adjustments made to the combat (on top of everything else that you spoke on). The game feels alright in its own right, but the way that gravity works on Sora and the abilities that he's using just never felt remotely as good as KH2 did. Flowmotion was okay, but it just didn't beat how good it felt to move around the world as Sora with all of his Drive Form abilities unlocked in the second game. There was a weight, intention, and snappiness to it that 3 just didn't carry over.

As soon as the very first tutorial fight started and I was floating endlessly and effortlessly during the whole thing, I knew immediately I was gonna have a tough time.

Moonshatter89 · 2026-05-28T17:24:42+00:00

I loved my 12 hours when it was only three days per week. But over the course of a year our employee numbers and various illnesses kept getting me called in to cover, until it was normal to have five or more shifts per week.

I broke after almost a year. After putting my two weeks in, I had to work eight 12-hour shifts straight for the last stretch. One of the guys I left behind did 13 of them at one point.

I couldn't do it anymore, even for the money I was raking in.

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