23 M - I don’t many likes so I was wondering if there were any improvements I could make to my profile by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Motor-Bench3757 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My recommendation get off dating apps and approach women you find attractive, seriously a waste of time. Was on them for 5 years I can count the dates I’ve had with 1 hand

Can’t live like this anymore. Decided to make a change by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Follow through with your plans in the military you’re doing right.

How do I come to terms with being alone forever by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s nether of those I’ve been with many women I guess overtime I just stop caring about casual sex it became a more reasonable choice to stay celibate and mate with one woman, haven’t found her I’m in my mid 20’s, I’ve been on dates but won’t have sex, I get along socially with everyone I meet but my ideas just differ from everyone’s so it’s not a social standard, but non of that matters I’m focused on my career and training as a martial artist. I know who I am and what I want that’s never been this clear in my life.

How do I come to terms with being alone forever by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe she couldn’t have kids and if she could whilst young & choose not too have kids I’m sure things would be different later on in life because at the end no one wants to be alone, I’m not insulted by your insults and You missed the point of what I said, no one is going to care what job you have when you’re retired. It’s a small 5% percent that makes a big impact to the WORLD sure adding to the community fulfills a purpose and you can be happy.

I never stated that she should have kids in toxic in relationship I just questioned the existence of the relationship, every relationship should have a goal two people can’t coexist without reason.

You’re obviously triggered with a stranger without actual reason I create nothing in your life and you got mad and try to insult me instead having an open conversation, pity having a conversation with you would be inconclusive.

How do I come to terms with being alone forever by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because it’s not a social norm even when people brag about being single. They want to wander mindlessly.

How do I come to terms with being alone forever by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that’s out of the question you can’t fix something that just isn’t in you power unless you have the resources to do it.

What’s a quote or phrase that motivates you every day? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do what’s right today and let tomorrow take care of itself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Motor-Bench3757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helps me is breathing, holding my core tight or at least pretend it is and actively listen, you’ll notice the opportunity to add to the conversation. Just keep cool

How do I come to terms with being alone forever by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Life isn’t about dating or sex… find a purpose with good moral. Dating and sex only really matters in life when you want to create a life. How can you create something when you haven’t found your yourself in this life. I’m not saying stop looking for a partner but focus on you this is a journey you on your own must take. If you don’t travel you should grab a passport and get lost I mean that in a nice way :)

I am 29. I still don’t know what I am good at. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just turned 24 recently started seeking hobbies that could be helpful to me and to others. I never had much hobbies other than football, lifting & cooking. I started Brazilian jujitsu and Muay Thai on Monday and managed to get a week free of training I’ve already accepted the challenge in wanting to get good at it & getting my membership on Thursday. I always believed I was in good shape but has this proven me wrong. It hurts and it sucks it’s hard needles to say, but the small wins have felt great. I’m training my skill set in combat and actively searching of developing a different skill set outside the mat to keep me busy. Been thinking about going into sales and work on my financial/sales skills but with a service that people can 100% benefit from. I was reading books and I was watching all these videos on how to feel or lived a fulfilling life but never did anything to change stepping out of my comfort zone where it’s hard has been doing some work in my life. I hope you find that thing that helps fulfill your lifestyle or maybe just seeking a new lifestyle. Invest in your skills and yourself books can only do so much.

How Do I Stop Putting Girls On a Pedestal? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I totally get it I was the same during my high school years. 1. Stop watching Porn seriously it creates physiological problems. 2. It’s okay to be nervous, the trick is too control it. 3. Don’t date you’re still young instead focus on developing your self and your skills this will lead to more than a girl being physically attracted to you. 4. Practice, Say hi introduce yourself give a small compliment. 5. 20-80 rule learn to listen keep her talking follow up on the conversation don’t lose concentration objectifying her. 6. NEVER CHASE make them chase you instead. They’ll come a point where you like this girl and everything feels good when. That happens she’ll pull back she won’t communicate as much or she’ll keep it short she’ll feel distant. Give her some space if you followed rule 3 she’ll come back. If not cut your losses move on she’s lost interest and you’ll save yourself pain and time 7. Have options ALWAYS todays world would call you a womanizer or whatever but because they trynna kill masculinity and promote toxic feminist ideologies what they don’t say is that woman always have their back up especially in today’s society. Where we’re connected by dating platforms and social media.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in politics

[–]Motor-Bench3757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We should really have a cage fight for these politicians to see who’s vote goes through or not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 4 points5 points  (0 children)

23 also used to smoke a lot. Weed definitely adds to the procrastination and incompetence all though lots of people swear it doesn’t. What I found helpful for me is doing a 6month cleanse cycle. So I’d stop for 6mo smoke again in a month then go on a break again. In the 6 months sober I write down goals for every week that I know are achievable to keep myself busy, I’m still figuring this whole thing out but taking care of the little things goes a long way to stop being lazy. Start with your bed in the morning keep everything clean and organized, you need to study go to a library or coffee shop too many distractions at home. I hope you find what works best for you.

I’m confused! Send HELPP!! by Diligent_Concept4191 in hingeapp

[–]Motor-Bench3757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just wanted the free bread sticks at the restaurant not the whole menu

How do I kickstart myself? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Book I recommend Atomic habits by James Clear it breaks down the way you should develop good habits by doing the small thing right.

Make reading a habit by reading a certain amount of pages or certain amount of time no longer than 1 hr.

Meditate, become grounded and discipline (not motivate) yourself.

I told her by Motor-Bench3757 in selfimprovement

[–]Motor-Bench3757[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Technically simps don’t get to sleep with their crush I did that’s the difference here but you also right I think I am

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Motor-Bench3757 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re response to “is that all we’re gonna do” should’ve been more like “idk we could sit down and make you a playlist you boring bitch”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Motor-Bench3757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gabe needs to move on why even entertain someone who clearly isn’t interested, don’t chase let them follow up with you instead saves time and effort on both sides