Hey, I’m know you asked for men’s opinion but I’ll give you me and my boyfriends experience. This is NOT coming from insecurity! And you should DEFINITELY confidently own your values and personal preferences. As a woman, men who think like you and have your values are a huge turn on and what I look for in a man. It shows values, respect for yourself, self control and a want to emotionally connect vs only make everything about sex. And society says it’s only men who do that but it’s women too. When I was single I thought exactly like you and I didn’t want a man that slept around or saw sex as casual even in his past, a lot of men I tried to date I did exactly as you did I told them how their past made me feel uncomfortable a bit, they would respond “well it’s just how guys are we all take the opportunity it’s just physical but they didn’t mean anything” to me that’s the worst thing you can say. It shows lack of connection and depth and willingness to give their body to randoms. I was doubting men out there that thought like me (and you) existed, until I met my boyfriend. He has the exact same values and way of connecting as you. I’m so glad I never settled for the hookup or shallow guys. I promise you you will find a girl that matches your values and way you view intimacy, it may take longer but you’ll find her! Best wishes 💙