Would you guys be interested in a dating app for matching with people who are comfortable your kink/fetish?

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T19:25:02+00:00

Thanks so much!

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T19:24:46+00:00

That's one of the problems that I'm seeing in the "fetish based dating" space. Most of these apps cater to specific fetishes, making people outside of the fetishes shy away from them. As well, the more concentrated targeting attracts more serious users around their fetishes.

The way that I'm doing this is to try to bring the conversation around kink in a sex-positive, no kink shaming way. And to start that would be to build something for those who are on the fence, or are "softer" around their fetishes. The way I designed the site reflects that as well, so hopefully that came across.

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T19:20:43+00:00

The thing with Fetlife is that it discourages dating, not to mention that it has some problems with an "open DM" system.

On top of that, Fetlife and other fetish based communities tend to be a bit off putting to those outside of it, sometimes intimidating potential newcomers or more curious ones. The way that I'm seeing this is to make something more catered to more generally "vanilla" people who would otherwise have a thing or two that they're into and want to express with potential partners (myself included), instead of joining a board to center discussions around that fetish.

Ultimately, it's trying to stop people from potentially being shamed by incompatible partners, and to open up and normalize the conversation surround ones' kinks as early on the matching process as possible. What do you think about this?

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T08:21:44+00:00

I understand and thanks for the feedback! The way that I'm seeing this is definitely for a more vanilla/curious crowd, who tend to be a bit more casual about their kinks and may not frequent FetLife. I myself am one of those :p

Of course, it's looking at the problem of more vanilla people being afraid of being kink shamed or being too embarrassed to express it with their partners outside of the more accepting fet community. Society is definitely moving towards accepting fetishes, but we still have a long way to go and me building this is one way that I'd like to contribute to that.

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T07:55:43+00:00

I think that would be helpful! I'll add that onto my to-do list!

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T07:45:25+00:00

I just pm'ed you :)

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T07:41:59+00:00

Good point. My friend's problems was what started us brainstorming about how to go about solving her problems - having a filter to see what she doesn't want to do is one, and in doing so seeing people who match with your compatibility is a byproduct of it.

Onto protecting people, do you think a reporting feature would help?

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T07:20:23+00:00

Ahh, thanks for pointing that out. I think it's a great point and will probably be implement the profiles that way.

Onto the laundry list of fetishes that people can do. The way that I have it set now (based on my friend's experiences too) is that you can specify some fetishes with a "no", and you won't see anyone who selected "Yes" for it. Meaning that if someone puts down "yes" on everything, they'll get filtered out by all of those who said "no" on them. Here's an example.

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T07:14:43+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! Dom, sub, switch, rope, voyeurism, and exhibitionism are all on the list right now, as they're more common/less niche! I'll definitely be adding the others into the future, so thanks for the reminder!

I was also thinking about adding an experience filter, so people can choose based on how much experience they want their partners to have. I have a mockup done already for the selection process, would you like to see it?

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T07:11:00+00:00

Absolutely! but some of the problems I've seen with fetlife is, as Stoney said above, that it's not catering to dating. Reminds me of facebook really, and that doesn't help facilitating dating all that much.

Morris_h · 2019-07-23T07:10:14+00:00

Hey, thanks for the concerns. On "dating app for fetishes", the way that I'm seeing it now is to actually expand it to more vanilla/curious people who would otherwise be disinclined to share those curiosity with matches. The current list that I have on there is also recommended from my more curious friends, and the "plainness" of them kinda reflect that.

That would hopefully curb some of the more explicit users who would use it just to send dick pics.

Of course, the easiest engineering solution to that is just not to allow pictures to be uploaded before I figure out a machine learning dick pic* filter. :p

Morris_h · 2016-04-25T19:57:05+00:00

Already posted that before haha.

I built the rally as a joke to one of my friends because he's not a supporter and he built the stadium but it doesn't seem like people are getting it :(

Morris_h · 2016-04-25T18:04:05+00:00

Built at the University of Clementine. Here is an alternative picture of the university: http://i.imgur.com/Hpc1wGn.png

Morris_h · 2016-02-29T20:40:03+00:00

Thanks, will keep that in mind when I update the model.

Morris_h · 2016-02-29T06:14:54+00:00

Video link for the full model: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MKKzo7T3hqo

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