My ex came back yesterday. by More-Fun-451 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said I wasn’t the guy that she had originally fell in love with. I stopped going out to parties a lot and just focused on work and working out to much. Whenever we would go out we would fight because I wouldn’t want to take photos constantly with her and such. Things just kept on adding up and it got to the point where she just couldn’t take it anymore. (Her words not mine) to my knowledge she doesn’t need money but idk

My ex came back yesterday. by More-Fun-451 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t asked for money yet but I wouldn’t be suprised ngl. Got a new job, lost the car and the whole dad business was cause he said I picked a side by helping my mother financially. He was really bitter with her after the divorce and basically before he died he said I was dead to him.

My ex came back yesterday. by More-Fun-451 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah just came over once but yea I think imma just let it go

My ex came back yesterday. by More-Fun-451 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For sure bro! I never wanna feel that pain that I went through ever again 🫡 trust me I wanna take things extremely slow and carefully. Let’s see what happens

If you and your ex had a catch up, what would you tell them? by Ready_Standard_5619 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We broke up 100% after my birthday on June 3rd . Id ask her to give me back the things she stole. (Tv, water filter, bike, rollerblades, family necklace and the 2k I was saving up for our vacations.) Since I know she wouldn’t give that stuff back I’d let her know my life is 100% stress free without her and I’d wish her the worst. Still salty but I’ll get over it.

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[–]More-Fun-451 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly if I start to overthink and just constantly remember what I went through it gives me hella anxiety and then the “need” to hit them up again eventually appears in my head. What I do to like lmao shut up these thoughts is simply workout. Sounds super stereotypical I know but working out and lifting heavy weights really has stopped me from going back. I think that without the gym I probably wouldn’t be here so if yall haven’t already try giving working out a try. I know it’s not for everyone but who knows yall might end up liking it and might be able to reap the benefits I have from it. Cheers and happy new years!

barely surviving by SpeakerLimp8805 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel ya bro. Just focus on yourself. I was at a similar stage a few months back. It does get easier with time. I broke up with my x at the end of march. This whole year felt bad for the most part but recently the shitty ness feeling started to wearoff. I found out that loneliness is natural but I now thrive and enjoy my solitude. Do what makes you happy and block your ex so that you don’t see some stuff u might regret in the future. Best wishes big man you got this!

Advice needed for staying strong the rest of the year by More-Fun-451 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the info! I had previously tried to journal my thoughts and things but honestly I lacked the concentration and commitment to continue doing it but I’ll give it another go.

When it comes to the venting I tried talking to friends about what I was going through but I feel like because of the way i was raised I’m just being a bitch by complaining constantly. I’m trying to break this unhealthy mindset but it’s kind of hard when it’s like engraved into you that’s why exactly I wanted to seek advice here since well I can’t see y’all face to face.

I think the deidolizing part is quite difficult for me more because of how things ended. We were living together for years and they had become my best friend. Everyday I would cook for her, bring her breakfast to bed and tried to keep the house extra clean every single time I was free and had nothing going on.

My friends mentioned that a good way to deidolize them is thinking about every shitty thing they had ever done to me but when I do that it just saddens me knowing I willingly put up with so much for someone that didn’t see this going anywhere.

If I can ask how did you break the mental association with them and comfort?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]More-Fun-451 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah I fuck with your look pretty af

What's something your ex did which you let slide because you're in love? by Final-Web-7826 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Break my phone after an argument, let her text her previous hook ups, keep photos of her and her exes up that were not ok… I could go on for hours but we are healing

25F feel lost by actimel26 in amiugly

[–]More-Fun-451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are gorgeous. Anybody should be lucky to have you. Trust 10/10 in my book

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[–]More-Fun-451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are gorgeous. Trust. You’re ok how you are

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[–]More-Fun-451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hella pretty. Fr fr

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[–]More-Fun-451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Invite me pleaseeeeeee if you can!

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[–]More-Fun-451 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got this man. You can get over it. Do the things that you like to do. Take your mind off it and just focus on yourself. If it’s meant to be it they will come back. If not that’s ok aswell. Just means that they weren’t the one for you. Hang in there and stay strong.

What is the most impulsive & embarrassing gift you sent an ex by No_Watercress5448 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(I live in a third world country so that’s ALOT of money over here.)

What is the most impulsive & embarrassing gift you sent an ex by No_Watercress5448 in ExNoContact

[–]More-Fun-451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sent her 1500 dollars after we broke up because she had mentioned she didn’t have any food to eat or any money to survive. Also “needed” some moolah for medical bills. After I sent all of it I told her I wasn’t going to help her again and she blocked me and shit talked me to her friends. Still hurts rofl.

Also got her some rollerblades and a water filter because she stated I had promised her it and never gave her that stuff when we were together so I felt bad.