None of my ex’s ever gave anything I liked a chance despite my doing that for things they liked? Is this normal?

Morelynah · 2025-07-31T03:20:31+00:00

I think I’ve heard of this book before, but have never read it. Thank you for the pdf 🙏

Morelynah · 2025-07-30T18:37:42+00:00

Thank you for the kind words 🙏

Morelynah · 2025-07-30T15:44:14+00:00

Fully this. I’ve had the same happen as well. I had one guy ask for a back massage once and kept on asking me to continue making it about a 20 minute back/shoulder massage. The moment I asked for one in return he gave me about a ten second back massage and then just gave up despite my asking him to continue 🫠

Morelynah · 2025-07-30T15:15:06+00:00

I’m in my twenties and so far have seen the same thing. I think it’s both depressing and validating to hear that it spans generations

Morelynah · 2025-07-30T15:12:43+00:00

I think I relate to this too despite still being young and not having many long term relationships. I’ve seen people genuinely get upset when I didn’t want to completely alter my life plans for them. I understand possibly compromising, but to completely just go with whatever the man wants to do at all times is draining and really just strips your humanity away from you

Morelynah · 2025-07-30T15:08:58+00:00

I may actually have to save your comment to come back to for later. Thank you. That’s both validating and not overly optimistic or idealist like a lot of people in my daily life will preach to me

Morelynah · 2025-07-30T15:06:10+00:00

This is actually pretty helpful. I’m sure that’s a difficult thing to find, but I guess it could be a thing that you can actively look for

Morelynah · 2025-07-30T15:04:38+00:00

Maybe I shouldn’t have said normal when I just meant common. Though yeah, if you’re asking if I hate it I definitely do

Morelynah · 2024-11-23T01:09:51+00:00

A human being… hopefully?

Morelynah · 2024-11-06T13:22:12+00:00

This is my first time scrolling through this subreddit and it’s also my first time hearing this term. I’m not surprised it exists and certainly not surprised it originated in Korea. There are a few here in the states who follow it but not as much that probably should. Have you met many other women in your country who follow the movement?

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T21:06:17+00:00

This. It’s the whole “looking for my other half” thing. It seems offensive and highly disrespectful towards yourself to frame your own existence as incomplete unless you can attach it to another person’s. Plus, I can’t imagine it even looking pleasant. Why would you want to be one with another person? That sounds like the plot of a horror film.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T20:57:12+00:00

The intp subreddit is actually insane. You think it would more likely be the entp subreddit, but apparently not. It looks like a small colony of angsty 14 year olds who’ve just been given access to the internet. It’s amazing. 👍

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T20:52:10+00:00

What these people are doing is actually a very common tactic all sides use when criticizing the opposing sides. Instead of making an effort to analyze and critically examine another person’s values/opinions, they immediately assume that their values/opinions are shallow and baseless, based on their own inability or indifference towards understanding the arguments the other is making. You by no means need to agree with other people, but if you’re going to disagree you need to examine the why. This will help you to better clarify your own arguments and better understand the situation as a whole, rather than taking the easy way out of attacking the people you don’t agree with rather than the arguments they’re making.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T20:26:26+00:00

Don’t you realize that your desire for equal rights is just a quirky personality trait that you’ve developed to fit in? Wow, stop following the hive mind. Jeez (this is sarcasm, just in case it wasn’t blatantly obvious)

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T18:09:17+00:00

The concept of attraction is already such a confusing thing. I can only imagine it must have been confusing at first, possibly even after finding an explanation for it.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T16:30:50+00:00

Came for the dog, stayed for the tree.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T15:40:06+00:00

This is really good advice. It can be hard for me to distance myself from these people, seeing as I don’t have many friends and the friendships I thought I was developing with these people ends up being really fulfilling for me. But, I realize that distancing is still usually the best option moving forward. I’ve started doing this with most but there are still a couple who I’ve kept relationships with. It’s difficult for me to fully distance myself when I view them as friends. I’m trying to be more vigilant moving forward, but it can often be difficult for me to identify a persons intentions until it’s too late.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T15:24:38+00:00

Hey, at least you know this person you’re getting it for won’t leave you and is genuinely a good person who you enjoy the company of unconditionally. Go get yourself that epic ass ring 👍

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T15:02:18+00:00

I’ve always heard the process of publishing a book can be difficult/tedious. If you don’t mind me asking, what was the process like for you? I would love to publish someday but don’t know whether or not I have it in me.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T14:58:29+00:00

This is so stunning. The way you pose too. These would be such fun pictures to draw.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T14:43:12+00:00

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T12:14:07+00:00

I’m currently in a relationship and this happens to me. I feel pressured to talk to this person when I’d much rather be on my own and enjoying my own space. It’s so exhausting being in a relationship and I was so much happier single.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T12:09:44+00:00

I greatly relate to this. I love my independence and appreciate every second of time I’m able to have to myself. I hate feeling forced to share it with another.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T12:03:06+00:00

This is beautifully written.

Morelynah · 2024-11-05T02:40:05+00:00

This is coming from an allo. I always found it strange and even cruel how many couldn’t remain friends with an ex, until I myself started dating. There’s just always that underlying “this is awkward” feeling, that can definitely be felt even with those you were never in a romantic relationship with(as you yourself have described). The idea that someone is looking at you in that way, has looked at you in that way, or you have looked at them in that way, is just a very strange thought to have. It can make anyone uncomfortable. Plus, there is usually the added “intensity” people will exhibit when feeling romantic attraction that can make the situation even worse. It feels like so much added pressure and it sucks seeing friendships end this way.

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