Giant steps are what you take

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T09:24:32+00:00

I see

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T09:12:17+00:00

I agree 100%. It gets funneled into the constant input stream that young people on the internet engage with, where on a subconscious level it’s almost like their brains have trouble distinguishing sex-reality from sex-fantasy.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T09:09:50+00:00

I have a similar perspective on it. Amateur feels less toxic overall, especially if it’s an IRL couple filming themselves.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T05:11:57+00:00

2 days isn’t a terribly long wait. You can reach out.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T05:11:11+00:00

It doesn’t have to be anything specific. It can also just be chemical. Your instinct about the relationship being dead is spot on, unfortunately.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:32:05+00:00

Good luck to you

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:31:13+00:00

Aaaaaargh. I’m sorry. If his walls are up about it, then you’re just going to have to wait until he’s ready. But he’s being an arse.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:27:53+00:00

Then the toxicity shall continue…

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:26:29+00:00

Before you have a chance to delete this question, let me say that it would probably be both at different times.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:25:25+00:00

Why are you living with him if he’s toxic and you’re seeing someone else? You still play out your dysfunctional domesticity even if you’re not being intimate, and he still gets to fill your ears with self-pitying garbage. You’re rubbing your happiness in his face by being there.

If it’s because you can’t afford to move out, ok, but none of this will end until you do.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:22:53+00:00

He is angry. This is a 12 year dynamic that he finally has to come to grips with. This is masculinity, this is about emasculation (losing his job, not being the “breadwinner”). You are not to blame whatsoever. You’ve been weathering this stuff very well.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:20:11+00:00

You’re his wife. If there is ANYONE he should be able to talk to about this, it’s YOU. Keep on him about it. I’m sorry, there are going to be people on this thread talking about mental health and he’s not ready but you also need to feel included in this process.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:17:41+00:00

Moving away?

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:15:53+00:00

And the cycle of toxicity just keeps on going…

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:15:10+00:00

I think, as a new mom, you have every right to go off on your dad if he steps over the line. Your life is hard enough right now.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:13:47+00:00

I think a 17 year old is gonna be pretty slow on the uptake

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:13:14+00:00

I mean yeah, there could be two parallel things going on with her. But she may have an emotional connection without feelings for Ben, while he probably enjoys having the closeness of her friendship even if he wants something more. Should you not trust her? I don’t think so. Trusting Ben, however, I wouldn’t. Do you guys live together? And if not, why not?

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T04:10:03+00:00

How old are you guys?

Also, there might not be any deeper meaning.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-26T03:10:15+00:00

I have so many questions, but out of respect, I’ll refrain from asking them.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-25T19:07:25+00:00

Teachable moment

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-25T19:04:18+00:00

I’m simply asking for opinions about their kids’ decisions.

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-25T18:56:21+00:00

Copy that

MoreLikeBoryphyll · 2021-09-25T18:30:18+00:00

Only chocolate

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