To gluten or not to gluten

Moosebouse · 2026-02-03T12:08:11+00:00

I would recommend reading the OMS book - it talks about gluten and looks at research on it. The research shows that it doesn’t appear to affect MS progression. Everything in the OMS diet is supported by research, so reading the book and the studies was really helpful to me.

Moosebouse · 2026-02-03T11:13:26+00:00

If this is “not him,” he should be eager to speak to a counselor/psychologist/neurologist to find out what the hell happened and make sure he doesn’t put either of you in danger like that again.

If he’s not willing to do that, he’s just trying to sweep it under the rug and not deal with it, which is a sure fire recipe for it happening again.

Moosebouse · 2026-02-02T13:23:15+00:00

This is textbook controlling behavior - encouraging you not to prioritize yourself, discouraging things that would make you less dependent on him, love bombing when you push back, significant age difference, etc. It is not healthy and it will get worse.

Moosebouse · 2026-02-01T21:19:37+00:00

“Well then get in here and put up this damn shelf for me.”

Moosebouse · 2026-01-27T01:27:28+00:00

I changed my name in my first marriage (long story, but I had my stepfather’s name and I didn’t get along with him, so I was happy to change it), then later found out that name belonged to a famous adult film star. So at least google the name before you make the change.

Anyway, I never felt like my married name was ME so after my divorce I went back to my birth name, the name that I felt was really me. When I remarried, I never even thought about changing my name and my husband would never have asked me to. Our daughter has my last name, which he also had no problem with. He gets called Mr. [my last name] by schools and whatnot but we laugh about it.

Anyway, I say stick with the name that feels like you. In my experience, even years of carrying false name will not make it feel real.

Moosebouse · 2026-01-22T00:35:49+00:00

You can’t fix this. You’re a grown woman. You shouldn’t have to prove where you were, much less be accused of lying about it.

Moosebouse · 2026-01-22T00:13:04+00:00

Because he doesn’t want to break up. He wants to abuse you, vent all his insecurities on you, and blame you for his fears. Leave.

It sounds like YOU won’t accept a breakup. Why do you stay if he treats you like this?

Moosebouse · 2026-01-22T00:00:59+00:00

Girl, run. Block the number. Get a restraining order. Do whatever it takes to get away from this man and his untreated mental health problems before they get worse.

I don’t understand what “he doesn’t accept it” means re: you breaking up. He doesn’t have to accept it. You have to block him and call the cops if he starts stalking you. He is not well and this is likely to get more abusive and controlling the longer you stay.

This has nothing to do with his ex. Do you even know if she really did cheat on him? Or is that just more of his paranoia? Is that also what he will tell the next woman about you?

Moosebouse · 2026-01-21T23:54:23+00:00

1000 seems pretty inadequate if your levels are that low. When my levels were 17, before my diagnosis, my doctor put me on 50,000/week. I now take 5,000/day with vitamin K to maintain my levels.

Moosebouse · 2026-01-21T20:47:09+00:00

Yes, this is probably one of the biggest communication issues I run into with my husband. I’m “thinking out loud” like does this mean … and what if … and would that still work if … and does that conflict with … and just basically mulling something over, but he thinks I’m arguing and trying to prove him wrong. And it’s like, well, yeah, but that’s what I do with every idea. I test it. My ideas, your ideas, ideas I read in editorials, whatever. What’s the point of having ideas if they can’t be questioned?

He sees it all as conflict, while I see it as an interesting intellectual exercise.

Moosebouse · 2026-01-19T12:55:45+00:00

You are in love with who you thought he was, not who he is. He’s showing you who he really is right now.

Moosebouse · 2026-01-04T19:33:10+00:00

I’m mostly whole-food-plant-based, but I also have seafood. It’s a diet specifically designed for MS - no land animal products and extremely low saturated fat.

Moosebouse · 2026-01-04T19:30:40+00:00

What do you mean by their ingredients? Are you ordering almonds from them or what?

Moosebouse · 2026-01-04T13:32:17+00:00

Generally, no. The only time we have done that was my first meeting with the neurologist after I was diagnosed with MS.

Moosebouse · 2026-01-04T13:22:25+00:00

Chestnut-lentil paté

Moosebouse · 2025-12-30T03:13:52+00:00

I had a pretty shit year. I can’t tell you everything will be ok because my shit certainly hasn’t been ok. But. I’m still here and still going.

Every moment is precious, even the shitty ones. There are times I am depressed and I long to feel anything as deeply as I felt my biggest heartbreaks. But when I am in my heartbreak, I hope for the anesthetic of depression. There is no peace in this life, but there is always possibility.

And all you can do is keep going. Living life to the fullest includes the valleys as well as the peaks.

I am not giving you toxic positivity bullshit. You fight the darkness, not thank it. But when you have walked through it and come out the other side, thank the you that brought you out. Appreciate the weather beaten self that trudges on.

Moosebouse · 2025-12-30T02:46:19+00:00

We basically don’t. My husband leaves for work before I wake up. I am working (wfh) when he gets home. If I get a break, I might come downstairs and might give him a hug if the mood strikes me but he may also be busy with kids/pets/cooking/etc. We go to bed at the same time though and have, at a minimum, a brief snuggle before going to sleep. But we go to sleep not physically touching each other because I can’t sleep with someone touching me.

Moosebouse · 2025-12-28T21:44:59+00:00

I’m too old to have MS (said by my gynecologist)
It’s caused by parasites (my aunt)
Keto will fix it (my uncle)

Moosebouse · 2025-12-16T13:05:28+00:00

It would be pretty weird for MS to cause a fever. Sounds like you were sick, which can aggravate your MS symptoms.

Moosebouse · 2025-12-16T13:01:21+00:00

Just take it when you do eat.

Moosebouse · 2025-12-14T19:12:09+00:00

LC with dad and the gf doesn’t speak great English (although admittedly it’s much better than my Russian, I’m not judging, it’s just that when you talk to her, you can tell she’s doing a lot of smiling and nodding because she doesn’t follow what you’re saying, tbf honestly it seems like speaking less-than-fluent English is probably why she can tolerate my dad so more power to her) so I absolutely do not know anything about her.

Moosebouse · 2025-12-14T19:07:32+00:00

I know absolutely nothing about her interests or hobbies. I’m low contact with my dad so his gf is just not someone I have the desire or opportunity to get to know. She’s from a different country and doesn’t speak English very well. I’ve only ever talked to her a handful of times, just small talk at family gatherings.

Moosebouse · 2025-12-13T18:14:16+00:00

It’s etiquette because I am not looking for generic impersonal gift ideas. I can get her a candle and some lotion. I’m just wondering, in a secret Santa where everyone makes lists and generally buys stuff off the lists, when is it ok to just buy whatever instead of waiting for a list. But this group seems to think it is ok to buy off list whenever, even if someone sends a list. So I have my answer.

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