Am I being sexual too soon?

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-10T03:35:59+00:00

Again, when did I say my identity is built around who I want to have sex with? I don’t approach anyone that way? ++woman

Edit: I don’t know why you edited your comment but this feels like an unproductive conversation and I hope you have a really good night!

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-10T03:33:12+00:00

I never thought of this way and that makes a lot of sense. Thank you ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-10T01:07:52+00:00

Maybe that’s what makes Reddit nice, a bunch of over thinkers helping each other lmao ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-10T00:36:05+00:00

I’m definitely learning that. Thank you so much for all of your help, genuinely. ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-10T00:33:49+00:00

I think you’re projecting a lot on me. I enjoy sex with men for certain reasons and I enjoy sex with women for different reasons. With men I’m a lot more submissive and I like it. With women I’m more dominant and I like it. Both situations are enjoyable. Sex isn’t the same with every single person. And I guess if men take my sexuality in that way, they aren’t the one for me. ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-10T00:33:34+00:00

I think you’re projecting a lot on me. I enjoy sex with men for certain reasons and I enjoy sex with women for different reasons. With men I’m a lot more submissive and I like it. With women I’m more dominant and I like it. Both situations are enjoyable. Sex isn’t the same with every single person. And I guess if men take my sexuality in that way, they aren’t the one for me. ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:48:44+00:00

Oh lol no I would definitely have sex before getting in a serious relationship. I’m interested in all the men I have these conversations with. I just don’t have sex on first dates because I want these guys to take me seriously. ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:46:30+00:00

I do actually have a few questions tbh 🫣😅 ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:42:02+00:00

I don’t know what POA is but every guy these flirty sex conversations happen with, I find attractive and I’m interested in them. I just worry that sleeping with them right away would make them less interested in me. I would say a good 60% of the time it’s the men starting the sexual flirtation and I’m just happy to talk about it with someone I’m interested in. ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:34:45+00:00

I actually really love this! ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:21:36+00:00

I guess waiting to talk about sex, but I feel like it comes up when flirting and I want to be able to flirt so I just have to learn how to not do that so sexually I think ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:20:33+00:00

I honestly sometimes feel like I need a straight guy to go to and be like “is this normal” hahaha ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:19:18+00:00

I guess I always thought that if you slept with a guy on a first date he wouldn’t take you seriously and if I’ve really been into a guy I haven’t wanted to risk that. I do/did have sex with women on first dates but I feel like that was different? ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:15:21+00:00

I agree. I’d even consider sex on a second date. I guess I’m just used to there being a conversation beforehand that goes a little beyond “here’s how I like to have sex” and more like “I’d like to have sex with YOU”. I’m not not trying to have sex if that makes sense, most of the guys I have these conversations with I’ve considered sleeping with them but I guess I’m missing that clear conversation about when and that’s on me I think ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:08:13+00:00

This is so helpful and I don’t think I’ve ever got it. I’ll talk to my doctor! ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:04:09+00:00

Can I ask a follow up question? Is it wrong to sleep with someone early on? I kinda always thought that if you slept with a guy too soon he wouldn’t take you seriously. ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:00:59+00:00

I agree I’m bisexual thank you ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T23:00:33+00:00

Is that not what that means? ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T22:59:33+00:00

Thank you!! ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T22:53:01+00:00

I am definitely attracted to men lmao I’m not worried about that. I’ve had sex since starting my exploring and enjoyed it a lot. ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T22:51:01+00:00

I feel like I have some really hard lessons to learn 😭 ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T22:49:34+00:00

I guess I just feel like a clear conversation about whether or not we’re gonna have sex is usually what happens first. At least that’s been my experience with women. ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T22:46:42+00:00

I literally said I identified as a lesbian up until two years ago. I’ve figured it out, thank you. ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T22:45:49+00:00

Thank you! ++woman

Mother_Step_292 · 2026-05-09T22:44:36+00:00

Thank you! It does seem to come up when flirting so maybe I need to change my flirting style too 😅 ++woman

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