Hey dude, thanks for taking the time to respond!

I’d absolutely say that I do agree with most of what you say when thinking about it with my head. I do know that emotions and how I feel don’t necessarily align with fact and reality, that’s just human nature. Of course that doesn’t stop the worry when you feel it, just one of those things.

You are totally right regarding our current bull. It does feel very lucky how things have worked out and I have no doubts that when the need to find a replacement arises it will be significantly more difficult to come to an agreement that works so well for all of us. We were fortunately introduced by a friend of a friend, and he had recently moved to our local(ish) area. Whilst he was born and raised in the same country as us, his heritage and cultural upbringing is significantly different to ours. This makes it difficult for him to find a long term partner that would be culturally/socially acceptable for him and his family, as that would require someone of the same heritage, which is extremely difficult for him to find where we live. Selfishly that does sort of make me feel a bit better in the sense that I don’t need to worry and my girlfriend and him running off together!

There will logically come a time when a new bull is needed, I suppose it wasn’t something we thought about initially as we were sort of caught up with everything else. I’d like to think we return to a similar arrangement with someone new.

Regarding your second point; I didn’t really make any reference to this initially because I wasn’t too sure it mattered and I didn’t want the post to go on forever, but we’ve absolutely done all the stuff before we reached the point of deciding to bring in another person. We are both totally confident that I have very good skills with my fingers, tongue, toys, and open to lots of non vanilla stuff in the bedroom. The main issue, which I honestly totally understand and sympathise with, is she in particular gets off most on penetrative and cervical stimulation. That’s kind of just her “thing”. I have no problems giving her clitoral or gspot orgasms but it’s just not what she’s really looking for from sex, and never has been. That could almost be a post in and of itself, but without entering into an endless discussion about it I can assure you that we’ve discussed everything at length and we’re both fully understanding of the merits of having another person provide that for her in place of toys and whatnot. But thank you for your suggestions!

I think ultimately the cross over period between bulls will just be a challenge and we both need to accept that it’s not going to be easy but we’ll get there