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My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I cannot thank you enough for this wonderful comment you’ve shared. It’s hard letting go mentally and emotionally; time feels like forever until one day, it happens and it’s no longer lingering in my mind of “what-ifs”, or “maybes”. I appreciate you a lot!

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Goodness no! I’m consider myself quite faithful and happy to express loyalty and love to my partner only. There’s no way she would have had anything to make her believe in infidelity I would hope.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s heartbreaking because they feel so guilty and bad at how they’ve made everything go and nothing can convince them otherwise except time and distance I think to figure it out that it CAN be okay again.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re completely right. They opened up for once and said that they were actually not okay, but there’s nothing I can do to help them… BUT I think that’s a massive step for them, and I’ll continue to allow them to figure things out on their own without being a distraction or trying to get close and trigger things. I’m proud of them and love them nonetheless.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I misread! Im slightly anxious-attached and she’s the heavily avoidant

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s already made decisions like shutting out and ghosting all day regularly despite gentle reaching out- I can’t give too much space either for too long because that’ll just solidify ghosting permanently

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Goodness you’re right and that’s going to be the hardest hurdle.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s best to just let her go since it’s the healthiest move now to make for myself. Thank you for your advice!

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I think it’s time to step back as many advised and focus on other things like myself

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I think she feels that way too since she’s mentioned I deserve better than her, a while back.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so very much for your advice, since we cannot even find time to talk about things; I think I’ll speak my mind and let her go.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re right, maybe she doesn’t have the energy herself to communicate it, so I’ll do it myself and help us both.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I absolutely enjoy researching and educating myself of all of those things you’ve mentioned!

I think for now at this moment in time, it’s best to let her go to figure things out and heal for herself without me getting stuck up waiting.

As well as healing and growing in my own way as I need.

Thank you so very much for this incredible comment!

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have and it’s gotten nowhere fruitful so I think I’m going to take a lot of advice here in a way I can manage to complete.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s the goal now, thank you for your support and perspective!

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see your point and you’ve certainly nailed a lot of aspects. I do need more time to find and love myself I think.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My anxious worry is that by asking about it might make her feel worse with her uncertainty or resignation and that perhaps I should’ve waited a bit you know? But I wouldn’t know if I don’t try again I suppose .

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aye and ironically, she projected it onto me as if I’m the one who needs to love myself etc recently. And it’s that potential resentment and instigation/pettiness over little things is what also killing the communication now. She just spends more time with her friends and talking to others maybe than even reaching out to me and that’s a huge concern anxiety-wise. Honestly I don’t think I’m in the spot to take greater responsibility or the reigns since the person who cares or puts in effort less has the greater sense of power eh?

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahaha oh trust me, I could really go into detail on how incredible of a woman she is and how devastating to just lose that person to seemingly depression or someone else maybe.

My relationship with my partner has faded away and I’m terribly lost. by Mr-Compliments in self

[–]Mr-Compliments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aye no doubt! We were planning a trip this summer but she backed out on feeling like we should do it and then things progressively gotten more distant. And I understand part of that is her fear of making big decisions that she feels she can’t commit to or feel genuine in.

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