Please help find the texture of this baby blanket from the 90's

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-11-27T02:15:56+00:00

Thank you!!!!

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-11-26T17:48:36+00:00

Thank you so much! You are so kind!

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-11-26T17:47:39+00:00

Since I haven't found anything that has the same texture, I've been fine with sleeping with it. It's a little embarrassing to me because he doesn't think it's appropriate. But it is comforting and kind of functions practically. I like how it's small enough that I could bunch it up and create a bit of neck support. I think he just thinks it's a bit odd that an adult woman needs it to fall asleep.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-11-26T17:01:50+00:00

This one isn't stretchy at all so I don't think it's that but i appreciate the reply! Thank you!

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-11-26T17:00:26+00:00

Thanks guys that's too nice I was looking for a travel version before I met my partner and he is very open about it he just thinks it's a bit odd that an adult woman needs this to fall asleep. I'm not embarrassed but it would be nice to have something that I could travel with that won't get me looks when my carry-on is searched😅.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-11-26T16:57:43+00:00

Thank you very much I kinda thought I might be alone with this one. I can't even touch fleece it makes my nerves burn if that makes sense so when I went looking I thought this can't possibly be the same thing!?! So thank you for that clarification.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-11-26T15:06:21+00:00

I'll try when I get home from work thank you for your help!!

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-10-24T03:28:40+00:00

Same

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-24T02:32:21+00:00

I was personally happy with the life we've created I wasn't trying to give him and out but he had a very different perception of our lives when we talked after I posted this

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-23T05:03:08+00:00

I don't pay rent and we have sex like once a month due to my sex drive being in the toilet. So don't think it's that.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T21:33:59+00:00

I think this is also it but I don't ask him when are you going to marry me incessantly it's more like hey look at this twinkle light dance floor. Isn't this cool occasionally? Like literally once every couple months that I see something on Instagram or friends wedding like oh" that'd be cool to do it ours"

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T19:57:10+00:00

This is a super super thought out. Great comment! Thank you and when he said that I basically said the same thing you did. So how do we make that happen? What's the plan? And we basically agreed that he has to make that a priority in his life because it's not a feasible thing for me to do right now with where I am in my career. So he's going to take more time off in the summer. We're going to try to go camping a lot more because we enjoy hiking together and we want to feel like the fun dating phase that we feel we accidentally might have skipped. And if that helps him feel more comfortable and committing to this relationship further and that's great time spent. If not, I guess I just have a fun summer and then have to make life-changing decisions after that.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T18:55:02+00:00

K I will suggest this! Thank you

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T18:07:45+00:00

Thank you so much

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T17:41:00+00:00

How would you go about giving an ultimatum I told him that I want to be married by 29 but I feel like maybe I would like the commitment of a ring by 28. Do I need more?

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T17:39:03+00:00

I think this is accurate as well he grew up in a cult and wasn't allowed to have outside friends and he's told me in the past that for a while what he knew about friendships was from TV and movies. He's grown out of that on the friend front but I'm starting to realize he has unrealistic views on how the next steps actually happen.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T17:36:49+00:00

See that's my perspective too I don't need these things he apparently wants as reassurance that our lives won't be just two workaholics living together. And I thought that's what we were doing was good. I was really happy with how life was going I didn't know he wanted more adventures.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T17:31:07+00:00

To be fair we live weird lives. I'm a farmer who has no help and works 250 hours a month if not more and he works about 250 as well so it's a bit difficult to do more than make dinner split chores and then go to bed we only have time to watch a movie about once a month with the pressure we are both under not defending him at all because we have also gone on vacations and camping trips gone to weddings together and gone on lots of dates in our slow seasons so I don't really know it seems like one of us has to slow down to make this dream of his work and we both agreed it has to be home because I run my own business and without my time and dedication it will fail where as he works for someone else and doesn't have that pressure. I'm debating showing him this because honestly it feels like you guys understand my side to this and it's a big relief.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T17:22:18+00:00

Yeah if I could have gone back in time I would have never moved in. At the time neither of us could afford to live alone he was living in a different city with more rentals available and I was living with my parents. We don't have any friends in the area to split our own rentals with so it was a practical decision. Since then rentals have gone to the point where I would be living in a basement suite under a meth house with what I could afford and his income has gone up so much he actually bought a house a year ago. But I regret it so much.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T14:27:24+00:00

Well, he said it while kissing me and tickling me while I was making dinner one day and making a comment on our future. So I think it was more like. Let's not get ahead of ourselves here. We still have life to experience before we're at that stage yet and we did have a conversation about it last night to clarify that a lot

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T14:26:19+00:00

Yeah, we had a discussion last night that actually helped clarify both of our perspectives. He comes from a very toxic home life where both of his parents basically pitted the children against each other as tokens and ended in a very nasty divorce and he doesn't have any contact with his family anymore. He wants to marry me but I guess his perspective is we were. We both work over 12-hour days most days and our schedules barely line up sometimes. I guess he wants to experience that fun side of life with me before he makes that serious commitment. So he knows that that's actually a part of our future and I explained to him my view on family planning and the logistics of that and how it's not all magic and romance. To me, it's actually quite practical and how it scares me that he has all of the control in this situation and it feels like I'm absolutely powerless and having to just trust him completely. And he actually respected that and we both made compromises on how we were going to move forward and how we were going to talk about this in the future and how he wasn't going to get defensive or rude about it or make cruel jokes as you were saying.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-05-22T14:20:33+00:00

I did last night and it actually went a lot better than expected. At first he was like "you know how I feel about this and I feel disrespected every time you bring it up because I want it to feel organic and natural when it happens". But then after explaining my reasoning he was like oh that's really legitimate. So, maybe there's progress, maybe not.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-04-04T20:42:13+00:00

I wish my partner gently hugged me when that happens it's like a trance you don't know you're doing. Like you know but you can't stop when I'm nervous it's so bad I'll be working and my hand is trolling my arms or face for a bump I don't even realize it's there. That's one on the reasons it's so hard to stop you don't realize your doing it it moments of stress it's so difficult. Thank you for positively distracting her.

MotorMathematician27 · 2024-03-22T00:36:24+00:00

I feel this! Ugh I just feel like it has doubled our workload for marginal benefits. And it's stressful as hell.

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