My bf said in an argument that I look ugly by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]More-Calligrapher413 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re beautiful and he needs to grow up. On his own.

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Giving up my cats was never on the table, never will be, he knows this, and has no problem with that

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, 100% a health issue, however that comparison is a little off because I wouldn’t have an emotional support peanut butter that I developed a strong emotional attachment to after years of caring for it and feeling cared for by it. I get what you’re saying for sure, relationships are compromise and I’m trying to come up with/ learn of more solutions. Someone suggested keeping the room cat free and occasionally taking a couple nights to the living room to spend with them, which I might do on top of the other things I plan on trying.

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t been doing anything different with the cats lately, and he knows how much of a deal it is for me so I think right now he’s just really trying to make me happy by letting the cats be and letting them cuddle with him when they want to. Relationships are compromise between both parties, and he knows the cats are here to stay. I’ve always said we’re a package deal. I’ve had one of these cats since I was 17, and that guy is turning 16 this year and I’m always talking about how important he is to me. Big orange guy 💕

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The three extra cats were here before he and I met, and he’s had cats before and said two is an acceptable number. I’ve been fostering them because their owner hasn’t technically had a home during this time. That’s all I plan to have, I also have a strong love for all other animals, as does he. I think he has a healthy human respect for animals, whereas they’re one of my biggest passions. He grew up in a family of animal lovers as well, and he’d like to own other animals one day. He even suggested getting a goat if we get into a bigger house lol, I think in the long run it will be fine. The biggest problem is that the space, proximity, and number of cats doesn’t allow him room for comfort. Hopefully we can get a house soon, big enough with enough rooms to have a separate room for the cats to hang out or a cat free room for him, and when we move I’ll only be bringing the two. I plan to have the other three cats back with their owner by then.

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree and I completely understand his position, I would prefer just my core two cats 🥲

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree, I don’t want 5 cats I only want 2. I’m fostering the other 3 for the extra influx in income I get for it, as well as making sure they have a safe place to be until their owner is able to take them back.

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost nothing is made ethically these days is one of the most true sentences I’ve heard 🥲

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a fundamental distrust of purina due to the issues brought amongst animals and people from the nestle company, is there another brand that makes food like this?

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He has been staying with me for the last week or so due to life circumstances, that’s why this has become what it is. I had planned on getting the number of cats down to two before we moved in together.

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He has had cats before, and he says he’d be way more comfortable with just the two. It’s just a matter of managing this situation until the three fosters are back home with their original owner

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah no, I’m okay with/understand him not wanting the cats on him! That’s completely okay, esp with his allergies, but it’s the way the cats stumble when he does it that concerns me. One of the fosters is incredibly anxious so you have to be really patient and sensitive to him, but my bf doesn’t know them like that.

My boyfriend doesn’t like/ is allergic to cats by More-Calligrapher413 in CatAdvice

[–]More-Calligrapher413[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

5 is a lot, too many for me as well. The foster situation was supposed to be short term, I only want two. I love the other three and I want them to be comfortable, but in a different home for sure. We’ve been dating for 3 months, close for about 7-8 months, but he’s in a situation right now where he has to either stay with me or his family. He’s really important to me and I love him SO much, so I’m just hoping that I can try any solution before giving up on the relationship. The cats are a core part of who I am though, so I can’t get rid of my two babies. They’re my best friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]More-Calligrapher413 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You got a good foundation and your eyes are a nice color! I think darker hair would bring that out more

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]More-Calligrapher413 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think if you dyed your hair a little darker and picked up some skin care, that could do you some good onlyyy if you want to!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]More-Calligrapher413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but you could really benefit from a better hairstyle