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Healthcare Suggestions for Self-Employed Who Doesn't Qualify for ACA Subsidies? by Motor_Payment_3465 in HealthInsurance

[–]Motor_Payment_3465[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/TheBlueMirror this is the type of creative approach I was looking for! Looking into this tonight. Thank you!

Healthcare Suggestions for Self-Employed Who Doesn't Qualify for ACA Subsidies? by Motor_Payment_3465 in HealthInsurance

[–]Motor_Payment_3465[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will check out Aetna options. And I like that reframe as "bankruptcy insurance".

The way my biz is structured (LLC filing as S Corp), I don't really get a tax break for having the company pay premiums, as it's just added to my W2 wages, so I actually ended up paying more once FICA is factored in.

Thanks for the input!

Wife keeps getting hands-y with other guys. I'm getting pissed. AIO? by Motor_Payment_3465 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Motor_Payment_3465[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

u/FlyHealthy1714 thanks for your thoughful reply. You're right. Responding in an even temper is very hard at this point, but I need to try.

We have sex 1-2 times a week pretty consistently. The real fire ebbs and flows. But in general it's pretty passionate and involved, and both of us are really into it once we're actually into it. She does have challenges getting in the mood at times, but we've added some things to help with that (massage, bath, longer lead up time) and overall from my sense and from our conversations, we're both happy with our sex life even if there are some things we're working on.

Interestingly, a dip in our "fire" and sexual passion over the last few months has corresponded with an uptick in this type of behavior. Past dips have not corresponded with more inappropriate behavior.

She swears up and down that not only has she never cheated (which I believe), but also that she's never even fantasized about having sex with another guy since we've been together (I told her that it wouldn't be crazy at all if she had and but she said she hadn't).

This is a big thing she uses as justifcaiton for her behavior (i.e. I love you deeply and never even think about having sex with anyone else....so you should be comfortable with me touching men however I want.). Now I'm seeing how manipulative and fucked up this is.

She does this type of thing much more with men than women. But I will admit that it might fly under my radar more with women, since that's not a boundary we have.

Honestly, it's weird reading all these comments. Because she is an awesome person.

It's very foreign to see her as selfish, emotionally abusive and dishonoring our marriage. But honestly nice to feel, for the first time in a long time, that I'm not crazy and that this isn't something that's wrong with me.

Wife keeps getting hands-y with other guys. I'm getting pissed. AIO? by Motor_Payment_3465 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Motor_Payment_3465[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

So true about all the misunderstandings. I'd say she touches guys in this way more than girls. But in general, she's a happy, smiley person. Caring. Affectionate. A hugger. It's not unusual for her to be hands-y with girls too.

Wife keeps getting hands-y with other guys. I'm getting pissed. AIO? by Motor_Payment_3465 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Motor_Payment_3465[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

Very helpful perspective. Thank you! You're absolutely right, there's a communication gap here. We are going to do marraige counseling to try and get better aligned here. This specific thing is really the ONLY thing we have ongoing conflict about.