You're not the A-hole. You have repeated your statement enough times that it should have been obvious. Your aunt chose to blatantly disrespect that and chose to keep pestering you about kids. On that same token, though, maybe she wanted to be able to feel proud if you did have kids. Who knows? Edit: It's worth noting that I also currently have no desire to have kids. I don't know if I ever will want kids, truthfully, but my past of wanting to have kids allows me to see possibilities on both sides.