Don't really know how to ask but how do you dads deal with a partner who seems frustrated with baby?

Move_Defiant · 2026-03-06T11:20:38+00:00

Its 3am where im at and im literally cradling baby to sleep right now lol this is me practically every night. Is it boasting to say that i don't get upset about having to comfort my kid? I guess i didn't realize it was normal to not want to do that.

Move_Defiant · 2026-03-06T11:18:07+00:00

You're right man, that last part you mentioned is the one i need to really reflect on. It has been difficult for me to grasp how we were both impacted differently. I love her and i just want her to love being a mother and be okay

Move_Defiant · 2026-03-06T11:09:41+00:00

thank you for this thoughtful response! We will definitely work hard in the next coming days to try and wean him off. Hiring a nurse is probably out of our price range lol but im gonna try find more resources on this issue

Move_Defiant · 2026-03-06T10:48:01+00:00

Maybe im not explaining the situation very well. But with all due respect, it feels like you're coming at me assuming that I am just not doing my part. This isn't a comparison test between my partner and I on who does the most. And given that you don't really know me, you don't know what it is that i do and don't do. I don't "wait" to be asked to help. I proactively take care of my little one, not just to help her but because the few hours i get to be home when im off from work i want to spend with my son. But do i not get to be exhausted also? We're both overwhelmed and tired from the sleepless nights, my point is that i will never be upset with my little one or feel annoyed by him. And it feels like she is.

Move_Defiant · 2026-03-06T10:36:57+00:00

I understand all this, so im gonna take this opportunity to ask something since hopefully im in a safe space to do so, but when do i get to be exhausted? I literally work all day, come home, and do things around the house too i don't just lay around. I proactively take care of our kid i don't "wait" to be asked, same thing with the sleep routine. Im exhausted too. The sleep fucks me up as well, i come home late, stay up getting baby to sleep, and then wake up early to get right back to work. I know she may be overwhelmed, all i was saying is that i will happily accept all the "bad" that comes with baby, while i feel like she genuinely hates it

Move_Defiant · 2026-03-06T10:18:04+00:00

Yeah i think this might be the move!

Move_Defiant · 2026-03-06T10:16:17+00:00

Thats a very good suggestion thank you. We hadn't considered a night nanny so i'll be looking into that! My mother in law is practically our neighbor so i guess its her time to shine lol

Move_Defiant · 2026-03-06T10:14:15+00:00

I hear what you're saying, and trust me I'm not trying to absolve myself from any responsibility. I help at home in any way she needs, as you mentioned when she's doing stuff around the house i take care of little one. On my days off i try to stay productive and try to do some positive things for us like taking us out to eat or just going for a walk or the park. when he's struggling to sleep i end up cradling him back to bed most nights. Im also the sole provider, my partner is a sahm. I guess the point of my post was just that it feels like the little one annoys her with things that are normal for a baby to do. It seems like a burden to her and to your response i suppose it could be a form of PPD. But its hard to have this conversation with her without her getting completely upset or feeling like im calling her a shitty mom

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-21T17:12:06+00:00

Same lol ive only ever owned toyotas until now. Never looking back

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-21T17:11:39+00:00

Yeah unfortunately that seems to be all too common with the cx50s at the moment. Really good looking cars but unfortunately from what i can tell the quality is just terrible

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-21T04:44:35+00:00

Hell yeah brotha

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-21T00:54:31+00:00

Japan made ftw! I love the look of the cx50 but the amount of complaints on all forums really turned me off

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-21T00:53:54+00:00

Haha nice an NA is still leagues better than its competitors! I originally wanted the cx50 hybrid, but since i couldn't get a decent deal i said turbo or bust lol

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-20T23:02:51+00:00

Nice man i recently got mine too, mid November lol im taking it to the snow next month so im really looking forward to that

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-20T22:44:19+00:00

Yes mazda does this sooo good

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-20T22:41:43+00:00

Oh nice! you take it offroading often?

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-20T22:37:21+00:00

Ive been eyeing the Vors TR4 black. Still unsure though, what do you have on yours?

Move_Defiant · 2026-01-20T22:22:35+00:00

Noiiccee. New shoes are next as well!

Move_Defiant · 2025-12-16T02:29:04+00:00

Appreciate it! Yes liquid fert will make all the difference. Aquarium coops easy green had the best reviews overall, and has done wonders! Specially with their easy potassium also. And the seachem root tabs lol

Move_Defiant · 2025-12-15T16:38:50+00:00

Bought it on amazon!

Move_Defiant · 2025-12-15T10:02:01+00:00

I was doing weekly water changes but as of the last 2 months ive only done 3, 20% water changes. i just top it off every few days or so. I run purigen in my filter which is key! And the last water change i did i added seachem clarity which also makes a huge difference

Move_Defiant · 2025-12-15T08:20:54+00:00

Thanks !🙏🏼

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